Mother is trying to control me still

Ames

eschaton wrote: »

Name and shame those who are sending you the nasty messages.

If there are any that is.

This supposedly happened with another one of your threads.


Are you going to give us the endings to any of your stories or will this end up like your previous stories?

Naming and shaming would be against forum rules. Abusive messages should be reported to the forum team.

eschaton

Ames wrote: »

Naming and shaming would be against forum rules. Abusive messages should be reported to the forum team.

I know that but I'm not sure if there is actually anyone to name and shame going by the history.

Mojisola

The only person who can make changes in your life is you - with the help of your BF, if you will let him.

If something in you 'enjoys' the drama of your mother's interventions, get some therapy so that you can let go of that and lead a more relaxed and happy life.

Pdbaggett

Seriously she's stealing prescription medicine and trying to break up your relationship... Stop speaking to her unless you get off on the drama.

TensandUnits

I wonder how she knew where the medication is. Prescription meds aren't usually left lying around (or they shouldn't be) and your mother shouldn't be rifling through your drawers and cupboards! Twice!

happyandcontented

Genuine question. Why did you leave the medicines out if you suspected your mother of removing them once before?

Pollycat

eschaton wrote: »

I know that but I'm not sure if there is actually anyone to name and shame going by the history.

It doesn't matter whether there's anyone to shame or not, the correct advice is as given by Ames.

The situation the OP describes is - imho- odd.
I find it hard to believe that a Mother can influence her daughter's ex boyfriend to try to get back with her.
But I won't be sending any nasty private messages.

The solution to your problems is in your hands.
Cutting a Mother out if your life really isn't a step too far if she is as toxic as you say she is.

suejb2

You are enabling your mum to do this.

She takes your medication you get more yet prevent her to taking it again
She encourages your ex to get back in touch, you allow him.
You don't talk to your current boyfriend about any of this.
Your dad is oblivious to everything.

What you can do is have control.
Don't let your mum in
If you do, move the medicine
Ignore the ex
Involve both your boyfriend and dad.

onomatopoeia99

TensandUnits wrote: »

I wonder how she knew where the medication is. Prescription meds aren't usually left lying around (or they shouldn't be) and your mother shouldn't be rifling through your drawers and cupboards! Twice!

My prescription medication is in plain view in my house. It's my house, I'll leave stuff where I like.

What a strange notion that anyone should be expected to hide stuff away in their own home (infants living there aside).

Pollycat

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

My prescription medication is in plain view in my house. It's my house, I'll leave stuff where I like.

What a strange notion that anyone should be expected to hide stuff away in their own home (infants living there aside).

I leave stuff in my house where I like too.

But...my Mother doesn't come into my house and steal medication.

If it was a case between having to hide medication or banning my Mother from my home because I couldn't trust her not to steal that medication (and taking something without the owner's permission is stealing), I know what choice I'd make.