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wishingthemortgaheaway

Karmacat wrote: »

Your thing about negative/positive comments got me thinking here - (imagine a big paragraph deleted here). I know what it is! I want to look like **me** again - because I don't, not at all. I've adjusted my self image to an age-appropriate one, yes, but there's still a lot missing.

This! This! I want to look like me again. The me before the stress, the black dog, before becoming the person constantly told she wasn't good enough at the job (that they split between 5 people when I left)
The me that wore scarves all the time and people commented when I didn't. The me that had the most awesome coloured shoes that she loved.

I want to be me...
I am becoming me!

Thanks Karma this is it!
I am me.

Thank you.

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wishingthemortgaheaway wrote: »

This! This! I want to look like me again. The me before the stress, the black dog, before becoming the person constantly told she wasn't good enough at the job (that they split between 5 people when I left)
The me that wore scarves all the time and people commented when I didn't. The me that had the most awesome coloured shoes that she loved.

I want to be me...
I am becoming me!

Thanks Karma this is it!
I am me.

Thank you.

What a lovely post. Thank you for expressing so much of what, I imagine, a lot of us feel:T:beer:

Karmacat

How wonderful, wishing! I'm glad it struck such a chord with you (and with FS too )

beanielou

wishingthemortgaheaway wrote: »

This! This! I want to look like me again. The me before the stress, the black dog, before becoming the person constantly told she wasn't good enough at the job (that they split between 5 people when I left)
The me that wore scarves all the time and people commented when I didn't. The me that had the most awesome coloured shoes that she loved.

I want to be me...
I am becoming me!

Thanks Karma this is it!
I am me.

Thank you.

Go glad that you are you
As it says in my signature it's ok to be me

Karmacat

It's a theme, isn't it! I'd forgotten it was already in your sig, beanie, but I've been reading it for all this time, it sank in subconsciously :j
I'm done for the day - great shower, texted with bro, watched Julia Bradbury, dishwasher is on, washing is nearly dry (even though it was indoors - my washing line fell down, I haven't got round to repairing it yet). Found another pair of socks to throw out - but they have a Christmas scene of cats on them, so I'm cutting those out :rotfl:

Sleep well all

Suffolk_lass

Do you know, the "why" I wear earrings (they are 9ct gold hoops) is a bit complicated. I wasn't allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 18 and an adult in law. I had them pierced shortly afterwards, much to my Mother's disgust - she deemed it "common" at that time (we did explain the Queen has pierced ears...) - not any more but she is never going to recommend it! - Therein lies part of the reason. I first left home to live in a travelling community where everyone wore earrings sort of as a way of investing their money in themselves where other possessions were sometimes transient, and it marked a rebellion, passage to adulthood, something of value on me so I was never destitute and part of who I became and still am inside. Where I have not worn mascara for perhaps 5-6 years, I would not feel right without earrings (I have more than one pair but sort of forget to change them much). It was just a few lashes that were too long - at one time I cut the tips but that is a bad idea.

As to colours, I know what suits me and do have some clothes in those popping colours - just not new ones. I might wear something different as we are going to a party tonight but I am happier in my jeans and a sweatshirt (and hoods do keep my ears warm!).

On one level I wish I could mind more, but on another, I would not be me if I did.

Completely with you on moisturiser - it is the one thing I spend lots (for me) on and the best cosmetic for me.

greent

wishingthemortgaheaway wrote: »

Re: 'smartening up' I did a style day recently (ridiculously expensive, but definitely an investment) the thing I picked up mostly on was 'look finished' things like:
Don't just pull hair back into a mum bun - brush it into a pony tail properly - below shoulder length hair. Usually wash and leave it. Occasionally straighten the ends just to tame it. Weekends or sometimes mid week see it sometimes just scrunched back
Wear a pair of earrings -yes - but only because I leave the same ones in 24/7/365!:rotfl:
Never less than foundation, mascara, blusher and lipstick - should take 90seconds. - nope. Think I wore all that for my wedding back in 1995..... Mostly wear a sweep of mascara (short, pale eyelashes which disappear) Maybe 2x/ year get eyebrows shaped and dyed (hair is there but almost clear - not white or grey or even blonde - just invisible! - so it looks at first glance like I have very little eyebrow!) Never ever wear foundation or blusher. Maybe wear a neutral lip tint around twice a year.
Shoes & scarves appropriate for your clothes (rather than just putting the same old pair of scratty trainers on)live in pull on trainers most days - sometimes even for work.....

Just catching up but couldn't resist replying to this. I'm known for how low maintenance I am I'm 50 in March and last dyed my hair around 15+ years ago. I get it cut maybe 2x/ year (usually a cheap dry cut) and live mainly in jeans and jumpers (jeans and vest tops in Summer) except for work which = black trousers, some sort of top and (usually) a long MnS cardigan

Cheery_Daff

I love hearing about other people's clothes/hair/beauty regimes :j what an interesting discussion, and I love how we're all so different :j

I go through phases... my hair is long (below waist length now :eek: ) but I cut it myself and mostly just pull into a really untidy bun. I do very occasionally straighten it which I like the look of, and sometimes wear down at work but not often. Don't think I've dyed it since I moved to a house with a septic tank :rotfl:

I do always wear earrings - at the minute a pair with little dangly treble clefs:j Mr Cheery often buys me a pair for Christmas - never expensive and I regularly lose them Cheap and cheerful for me (but I do like them to dangle). I have the top of one of my ears pierced too and that's had the same decorated silver ring in since 1996 :rotfl: only took it out when I went into hospital. Mostly I forget it's there

I do tend to wear the same clothes over and over... knee high boots, leggings skirt/dress and a cardi for work, and jeans and a jumper (and a permanent hot water bottle at the minute) at home. I do dress up occasionally and like it - but I so often find myself wading through mud at the minute :rotfl:

And I've put on about 3 stone in the last 5 years ago - I was far more experimental (although not necessarily smarter) when I was happier with my weight.

