Greedy Sister!!

PerfectPony

Yes, my degree was a waste of money,that's why I am a well paid Office Manager dictating my own hours after ten years away from the job market lol What an unnecessary ageist statement, scratches head and wonders what you do???

I really don't care what my sister used her money for, the whole problem stems from her coercing my Mum into this Life Interest Trust. I spent a lot of time with my Mum before she died and she was not happy with my sister. It was my sister who did the 'stomping off' being horrible to her. If you think that is acceptable behaviour I would check your moral compass!!

BrassicWoman

You have one way you define success

It differs from the definition your sister uses

It makes neither of you "right"

Wills are not made in one sitting; there's an initial visit, and a write up period, and a review. So mum had time to consider what she was doing

I believe your differing definition of success is making you dishonour your mother's wishes.

newjersey

I seem to be reading more and more of these my parents didn't know what they were doing and/or were forced into signing a will disputes. If your mother made a will with a qualified and experienced solicitor I'm sure he would be able to assess if someone had capacity or not, they are not going to take instructions of a drugged, disoriented confused person. To believe that they were forced to say what they did you then have the problem of contradicting yourself, because if they were so drugged and/or confused to have mental capacity then they would neither have the ability to "rehearse" a story and stick to it. Also if a testator was making a will in order to keep a person onside and continue to visit them, all they would have to do is tell a lie and say, yes I changed the will in your favour, seeing as a will is made in private how would anyone know ? Until they're dead of course.
I think you have to be careful not to let this take over your life. It probably does come as a shock to some people when a will turns out completely different to what they expected. When you say your mother couldn't look at your sister, you don't really know what your mother was thinking. Maybe she was thinking I wish you had been like my other daughter and got a degree and a good job and a home of your own, maybe she was prouder of you for having done that. You just don't know. Parents entitled to give whatever they want to whoever they want. Unfortunately parents are not perfect and sometimes they get it right, sometimes wrong, but that doesn't mean they love any child more or dislike any child less, it's impossible to get everything right everytime so I think you should try and accept this was your mother's ultimate decision, for whatever reason.

Red-Squirrel_2

PerfectPony wrote: »

I agree a round the world trip is probably as educational as a degree, but not when you are nearly 50!!

The more this thread goes on the more I feel sorry for your sister.

Are you jealous of her?

PerfectPony

OMG.... I wish I had been on the Jeremy Kyle Show, why work when you are entitled to something for nothing.....I worked hard to look after my son, pay for my house, and make my Mum proud (she was a grafter!!)... If life was 'fair' I would be a super model and my husband would be playing for Man U.

Bullying is bullying, lazy is lazy.

*max*

PerfectPony wrote: »

OMG.... I wish I had been on the Jeremy Kyle Show, why work when you are entitled to something for nothing.....I worked hard to look after my son, pay for my house, and make my Mum proud (she was a grafter!!)... If life was 'fair' I would be a super model and my husband would be playing for Man U.

Bullying is bullying, lazy is lazy.

And a valid will is a valid will.

Pollycat

PerfectPony wrote: »

My Mum had cancer a couple of years previously, so now it wasn't something said in passing 20 years ago. With regard to offering the property split, this was prior to any knowledge of the will being changed before Mum's death. So, no this wasn't discussed at length because I realised shortly afterwards about the late change of will.

As previously stated, my Mum would not look at my Mother before her death. My sister at one point stomped off exclaiming that I was 'still the favourite and why doesn't she look at me'??

So, if you realised you were ill and one sibling lived up the road and was threatening to 'not visit' over an argument about being 'cut off a photo blah, blah' and the other lived three hours away and had a young child, what would you do? I think I would 'bow to the pressure' and let the more convenient sibling have their way???

Would welcome you comments x

You really aren't welcoming any comments.

You are convinced you are right and nothing that anyone posts will make a difference to that.

bertiewhite

PerfectPony wrote: »

My sister is a waster and spent our grandparents inheritance on a 'round the world trip', I spent mine of a degree? It's not just the money its the principle, to get a dying, heavily drugged woman to change their will in their favour??? My mum couldn't look at my sister for the last weeks before her death and that is why I am fighting it? Would appreciate any support or similar incidents??

PerfectPony wrote: »

What an unnecessary ageist statement, scratches head and wonders what you do???

PerfectPony wrote: »

I think I would 'bow to the pressure' and let the more convenient sibling have their way???

You seem to like question marks - are these statements or questions?

Margot123

Pollycat wrote: »

You really aren't welcoming any comments.

You are convinced you are right and nothing that anyone posts will make a difference to that.

We see this quite often, where posters want agreement rather than advice. It's only human nature after such a stressful event. We have to bear in mind they are bereaved.

Pollycat

Margot123 wrote: »

We see this quite often, where posters want agreement rather than advice. It's only human nature after such a stressful event. We have to bear in mind they are bereaved.

But that's not how public fora work.

I appreciate the OP's Mum has died (no indication of how recently) but from the tone of her replies she appears more angry at what her sister has got and done/not done than anything else.