Cutting Down Alcohol Thread

loveasale

Thank you honey bear , the reason why cutting down is not an option for me is I really can not moderate my wine intake when I do drink ,, yet most week days I’m more than happy to be AF and don’t miss it ,,,, until I then start and ,,,,well I’ve already said how it ends,,
I am doing it for me , not for my man , but he he ended up as I do ( and it’s more and more common these days ) I think I’d be disappointed in him and his lack of control!
So I’ve come to my own decision the right and as I see it the best option for me ,,, my family and my man will still love me either way ,, but I do need to change )

cathybird

Annual challenge 2019

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= 100 days AF


= 150 days AF


= 200 days AF
= 250 days AF


= 300 days AF


= 365 days AF


= Target reached


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Totals


Arkers /TF

Barny1979 /266

bestlifenow /250

cathybird /260

FabRab /331

Glenda /300

GreenKaren /TF

Honey Bear /365

maggiem /183

Maman /TF

Niknak /265

PriceySOS /TF

Pollyanna /183

Samwise the Frugal /200

Shaggy /250

SukeyBoo /150

Wanna Bee Free /150

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Barny1979

21/25 AFDs today

maggiem

15/15 and 2SNC please.

Good luck Lovasale and Rosy10. Keep going andkeep posting, it really helps me to post as I can work out some very reasonable excuse as to why I 'had' to open that bottle. For some reason I never think about being less than accurate on here, what would be the point so that helps a lot. Plus reading everyone else's comments often makes me think and reflect on things.

GlendaSugarbean

Good luck, Lovasale

Stress: I do think a drink to calm down is an easy habit to start, but if that isn't an option you find more productive methods. I can say that after over 4 months :eek: of being pretty much AF I don't miss it when I don't drink, but it took me at least 2 or 3 months to get to that stage. For some it might take longer (was it here that someone posted the Raymond Chandler quote about it taking 3 years?), others can be regular drinkers and still take it or leave it. My reaction makes me think that I will never go back to regular weekly drinking, but I'd like the option of having a drink on high days and holidays. We shall see.

loveasale

I am being totally honest on here , and it helps ,
The stories of others are an enormous boost to achieving my goals ,
I thank you all x

cathybird

Morning all, 20/21 for me today thanks.

Green_Karen

22/30 Jan
2/2 WEC
3/5 SNC

Quick post as just caught up briefly with all the posts but not chance to comment yet as busy on site at moment (even though there during a heavy blustery snow shower this morning).

Shaggy - in answer to question on house build, don't ask! Seriously, we have a major problem getting water connected to site. Just had a digger there this morning but it's a stab in the dark as to where in the 40 metre length of pipe that's 1 metre deep in the ground, the kink/obstruction is, just hope we don't have to dig the entire length up.
Got wood burner fitters on site today which is one nice thing. Also got the roofer on as a couple of slates fell off. Plumber back to fix leaky toilet, hopefully electrician and joiner finishing second fix today and the ground source heat pump engineers hopefully coming today as well. So it's all go on site today.
Starting to think it will be April before we're in.

maman

loveasale wrote: »

I am being totally honest on here , and it helps ,
The stories of others are an enormous boost to achieving my goals ,
I thank you all x

That could be the title of our thread!:T


There's something about posting on here that has a gentle accountability. There's no criticism but somehow making the commitment helps hugely.


Thanks for the good wishes. I'm coping but it is irritating although it seems like it's just a nasty head cold, nothing more serious. I'm glad in a way that I've got it now as we're away on holiday in 2 weeks.


I'm declaring now that February is going to be a very low AF score for me. One of my aims when cutting down was to drink socially and on holidays but not to excess and not to drink on 'normal' evenings at home just because I could. Looking at next month there are very few 'normal' days.


So I'm going to give January and March my best shot to try and offset the balance.:D


14/10 AFDs please Shaggy.

shaggydoo

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I don't think about it, is the answer. As you pointed out, it's been nearly five years since I stopped drinking and the habit now is to not drink, rather than to drink or think about drinking.

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I think in the early days of stopping I might have thought about it for helping in stressful situations, but not as much as other people or in the same way.

Thanks for your post. It made me think....


I totally understand what you are saying - as an ex smoker (by decades) the idea that a ciggy would help me in a stressful situation is a mad...I guess it's the same with you and a drink...