Birthday party donation

davetrousers

Talk to other people in your family about their thoughts.

I bet they're similar to yours and those here.

Fireflyaway

I think its rude and I'd be inclined not to go. You cant invite someone but expect them to pay. What if they can't afford it? Do you ban them? What if the don't give ' enough' ? Would they be mocked?
If the relative can't afford to pay they need to change plans or wait till they can afford it. Is it the child of the 50 year old? If so they could be forgiven for being young and inexperience?!

midnightraven3

Imagine being the person this party is for, when they find out people were charged to come to their party, and it will come out, someone is bound to say something. I'd be horrified

JIL

We organised a surprise party for the in-laws 60th wedding anniversary a couple of years ago, we split the cost of food, entertainment, venue hire, decorations etc, between the immediate family which were my husband's brothers and sisters. We would not have expected any of the guests to have then made a contribution.

I went to a wedding a couple of years ago out in the middle of nowhere, the invitation specifically asked us not to buy a gift but instead to consider staying at the venue overnight, meaning they would get a reduction on their costs and we also would get 25% off the room rate.

I have never been asked for a cash contribution, it's a bit like selling tickets. Although sometimes it would be so much easier than buying a gift.

Pdbaggett

Wouldn't bother me at all, I would also prpbally contribute. They can't force people to help out and the people who want to contribute can do so of they wish.

I'd just assume someone wants to throw a party and perhaps they don't have a great deal of money spare, whilst I do. Not the greatest crime in the world.

Somewhat of a party tax I guess.

:beer:

Mr_Singleton

Wasn't going to post here but have to say I find it horrendously funny at some of the penny pinching mean spiritedness of some of the response.

#JustSayin'

NeilCr

Pdbaggett wrote: »

Wouldn't bother me at all, I would also prpbally contribute. They can't force people to help out and the people who want to contribute can do so of they wish.

I'd just assume someone wants to throw a party and perhaps they don't have a great deal of money spare, whilst I do. Not the greatest crime in the world.

Somewhat of a party tax I guess.

:beer:

Quite agree.

There is quite a difference in attitude here. Some - like you and I - just get on with it and don’t get too hooked up in the “politics”. Others seem to be looking for offence and, perhaps, to find a reason for not going. “Oh I would have gone but a) did this”.

Most likely they didn’t want to go in the first place. Which is fine -if you don’t want to go and/or can’t muster the enthusiasm to put on a brave face while you are there then just be honest about it upfront. Don’t say yes and then jump on the first excuse that presents itself.

Disclaimer. Pollycat is not included in the “some” above. As she says we’ve been this way before. :o

Marvel1

I can see it now in future birthday parties for children, invite school friends and ask for a contribution to the party :rotfl:

Pollycat

Mr_Singleton wrote: »

Wasn't going to post here but have to say I find it horrendously funny at some of the penny pinching mean spiritedness of some of the response.

#JustSayin'

I see it less 'penny pinching mean spiritedness' and more 'rude and presumptuous' on the part of the organisers.

Just shows how different we all are.

NeilCr

Pollycat wrote: »

I see it less 'penny pinching mean spiritedness' and more 'rude and presumptuous' on the part of the organisers.

Just shows how different we all are.

I think the point is that we don’t know the background and the OP hasn’t been back to update us.

There may be a valid reason for asking (and it is voluntary) for payment but there is this huge condemnation “I wouldn’t go” “rude and presumptuous” without any knowledge of why or thought for the person whose birthday it is.