Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

Sammie36

Hi everyone,

I am having some really dark thoughts. The last week as been so difficult and I'm drowning in sadness.

I don't want to do anything stupid but i don't want to feel like this any more.

I miss John so much and I can't cope
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elona

Sammie

Please go to an emergency or walk in clinic and ask about anti depressants. I did that when I felt the same as you do now and they did help. I would not have done anything stupid either but just saw no point in being here.

happyandcontented

Sammie, please just pick the phone up and ask for help, family, friends, Samaritans any, or all of them, as and when. Don't struggle on, get some help xx.

MrAPJI

Sammie, you must stay strong. It is what John would want you to do. It is what you must do, for your children. There are many of us here who know 'exactly' how you feel. It is a wretched feeling. But Sammie, in time, it will pass. I know you don't think so at the moment - but it will.


If you feel you need to speak with someone urgently, as others have said, 'The Samaritans' are on call 24/7 to listen. But further down the line, another chat with your GP might be a good idea. You might also find that meeting with someone who has been through the same might help - it did me.



Sammie, there are so many of us here wishing you strength. Hoping that the pain you are in will lessen with each day. You are not alone.

BucksLady

Thinking of you Sammie xx

daisy_1571

Positive energy and thoughts going sent out to everyone who needs them tonight including you sammie

Daisy xxx

sheilavw

Bless you Sammie, it must be so hard.
I too am struggling since my Husband was diagnosed with Motor neurones in July. Life is so cruel. You have to seek help.

crv1963

Sammie36 wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I am having some really dark thoughts. The last week as been so difficult and I'm drowning in sadness.

I don't want to do anything stupid but i don't want to feel like this any more.

I miss John so much and I can't cope
X

Hi Sammie,

You don't need to struggle alone with this. There are a number of options you have.

If your dark thoughts become very strong then immediate assistance can be accessed on the telephone via the Samaritans, you could also google your local Mental Health NHS Trust, go to their website and search for their Crisis Team number and self refer to them, you can ask for an assessment and support.

Or in person you could attend Urgent Care Center, speak to someone there, attend A&E and ask to speak to Mental Health Liaison Nurse- most A&Es have a liaison service.

Alternatively you could ring 111, and tell the call handler how you are feeling and they could direct your call to the appropriate service in your area.

If you can hang on you could ring and ask your GP Surgery for a same day appointment, some surgeries have a telephone triage system where a GP rings back and discusses the problem before offering an appointment face to face.

Sometimes being put in touch with other services and support can help. There is a large amount of support available often it is someone else being aware of what is there and getting in touch with them for you that is needed.

If you are having trouble sleeping, then try looking up "sleep hygiene tips" on google, simple things like reducing caffeine and alcohol intake, regular exercise and bedtime with no horror/ exciting/ emotion provoking programs before trying to sleep.

Your GP could also offer a variety of prescribed medications. These could range from night sedation to anti-depressants, combined with counselling and support, even a debrief after your experience could help possibly.

It is not that anti-depressants are the answer alone, sometimes they are not needed at all. So try to keep an open mind, they may be needed they may not be. Someone to speak to is so important.

BucksLady

Sammie, I hope you and the children are ok xx

Sammie36

Hi everyone.

We ventured out today for some fresh air. My youngest and I broke down a couple of times but we were ok.

I popped up to the cemetery and cleared up the Xmas flowers we had left and put fresh ones down.

I'm going to try to make another appointment with my gp tomorrow. I feel like I'm going mad and these dark thoughts are really scary.

I didn't think it was possible to cry constantly and it wipes you out completly.

Thank to everyone who is listening to me.
Xxxx