becoming homeless, advice please

lisyloo

Silvertabby wrote: »

Thank you, that makes sense. However, I understand a dementia patient is just as likely to go walkabout during the night as well as during the day, so a sleeping carer may not be enough.

If the person needs 24 hours care on duty then I'd be very suprised if the council would fund this (at home) as it's very expensive.

There are ways to stop people getting out of bed.
My MIL has a bed like the ones they have in hospital with the sides put up at night so she can't get out. Obviously if you do this then you will have to deal with the incontinence side of things but that is secondary to safety in hospitals and nursing homes.

So a bed could be bought to use at home.

We completely understand the unhappiness that a loss of independence can bring but I console myself with the fact that safety must come first.
My MIL doesn't like the bed but she is at high risk of falling so there really isn't any choice.

DaveKBmth

Just spoke with a new social worker who has been put on my mum's case and she said that she has spoken with my mum on more than one occasion (at the day center) and that it's clear that she would prefer it if we left although she is concerned about us becoming homeless, i'm a little hurt but overwhelmingly relieved even with the uncertain future ahead.

The SW said that they are in-fact going to employ a 24/7 carer to care for my mum in her own home and she will not have to go into residential care until my mum is ready, she said a judge would never put someone there if they were to become depressed / unhappy. They are even willing to let me mum keep her dog, sounds great piece of mind that she will be looked after.

elsien

If that's what she said that's good news for your mum.
But I am surprised. I've known people have to go into care homes when they really didn't want to and when they were very unhappy about it . Otherwise I'm guessing most people would choose to be at home with a 1/1 care package. Which just isn't affordable.
Still worth asking though what they plan to put in place if mum's wandering gets dangerous. And whether mum has considered the implications of having people she doesn't really know in her house 24/7 or whether she thinks having you move out will let her get on with doing what she wants when she wants.
I hope you manage to get things sorted for yourselves without too much stress. Maybe getting some supporting evidence from the GP about your current mental health will bump things up with the council. It's ok to still ask for help for yourselves.

Mojisola

DaveKBmth wrote: »

The SW said that they are in-fact going to employ a 24/7 carer to care for my mum in her own home

It won't be just one carer - whoever it is will need to have time off.

When I looked into hiring a 24/7 carer privately for my parents, the carer stayed for a couple of weeks and then had time off while someone else came to stay.

The carers had to have a couple of hours off-duty every day (when someone else had to be around to care if necessary).

If the carers were regularly disturbed too many times or for too long during the night, a second carer would be required.

All very expensive!