When to stop financially supporting adult kids
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Hi there,
Just for clarification as people are asking, we weren't talking treats as such, more like regular living costs: Rent, food .. for a mid 20 year old
Then, if they needed support and I was in a position to help, I wouldThere is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter0 -
This has been an interesting thread. Good to chat, hear others opinions and appreciate different circumstances.
While I understand why OP couldn't give details of a friend's private issues it has lead to lots of speculation. Unfortunately we don't know why the adult child needed essentials paying for.0 -
splishsplash wrote: »If one of my adult children run into difficulties and I want to help them, then I will. I am under no obligation to hand out to the others for the sake of it.
However, do you think it fair that if a parent were to help one child out significantly (financially), as the others are "OK" (at the moment) but they are not really in a position to afford to be so generous, and therefore find that they are then unable to help another child who may need help later on...and have to tell them "sorry there's no money left!"
Just the other side of the coin, as it were.How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.31% of current retirement "pot" (as at end March 2024)0 -
Hi there,
Just for clarification as people are asking, we weren't talking treats as such, more like regular living costs: Rent, food .. for a mid 20 year old
If so then I think your support is completely warranted, and the right thing to do.
If they are of sound mind and body then ai’d have to ask why you are doing this.
Those I know who were supported like this have not ended up doing very well. They have never developed a proper career, as they saw no need to put in the hard graft upfront for reward later. Life was too easy with the parents helping out.0 -
Sometimes I really feel in the minority here when I post about wanting to help/treat my children. I do appreciate that some posters are desperate for money and rely on Child Benefit for part of the family income but surely not as many as it sometimes seems.
As I mention above, I’ve seen that in practice with friends whose parents stepped in too much.0 -
Some children go into the arts where it!!!8217;s very hard to make a career.
You need support to able to stick at it until such times as you can manage to get by or decide to retrain. It!!!8217;s never a question of just getting a qualifiacation and then the job as an artist!
So yes, I would support under these circumstances to mid twenties and beyond.Norn Iron Club member 4730
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