Unsolicited message?

moneysaverz83

I was after some yay/nay advice please.

I've been to a monthly creative evening class the last couple months. It's advertised on FB and elsewhere, though I'm pretty Private so I don't mark myself as attending as I believe that gets on the newsfeed?

I go because I enjoy it. Also, I'm single, so if I met someone there like minded, great especially as I can initially be reserved.

Last time, I was sat next to a nice girl and we exchanged a few words.

There was someone who really caught my eye further up the table and I caught her looking at me quite a bit and smiled. She was there with a female friend.

Of course, she could be thinking 'whos that ugly chap there', but hopefully it wasn't that.

I noticed she was down as attending the last event, but not the one in under a couple weeks.

So if she goes, I would be interested in chatting to her.

If she doesn't, would it be odd dropping her a quick/friendly massage via FB?

I mean, she could either not like me, not be single, etc... but nothing ventured?

moneysaverz83

Message even

becmarv

Exactly as you said.. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

If she was smiling at you and catching your eye chances are she was being coy and in her mind thinking "come say hi" .

gettingtheresometime

Are you talking about the girl you sat next to or the girl that caught your eye?


I'm assuming it's the later.


In that case I think I'd wait to see if she came to any more classes and speak to her, in person first.

hazyjo

You're asking advice on chatting to someone? Just talk to her! Keep it light and friendly. It's not a singles event so maybe just get to know her and don't presume it's okay to send her a FB message (hopefully you didn't mean 'massage' as you wrote lol!) - I would definitely let her add you before hunting her down. Bit weird.


Hopefully you mean message not massage


If she was that keen on you, I'm sure she'd be going back to the class. I know I would be. Maybe she just can't make the next one.

moneysaverz83

Hi, yes, the one further up.

A lot of people go as one offs, apparently a few are regular. I believe it was her first so she may never go again.
If she doesn't go next time, I guess I could drop her a quick message.

But if she went in March, that would be a bit embarrassing if nothing came of it!

Is there a way of marking myself as attending without it being Broadcast on newsfeed?

moneysaverz83

hazyjo wrote: »

You're asking advice on chatting to someone? Just talk to her! Keep it light and friendly. It's not a singles event so maybe just get to know her and don't presume it's okay to send her a FB message (hopefully you didn't mean 'massage' as you wrote lol!) - I would definitely let her add you before hunting her down. Bit weird.


Hopefully you mean message not massage


If she was that keen on you, I'm sure she'd be going back to the class. I know I would be. Maybe she just can't make the next one.

Hi hazyjo

- I'm not asking advice if I should chat to someone. I'm asking if I should drop someone an online message to someone I've never spoken to and may not cross paths with again.

- if she doesn't know I'm going as I don't mark myself as attending officially, then she may or may not go

- I'm not intending on 'adding' anyone. It's more: should I message X because I quite liked them, and the feeling may possibly slightly be mutual, especially if I may not cross with them next time (of course, will wait til next time, which happens to be around Valentine's, so maybe next time+few days)

System

just say hello to her in class....see where that leads you.

spadoosh

Play it safe, let her make the move.

rach_k

I'd wait until you've spoken to her in person first. It looks a bit shallow to get in touch after you've only seen her. Even if the physical attraction goes both ways, I think people like to believe you like their personality too!

chesky

If she doesn’t turn up to the next one, you could message her then.