Travelling On

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My heart goes out to you, KC, over the family issues. I hope you can sort things out very soon or, at least, be able to put them out of your mind:kisses3:.


I really missed out on a loving and close relationship with my sister-in-law. For reasons of her own which I just can't understand my Mum missed no opportunity to play off my brother and I against each other ever since our childhood. It caused rifts that were never healed even by the time of his death last year. She also did it with me and my SIL and because of it I was suspicious of SIL and never developed any sort of close relationship with her. Well, it was my Mum saying all the nasty things that SIL was supposedly saying, and it was natural for me to believe my Mum as SIL was almost a stranger to me. Equally, SIL didn't want to be close to me or have much to do with me because of what Mum had said to her that I'd supposedly said. Not just tittle-tattle but really nasty things, opinions and criticism. All totally untrue. Living several counties apart it wasn't as simple as seeing one another face to face and clearing the air. SIL and I were very rarely ever in the same room for years.


It was only since my brother was in hospital just before he died and SIL and I had some heart-to-hearts, and since then when we've had lots of time to talk we've really opened up to each other and both realise that we have such a lot in common, actually like each other and could have been really good friends over all those 'lost' years. It's so sad what we both missed out on.


Sorry to hijack your diary, KC, as now I have my own I should really post my ramblings on there. I hope you don't mind, especially as you're experiencing family issues yourself, but it all poured out in response to what you said about your current situation xxx

Karmacat

teapot2 wrote: »

Sorry to hear re the gloom KC, hope that shifts a bit in time.

Family stuff is hard and can seem never ending so take care of yourself.

Thanks teapot - you're exactly right, its the neverendingness - I don't think it can be sorted, just lived with.

Hope you get the kitchen as you want it before the Wickes' person comes to measure up etc.

Now *this* is much more possible :rotfl: Daft things like clearing the surfaces so he doesn't get grubbiness on his stuff. I really need a light coloured work surface

carbootcrazy wrote: »

My heart goes out to you, KC, over the family issues. I hope you can sort things out very soon or, at least, be able to put them out of your mind:kisses3:.

Thanks CBC - yes, thats about the size of it too, you're right.

I really missed out on a loving and close relationship with my sister-in-law. For reasons of her own which I just can't understand my Mum missed no opportunity to play off my brother and I against each other ever since our childhood. It caused rifts that were never healed even by the time of his death last year. She also did it with me and my SIL and because of it I was suspicious of SIL and never developed any sort of close relationship with her. .....

Oh my word. You poor things thats an utter tragedy. My step-grandmother, who lived with us, was that manipulative, but not my mother, I'm so sorry to hear this.

Sorry to hijack your diary, KC, as now I have my own I should really post my ramblings on there. I hope you don't mind, especially as you're experiencing family issues yourself, but it all poured out in response to what you said about your current situation xxx

I'm really glad you still post on here and especially triggered by what I'm writing about, absolutely. Thank you.

greent

Sorry to hear about more family issues, Kc. Hopefully they'll get sorted soon - or at least enough that they stop troubling your sleep xx

beanielou

Sorry to read of the family stuff.
Take care xx

Karmacat

Thanks both - yes, thats a hopefuly achievable aim, greent, that they stop troubling my sleep. Of course, that may then be replaced by Brexit! I've got the tv on in the background, the MPs are milling about after having voted on the 2nd amendment. I can't bear to listen to them all, but I do want to know whats going on

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Karmacat wrote: »

Of course, that may then be replaced by Brexit! I've got the tv on in the background, the MPs are milling about after having voted on the 2nd amendment. I can't bear to listen to them all, but I do want to know whats going on

I'm ashamed to say that Brexit is completely dominating my life at the moment:o. I'm a politics freak at the best of times anyway (which totally bemuses OH:rotfl:) but the current situation is something else altogether:eek:. I had the TV on yesterday (although I wasn't always sedentary and glued to the screen) from the minute I woke up about 6 to dragging myself to bed about midnight. I spent much of the day flicking between BBC 24, The Parliament channel and Sky News. Fortunately they're adjacent channels on Freeview so flicking back and forth via the handset is effortless:j. Looks like it will be more of the same again today.

Karmacat

OMG, CBC, I couldn't do that in a million years :rotfl::kisses3:

Partly because they're all still being party-political and point scoring, partly because I think that there genuinely is no concensus about what's wanted.

Can I beg, from the bottom of my heart, for us *not* to discuss Brexit pro and con on this thread? CBC isn't doing that, just echoing my news-following, but if people start discussing Brexit on here, I will literally have to start a new diary :o:o that's how problematic it is to me. Sorry for bringing it in!

Anyway, today, I have Lewis on the tv in the background and there are several items to work on:
- SB is done.
- nearly done the kitchen
- work on the Sun holiday application.
- text/phone colleague and Glasto friend
- two birthday cards to send off for the 18th of this month.
- any "spare" energy, work on the accounts.
- and then, at 5pm, the kitchen planner, hopefully. Hope the guy turns up after all this.

beanielou

Hope all goes well with the kitchen planner

teapot2

Busy day potentially and hope all goes well with the kitchen planner's visit later on. Look forward to hearing how it goes and progress made

Karmacat

Evening all! I rested for most of the afternoon before the kitchen bloke turned up - it went really well, I have to say! He wanted to make recommendations, I wanted to tell him my wish list, we were able to do both

One really good bit is that I thought I'd have to have the worktop extended outwards to cover the dw and wm fully - turns out that when I have the plugs moved so that they're accessible, there'll be more room at the back of them, so they'll go right under the counter.


Currently, those two appliances sit side by side - he suggested splitting them, which sounded weird to me at first, but then he explained that replacing one with a cupboard would give the work surface above more support - and its true, it kind of bounces if you have something hard you're cutting.

Quote will come in a few days, he'll put me in touch with a builder/ fitter who'll quote for the chimney piece, plastering, and ceiling. Hurray! And I'm so glad I cleared and cleaned the work surfaces - it was *extremely* necessary, it turns out