Visiting tradesman -your responsibility?

i_want_to_believe

YoungBlueEyes wrote: »

As for discouraging JW's/cold callers/door knockers or whoever, I have 2 effective + well-used tactics.
Depending what kind of mood I'm in I'll either say "Sure I'd love to hear all about it, but first you must let me tell you how the loving light of Lucifer has completely changed my life". Or if I can't be bothered I just say (very poshly, no accent, rounded vowels) "Oh I am so sorry, but I don't speak a word of English", then smile sweetly and close the door.

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Neighbour from hell?

YoungBlueEyes

Thanks very much! I was thinking the 'f' stood for something far less polite...

elsien

YoungBlueEyes wrote: »

I'm a bit late to this post but I've just read it all and I have a couple of suggestions.

1. Re the people parking in the lane/bollard/sign issue - could yous not paint a nice big red "no entry" circle on the ground? With the owners permission of course. That would hopefully stop the school run cars etc, but not, say, ambulances etc.

2. Re him banging on your door and ringing the bell. (This is a Plan B for if the get-together doesn't work.) Maybe a shock tactic would work? One day when you're home all day, and he's in banging+ringing like a maniac mode, answer the door in a clear state of distress. Bit of prep required like, back comb your hair, mascara all down your face, work yourself up into a proper crying + shaking mess, then answer the door with "you've got to STOP this! Look at what you're DOING to me! You're really scaring me and I don't know if I can TAKE it any more!!" Lots of sobbing and shaking and wiping of nose on palm of hand. "I'm sorry, I can't HELP where people park but you're driving me CRAZY with all this and YOU HAVE TO STOP!!" Sob sob shakey shakey.

Like that. I've done this before and it worked an absolute treat.

Then close the door on him, have a stiff drink, and lament how we've put feminism back 20 years.

So you've got a chap whose a bully, now going into harassment mode, and you think doing a silly girly woe is me routine is likely to stop him? More likely to get him to ramp it up because he can see the effect he thinks he's having.
I can't think of any situation where a) I'd ever want to do the hysterical woman act or b) where it would make any postitive impact whatsoever.
It's less taking feminism back 20 years and more reverting right back to the melodrama of the silent film era. Ridiculous.

YoungBlueEyes

It is a suggestion, something that OP could do. I offer it as an idea because it worked for me in the past.
Ideally it would not have got to this stage - ideally the police would have done something, but they didn't. Hence my (last resort) suggestion.

Tygermoth

So meeting was yesterday. Sadly my car broke down so i missed it being sat in a layby/service station miles away for hours waiting to be put on the back of a lorry and taken to the garage.

i was told it was a nice meeting, sun was out and a impromptu bbq was started so everyine was chilled and lots of stuff got sorted out......right up to the point lane dude turned up (very late) He basically threw about accusations that the mews were deliberately hounding him and parking in the lane. Everyone pointed out thats not the cse but he refused to be swayed.

Discussions regarding the entrance and posts/signage was brought up but he told everyone he shouldn't have to pay out or be inconvenienced putting up or taking down posts or cones - for everyone else being munts so refuses to put his hand in his pocket.

Someone pointed out he would be paying for peace of mind and to stop having to deal with the issue. He just said his plan is to harass everyone one on the street/council/management company till we or someone get so effed off with him they will pay to solve the issue - put down yellow lines, pay for posts, gate or open the old lane entrance and close off ours making it less appealing to be parked in. note: the council have said no to this request several times due to where the lane exits.

Then one of the guys said that type of aggressive action can be a two way street pal and said he had checked the land registry for the lane.

It was pointed out that he gained some of the land by just appropriating it when the area was in decline and he doesn't actually own all of it (there was a small set of allotments to the side but they fell into disrepair and disuse and he kind of just appropriated them by putting a fence up) it was suggested that we apply to the coouncil make it parking as we all have a easement (i think that's the right term im not sure or a right of way.... something like that) as the allotments were for the use of the mews and local houses.

apparently this caused the meeting mood to turn really ugly and as he started swearing - people who had brought their children left - so it kind of just disintegrated.

happyandcontented

His behaviour seems to have opened a can of worms! Could it be Karma!

bouicca21

Oh dear. I was hoping for a happier outcome. But at least everyone else knows just what the score is.

Tygermoth

Having this tread linked back to another it reminded me to post a quick update. I've not had a peep from lane guy. Not even when cars have parked in the lane. Nada.

Sadly that maybe because the gent that did the land registry search is now in lane dudes sights....... The gent has had a sudden and unexpected fence fire, some paint thrown at his door and a dent appear on his car.

Marvel1

Tygermoth wrote: »

Having this tread linked back to another it reminded me to post a quick update. I've not had a peep from lane guy. Not even when cars have parked in the lane. Nada.

Sadly that maybe because the gent that did the land registry search is now in lane dudes sights....... The gent has had a sudden and unexpected fence fire, some paint thrown at his door and a dent appear on his car.

:eek: Lane dude is a right !!!!ing !!!!!!!! :mad:

I hope the gent has CCTV very soon.

HampshireH

Wow. I had been searching for this post and couldn't for the ice if me remember the title.

Hope gent has police involved. Must be horrible !!!55357;!!!56852;