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Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

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  • H - nothing I can say except so sorry to hear of your loss.
    Of course you are in shock . Even if expected it still is shocking.
    If you have people around you let them care for you . Try to drink and eat a little .
    Accept the love from those that care for you even if the words are clumsy.
  • sheilavw & Dymphna60. Thank you for your thoughts and advice. It is appreciated.


    I had prepared a fairly lengthy message, which was maybe self indulgent of me, but it disappeared when I tried to submit, so a lesson learned there.


    I don't have the heart to re-do it right now, so suffice to say the timing was totally unexpected, and my children are being great.


    Hx
  • sheilavw
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    Wish I could offer more advice. Looking back it was all a blur, visitors, arrangements.
    I did have counselling at the local hospice which helped a little. After my sessions finished they offered me complimentary therapies, once a month, I have had 3 and one booked for mid january also at the hospice. Take your time with things. x
  • Buggins
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    Bump...just because it may be needed.
  • Skibunny40
    Skibunny40 Posts: 447 Forumite
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    Agreed, happyandcontented. 
    Buggins, good idea to bump the thread - I'm sure there are many who would benefit from it
  • PennyForThem_2
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    I find the title self-satisfied and arrogant.  And we really need to come to terms with death because it is happening with Corvid-19.  Our culture is very uncomfortable with describing it factually and also discussing with children/partners what those at risk of dying wishes are.  





  • Buggins
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    Maybe a change of title then but many people are looking for some support especially at the moment - it helped me no end a few years ago when I felt so isolated and lost.
  • PennyForThem_2
    PennyForThem_2 Posts: 1,036 Forumite
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    I agree for a lot of ppl this seems to be a helpful thread (though for me it got way too gossipy - but that is me).  Also (lol) the title is not gender neutral - widow - widower......

    (TBH my main beef was the attitude of the very original poster - not the originator of this revamped thread - so mea culpa)
  • itsanne
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    Bumping this thread as it's a particularly difficult time of year for many.
    . . .I did not speak out

    Then they came for me
    And there was no one left
    To speak out for me..

    Martin Niemoller
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