Bought a house without my partner of 7 months and she has left me. Advice?

Kynthia

Pollycat wrote: »

Not exactly 'without discussion'.

From the original post:


So she says 'you buying a house in Didcot is not what I want so I'm not even going to entertain the idea, but now you've gone ahead and done it, I'm going to dump you' is not exactly an adult way to behave.

I wouldn't say mentioning he'd already been to view a place discussing it. Then just a few days later, while she was still upset and processing how he'd decided not to live together in 6 months anymore, he committed to buying.

Its not very adult to be in a relationship, let your partner think you are working towards the same goal, then suddenly make a decision on your own that means you wont be able to live together for years. The proper way would have been to discuss his possible decision to buy alone before he viewed a place. Even then that may have been a deal breaker for her and that's her right, as she doesn't have to stay in a relationship if she doesn't think it has a future.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

rach_k wrote: »

Anyway, if she's working 12 hour days and you can't see why she hasn't visited you after work more often, perhaps it's not meant to be after all. It sounds like you have different expectations from life so maybe it's for the best.

The only way my OH would see me after a 60 hour week plus about 2.5 hours commuting a day would be if he came and found me collapsed on our sofa. Even then, he still wouldn't get much out of it, as I'd be incapable of coherent speech even if I were still awake after five minutes of walking through the door. And we live together.

peachyprice

Kynthia wrote: »

I wouldn't say mentioning he'd already been to view a place discussing it. Then just a few days later, while she was still upset and processing how he'd decided not to live together in 6 months anymore, he committed to buying.

Its not very adult to be in a relationship, let your partner think you are working towards the same goal, then suddenly make a decision on your own that means you wont be able to live together for years. The proper way would have been to discuss his possible decision to buy alone before he viewed a place. Even then that may have been a deal breaker for her and that's her right, as she doesn't have to stay in a relationship if she doesn't think it has a future.

Jesus, they'd only been together 7 months, hardly a long-term committed relationship.

BAFE

How come you're not married? That's the real sign of commitment.

Pollycat

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