Pregnant and single, all in the same day!

Nicifer_noonoo

Hi everyone...
About four hours ago my otherhalf left me, and I found out I was pregnant about an hour before that. It's my first baby and something that has been much longed for, but I'm only 21 and although I have my own house and car, I'm just starting to panic that I can't give my baby everything it needs. I just can't relax!
I think I'm just asking for reassurance that it CAN be done. I'm sorry this is such a wet thread, lol...I just have no one to turn to.

Thanks
Nic

janb5

First of all congratulations and I wish you a happy pregnancy. Did you tell your OH that you are pregnant and might that alter his decision to leave?

Try not to get upset right now...I am sure you are feeling overwhelmed right now but there are people out there who can give you help and support whatever you decide to do. What about your family - do they know and will they help you?

Jan

xx

purplegirluk1

Ah honey, congratulations on your news, I am 20 weeks pregnant, it is the most amazing experiance.

I am really sorry you are newly single, the only thing I can say is if he has left you now then atleastyou know where you stand and you can prepare yourself for the future much better than if you were left nearer the birth. I know it must be awful for you but on the positive side you can make the best plans for yours and your babies future. Babies don't need rich parents, they need someone who will always have their best interest at heart, someone who will do anything they can to make sure they are fed, clean, rested and generally stimulated and most importantly loved. You sound like a level-headed girl, you have achieved a lot at your age. I am 25 and rent my flat and don't have a car. My OH and I are nowhere near well off but we spend wisely and know we can more than provide for our child. Like I said, you don't need to spend a fourtune to have a happy baby. If you have longed for this moment then enjoy it.

Purplegirl

jcr16

hi , congrats on your pregnancy.

what do u feel it is that u can't give ur child ?

i first fell preg at 21. i was excited , but also scared. i always worried that i couldn't give her what she needed. but at end of day. i found nothing cost alot of money and all she needed was a few basic. plus love , warmth and food. Don't feel like u need to have everythign brand new and the best. most of my daughters stuff was hand me down's. we simply couldn't afford it.

i'm sure your be a fantastic mum. and your child will love u no matter what.

in the depth's of the night when ur feeling down ( i been there) and they give u a smile , it is the best feeling in the world and nothign else matter's apart form your child.

Anything can be done. if u ever wanna talk pm me . You must be feeling emotinal at the mo. ( trust me i'm 14 weeks preg nearly and i'm crying over anythign and everything) . but your certainly not alone. everyone one mse will be here to help and support you.

jarrod1

Congratulations Nic x

mandy_moo_1

oh babe. you poor poor thing. i'm sending you big big (((((hugs)))))

your emotions must be all over the place at the moment. if he still wanted to leave you even tho you'd just told him you were expecting his baby, then he's not the man for you

i know that's no real consolation for you at the mo, but you WILL get thru this. you said this baby was so wanted by you, and once you get your head round things, you'll feel so much better

love and hugs to you xxx

suzysue_2

Aww, I'm sending you hugs too.
It can be done and you will get through it, try to enjoy your pregnancy.
XXX

crispeater

congratulations

there are lots of single mummy's on these boards, myself included and we'll all tell you that no matter what, you will be the best mum your child could ever ask for

Anthillmob

congrats from me too.

remember all your baby 'needs' from you is unconditional love. other things are immeterial.

novagirl

Congratulations I'm 22 and found out I was pregnant a few weeks after my ex left me. Believe me it can be done. Love doesn't cost any money and all the things that you need really don't have to cot alot. You've got 9 months to save for what you'll need, (and a few treats that you want ).
I'm sure alot will change between now and when you baby comes but above all make sure you enjoy it. Good luck with your pregnancy. x

Nicifer_noonoo

Thankyou all for the words of support..the gravity of the situation is just about sinking in. My mother hasn't helped, the first thing she said was 'but you can't afford it!'. I always expected I'd be doing this with a loving and protective father around, and now I'm left to do it alone I'm not sure I'm up to the job.