Renting to a boyfriend?

moneysavinmonkey

LandyAndy wrote: »

Supporting people in bad decisions isn't helping them.

That's fine - it is your opinion they are making a wrong decision, I have no problem with that... perhaps you should offer some useful advice or give them an alternative suggestion rather than just making snide comments?

If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!

Cactusgirl

Libra1975 wrote: »

why is being sensible and sorting things out properly making a bad decision???

exactly what I was going to say :T

JohnInDebt

moneysavinmonkey wrote: »

TO Landandy + macque.

I do not know the OP, but I have read their other threads, I suggest you do the same and then I'd like to hear your justification for your comments.

I can only see one other thread where she admits forgetting to take the pill for a few days and also took the pill whilst taking other medication. If only she thought about reproducing as much as protecting her 'assets' she wouldn't be in this position.

Now that she is in this position hopefully they (the OP and her OH) can come to some arrangement that doesn't undermine the relationship and potentially create a bad home environment. Whatever she decides will need to be more thought out than what's already happened in their relationship!

Libra1975

tr3mor wrote: »

I'm with Landy on this one. If he is contributing to paying the mortgage then he'll rightfully have a claim on the house.

I don't understand this thinking, you wouldn't say that to someone who was renting.

LandyAndy

JohnInDebt wrote: »

I can only see one other thread where she admits forgetting to take the pill for a few days and also took the pill whilst taking other medication. If only she thought about reproducing as much as protecting her 'assets' she wouldn't be in this position.

Now that she is in this position hopefully they (the OP and her OH) can come to some arrangement that doesn't undermine the relationship and potentially create a bad home environment. Whatever she decides will need to be more thought out than what's already happened in their relationship!

Saved me a load of typing.

What the OP is suggesting is the worst possible basis for a relationship, particularly one involving children.

All the advice she has been given about rent books and legal agreements etc is all sound. Its just that it is encouraging the OP to take the wrong view of the course she is proposing.

JohnInDebt

The new partner may pay for food and utility bills. If the relationship breaks down, even after many years, the new partner will have no claim upon the property unless he can provide evidence that there was a common intention of ownership of a certain share of the property.

If there was no agreement to that effect, and the new partner had simply relied upon the myth of ‘common law husband and wife’ then they may have no claim on the property. The contribution to the household outgoings is not enough on its own to establish ownership.

It is possible to draw up a cohabitation agreement to confirm the common intention of the unmarried couple. The couple should each seek independent legal advice, preferably from a specialist family solicitor, to ensure that an appropriate binding agreement is prepared.

moneysavinmonkey

JohnInDebt wrote: »

I can only see one other thread where she admits forgetting to take the pill for a few days and also took the pill whilst taking other medication. If only she thought about reproducing as much as protecting her 'assets' she wouldn't be in this position.

Now that she is in this position hopefully they (the OP and her OH) can come to some arrangement that doesn't undermine the relationship and potentially create a bad home environment. Whatever she decides will need to be more thought out than what's already happened in their relationship!

sorry... didn't realise you were all perfect and never made a mistake

regardless of what has happened in the past, do you not think that in the OP's situation it is appropriate for her to protect her home... i'm not saying that her boyfriend isn't entitled to anything but she still needs to protect herself - even more so with a child on the way.

I clicked thanks by accident btw
(feel free to abuse me now, I must be a terrible human being after all)

Curv

Libra1975 wrote: »

I don't understand this thinking, you wouldn't say that to someone who was renting.

But most people who are renting don't share a bed in the rented property with the landlord.

I'm not saying this should have any bearing on the legalities, but I can't help thinking that no matter what precautions (no pun intended) the OP takes to protect her asset, it could all get messy and legal further down the line, should the OP's OH decide to stake some sort of claim against the property.

Libra1975

again why is sorting finances out now the worst possible basis for a relationship?

I am buying a house with my other half and we are going tennants-in-common rather than joint tenancy, does this some how devalue our relationship?

OP have a look at this:
http://www.lawontheweb.co.uk/basics/cohabit.htm

moneysavinmonkey

LandyAndy wrote: »

Saved me a load of typing.

What the OP is suggesting is the worst possible basis for a relationship, particularly one involving children.

All the advice she has been given about rent books and legal agreements etc is all sound. Its just that it is encouraging the OP to take the wrong view of the course she is proposing.

That's all fine, so why haven't you offered her some sensible advice????