On-line dating experiences?

AubreyMac

DUTR wrote: »

'They' say there are 7 guys to every woman on the sites, factor in other variables and it would more fruitful to message many to get a chance of a chat which may lead to a date which may lead to a succesful relationship.

Really?


I'm not convinced.

Huwbert

I've tried the paid sites and a few years ago, MSF was pretty good, but then went downhill. I've tried Match and eHarmony as a paid member (Match more recently) and didn't find them that good, and no responses to medages. So I think I'll stick with POF (one of my mates met her now husband on POF a couple of years ago), so at least I'm not spending anything just to get no responses!

Also, with Match, has anyone noticed that as soon as the paid membership expires, all of a sudden their profile gets favourited and lots of views?

mariposa687

See I've heard mixed reviews about eHarmony so not willing to pay for it yet.

Jobs - I don't mind what job they have as long as they are good with money. One of the reasons my last relationship ended was that he expected me to pay for a lot more than my half.

Good to see that there have been some positive experiences as well. I've learned now to let go of the ones who only want to chat for ages and it never seems to go anywhere. There's someone else I've been texting but it's turning more in to pen pals than a date at this rate!

zarabelle

As for responding to men, I used to always write back, even if it was a polite "thank you but I don't think we are suited", usually because the guy in question had completely ignored my preferences. More often than not, I got a stream of abuse for rejecting them.

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Is there an accepted etiquette then with dating online, should a man only talk to one woman at a time if arranging a coffee maybe, do women do the same, asking because I feel a little guilty talking to a few women at the same time, although I’m sure women do it too before picking the best option to date?

What’s the general opinion from women On that?

mariposa687

I talk to multiple people at a time now as some tend to just stop talking to you. If I'm talking to you then I'm still interested in the possibility of a date. I once went on 2 dates one day after the other, it's just the way it happened. I was glad I hadn't stopped talking to others as neither of these 2 worked out.

DUTR

zarabelle wrote: »

As for responding to men, I used to always write back, even if it was a polite "thank you but I don't think we are suited", usually because the guy in question had completely ignored my preferences. More often than not, I got a stream of abuse for rejecting them.

Out of curiosity... how can one tell from just a few snap shots and a little bit of text?

zarabelle

I think it's okay to keep chatting with other potential partners until things get serious but common sense should apply, like don't make dates on the same night with different people. Certainly, don't try it with 6 women:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/08/09/guys-attempt-date-six-women-one-night-backfires-spectacularly/

zarabelle

When I was on Match.com, I was 25 and had set my age preferences to 25-35 for men. I also wanted someone with a similar level of education to me and, as I don't want children, I made it clear that I didn't want to date men with kids. I used to get a lot of guys messaging me who were 50+ or who had children. When I replied to them to say that I didn't think we were compatible, I'd then get a few nasty messages about my looks or accusing me of being stuck up or frigid. It happened a lot.

Ladykernow

I'm living with the guy I met 3.5 years ago on plenty of fish. You get ups and down's, but enjoy the experiences!