Can my daughter throw me out of my home?

christmas_carole

need_an_answer wrote: »

What he did I think is irrelevant.

What he is,is what the daughter I believe objects to.

It is not uncommon for an older child to want to protect their parent and support them,but it can also be a way of controlling them too.

The way I read this is that the daughter is happy to help mum out in fact probably views it as a good arrangement but once you add the new partner to the mix she clearly has an issue with that.
Whether the issue is with that particular partner or just a partner in general is what mum needs to establish.

My gut feeling is if the partner wasn't there the issue with the property would die away too.

Your daughter is quite blatantly making a stand to make you choose between your ex partner or the house.

does your partner have a property?
Is that partly the issue that she does not want to extend the preferential rent to him,or is it possible you could look to move in with him?

Yes, she's making a stand because of who I am with, my partner does not have a property.

need_an_answer

christmas_carole wrote: »

Yes, she's making a stand because of who I am with, my partner does not have a property.

my gut feeling was correct.

you face a choice of child and home v ex partner.

I'm not one to revisit relationships but I know they can be reinvented,but what about the saying "an ex is an ex for a reason"

christmas_carole

need_an_answer wrote: »

Why did you sell your home originally?
and who suggested the input into a property owned by your daughter?

I am wondering if there was an inclination that by selling your property and handing over the proceeds you could be seen as selling off your assets to avoid something in the future.


Hard as it seems too many times we read threads that start with
How can I give my property to my child/is it a good idea/it seems like it now.

this is just the sour end of that deal where the controlling child is now enforcing additional conditions on the parent.

very sad.

It was their idea, I had split up with a long term partner and I had £87k equity, she knew that, I was looking to buy a property outright but it would have left me with no savings, they said they would help me, I knew NOTHING about getting into any kind of duplicious fraud.
It wasnt untill two years in that she told me what she was doing.

christmas_carole

need_an_answer wrote: »

my gut feeling was correct.

you face a choice of child and home v ex partner.

I'm not one to revisit relationships but I know they can be reinvented,but what about the saying "an ex is an ex for a reason"

He never really was an ex, we were constantly in touch.

need_an_answer

christmas_carole wrote: »

He never really was an ex, we were constantly in touch.

but I assume that he wasn't the ex you split from when you entered into the arrangement with your daughter?

PeterJones2018

I'm looking at this thread, as I'm interested in "lifetime interest" or "lifetime tenancy".

Anyway, OP my advice would be:

1. "Split up" from your new "partner".
2. Ask your daughter to agree to giving you a rent free "lifetime secure tenancy". (I've had no luck finding out about those on here, so look elsewhere for information).
3. If your daughter doesn't agree to such a written lifetime tenancy agreement, then bring up the subject of mortgage fraud (which she may or may not have committed, but if she has, then that may give you some leverage).

christmas_carole

hazyjo wrote: »

Could always say you've split up, then sort your tenancy for life. Daughter doesn't sound so naïve as to believe that though so depends how convincing you are. She'll prob want something written into the agreement to say he can't move in.


Not one for lying, but then I'm not one for booting my own mother out of her home after lying to her about her tenancy.


Good luck. Truly awful thread - one that will stay with me for quite a while. Hope you get it sorted.

I've never lied to anyone about my housing arrangement, I didnt know this was something she was doing until January this year when she mentioned it in passing.
How would I know?

hazyjo

christmas_carole wrote: »

It was their idea, I had split up with a long term partner and I had £87k equity, she knew that, I was looking to buy a property outright but it would have left me with no savings, they said they would help me, I knew NOTHING about getting into any kind of duplicious fraud.
It wasnt untill two years in that she told me what she was doing.

And you didn't think to take any legal advice?!


So what if you didn't have savings - to have no mortgage would surely have meant you'd have spare cash every month or whatever? I have never had savings. I'm currently in my 8th mortgaged home. If you felt that strongly, you could have taken a tiny mortgage...


You say you're not naïve, but every single one of your posts suggests otherwise (sorry!). It's not a matter of trust, it's a matter of law, common sense and self preservation. I trust my mum 100% but I would still have something in writing if I let her live in a property I owned.

christmas_carole

need_an_answer wrote: »

but I assume that he wasn't the ex you split from when you entered into the arrangement with your daughter?

No I met him after my break up with my partner of 8 years.

hazyjo

christmas_carole wrote: »

I've never lied to anyone about my housing arrangement, I didnt know this was something she was doing until January this year when she mentioned it in passing.
How would I know?

Eh? Didn't say you knew.


I'm saying you should lie and say you've split with your partner. Then sort your lifetime tenancy out. Then move partner in (if that's what you want).


I'm saying your daughter lied about what sort of tenancy you're on. She has you on a two year tenancy - NOT a lifetime tenancy.