Just a little bit of makeup for me - foundation, mascara, fairly unobtrusive lipstick - but I do wear it every day and rarely go without, even if I'm just at home. Don't imagine I look made up though - it's so little probably I'm the only person who notices

I've got a lot of cheery clothes (.mostly. charity shop) and one of my aims for 2020 is to get back into them! :j

Karmacat

I went out exploring the edge of the next town south, where a new Lidl has opened (difficult, because the railway people are doing landslip work :eek: and what **fantastic posts** to come back to, thank you all so much :j:j:j

Suffolk_lass wrote: »

Do you know, the "why" I wear earrings (they are 9ct gold hoops) is a bit complicated. I wasn't allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 18 and an adult in law. I had them pierced shortly afterwards, much to my Mother's disgust ... I first left home to live in a travelling community where everyone wore earrings sort of as a way of investing their money in themselves where other possessions were sometimes transient, and it marked a rebellion, passage to adulthood, something of value on me so I was never destitute and part of who I became and still am inside.

Oh my word! I can understand that, actually - rebellion is an issue of mine, lets say!

On one level I wish I could mind more, but on another, I would not be me if I did.

Yep! Thats me! Thats the kind of thing I meant when I referred to "crazy paving in the soul"

Completely with you on moisturiser - it is the one thing I spend lots (for me) on and the best cosmetic for me.

I buy the simple brands - Nivea, Simple, etc, or Clarins when I was rich

greent wrote: »

Just catching up but couldn't resist replying to this. I'm known for how low maintenance I am I'm 50 in March and last dyed my hair around 15+ years ago. I get it cut maybe 2x/ year (usually a cheap dry cut) and live mainly in jeans and jumpers (jeans and vest tops in Summer) except for work which = black trousers, some sort of top and (usually) a long MnS cardigan

"Low maintenance" also works as a definition of me and my looks (fleeces not long cardis is the only difference), though my long-time business partner would describe me as extremely high maintenance to talk to :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

I love hearing about other people's clothes/hair/beauty regimes :j what an interesting discussion, and I love how we're all so different :j

Isn't it wonderful! I'm really grateful to everyone for sharing, actually, because my image of what real life women do in this area is coloured by my nearest and dearest

I go through phases... my hair is long (below waist length now :eek: ) but I cut it myself and mostly just pull into a really untidy bun. I do very occasionally straighten it which I like the look of, and sometimes wear down at work but not often. Don't think I've dyed it since I moved to a house with a septic tank :rotfl:

I love all this :rotfl::rotfl: up to and including the septic tank.

I do always wear earrings - at the minute a pair with little dangly treble clefs:j Mr Cheery often buys me a pair for Christmas - never expensive and I regularly lose them Cheap and cheerful for me (but I do like them to dangle). I have the top of one of my ears pierced too and that's had the same decorated silver ring in since 1996 :rotfl: only took it out when I went into hospital. Mostly I forget it's there

Earrings are definitely the way to go - I need to find a little set, and clean and disinfect them, and just *do* it

I do tend to wear the same clothes over and over... knee high boots, leggings skirt/dress and a cardi for work, and jeans and a jumper (and a permanent hot water bottle at the minute) at home. I do dress up occasionally and like it - but I so often find myself wading through mud at the minute :rotfl:

I agree about same clothes over and over - for me its jeans/ trousers and shirt/ fleece. I'd *like* to start weaering leggings/ skirts/ dresses. I have a few really nice ones (from charity shops) and I'll do a bit more in spring. No hot water bottle for me - I sit in an armchair in the living room with my laptop on my knee, and even through 6 layers of a fleece on my lap, my legs are almost burned with the heat!

And I've put on about 3 stone in the last 5 years ago - I was far more experimental (although not necessarily smarter) when I was happier with my weight.

I definitely eat more in winter, and my GP describes me as overweight, but I fit in modern size 12 - I really just need muscle tone, a stronger core, as Strictly would say.

Just a little bit of makeup for me - foundation, mascara, fairly unobtrusive lipstick - but I do wear it every day and rarely go without, even if I'm just at home. Don't imagine I look made up though - it's so little probably I'm the only person who notices

But thats it, isn't it - you're wearing it for you! I can see me regularly wearing earrings and under eye concealer. And maybe to go with the concealer I'd use a pencil eyeliner ... now I've inspected the sock drawer, I might take some time off the finances tomorrow to look at the jewellery box - I have some things from my mum that need to be repaired, and my own earrings are in there somewhere.


Thanks again all - powerful stuff

StrawberrySuze

This is all really interesting, I think we are all low maintenance girls! I ride a bike so the people I mix with tend to not be particularly girly either.

I am usually to be found in jeans or jogging bottoms even though I have a wardrobe full of clothes, mostly dating back to when I had more money, energy and a social life

I wear 4 pairs of earrings, I am quite a greedy person :rotfl: I've just been for my annual haircut, I discovered that after years of paying £30-40 every 8 weeks that I could grow it and trim the fringe myself! I do usually wear concealer, blusher, eyeliner, mascara and lipstick when I'm going to work or out but never foundation. I cant wear jeans for work but I never look very groomed at all, I really don't have that sort of patience :rotfl:

I am now up to over £800 Karmacat :T it would be more but I've now realised that I'm not very good at trading, I was doing quite well but then it went downhill so I am mostly just matched betting again!

Suze x