On-line dating experiences?

Linnty

Good for you.
I met my husband on the old FR Dating website. I didn’t consider his first approach message at all as he lived over 300 miles away, plus I was unable to answer immediately as was working 12hr shifts and in the middle of a series of them. He sent a 2nd one saying I should politely answer if not interested. Wasn’t the case but it prompted me to reply. We hit it off and were were pen pals for a month or so then phoned, and then met after 4 months with him travelling up and staying in a B&B.
Once I’d started writing regularly and phoning I stopped meeting other people as I didn’t think it fair. He was the same. The time spent emailing and phoning allowed us to get to know each other rather well before meeting - photos had been exchanged etc. To cut a long story short, He sold up where he lived and moved to be with me, we lived together 5 years and have now been married over 7 years.

You don’t always get the chance to meet up quickly, don’t write off someone who lives a distance away, it can work! Some of those I met quicker and lived locally (before seeing hubby) were only after one thing though one or two were genuine. I had met one other person before hubby who also lived some distance away, who was very nice too but it didn’t work out.
Good luck with your date. Persevere with the dating, as it took me nearly 3 years to find mr right!

lizziebabe

Hi all. I was on a dating site for the over 50's. Chatted to a lot of guys but only ever went on 2 dates. Got on well with both of them but started a relationship with the second guy. We had a great time but sadly it was not to be, however boosted my self confidence after being on my own for 13 years.

Will try again but have learned a few lessons, like others have said: don't take things too seriously as you may get knocked back, but don't take it personally. I specify that I am not interested in ONS, as I am looking for a relationship but not marriage. I don't lie on my profile and do expect honesty from others.

Maybe there is someone out there for each of us but I just enjoy going out and don't have too many high expectations. All the best to everyone...

sheepy21

Me and my husband met online nearly 10yrs ago on online dating I was 17 and he was 24, we're now happily married with a two year old son and buying a house :beer:
I felt online dating helped weed out people that weren't right without wasting time on an actual date! My little sister and her future husband met on POF, three years down the line they're happy as Larry. So for me online dating is great :T

Southernman

I met my husband online! It was on POF

ka7e

My daughter met her now-husband on POF. They were both professionals, living in London with active social lives, but their paths would never have crossed without a dating site. Both met and dated a fair number of other people (some good, some bad) from the site before meeting each other and both had devised their own screening process to ensure they were on the same page before meeting someone new.



SIL has a sound theory for using dating sites- if you walk into a social situation with 100 people there, 50% will be romantically excluded due to gender. Of the remaining 50, 30% will be outside the desired age range, 20% will be already attached, 20% will not be interested in a long-term relationship and 10% you may not be physically attracted to. If you walked into a room with just the remaining 10 people you are far more likely to find "the one"! He says they are useful tools to sort the wheat from the chaff!

DUTR

ka7e wrote: »

My daughter met her now-husband on POF. They were both professionals, living in London with active social lives, but their paths would never have crossed without a dating site. Both met and dated a fair number of other people (some good, some bad) from the site before meeting each other and both had devised their own screening process to ensure they were on the same page before meeting someone new.



SIL has a sound theory for using dating sites- if you walk into a social situation with 100 people there, 50% will be romantically excluded due to gender. Of the remaining 50, 30% will be outside the desired age range, 20% will be already attached, 20% will not be interested in a long-term relationship and 10% you may not be physically attracted to. If you walked into a room with just the remaining 10 people you are far more likely to find "the one"! He says they are useful tools to sort the wheat from the chaff!

In 2018 ???
That's assuming 1 of the remaining 10 are into her , surely?

ka7e

It was my Son-In-Law that made the observation, but no. there is no guarantee for finding your ideal partner in any 10 dates. But the process lets you filter more effectively than randomly approaching people at a nightclub etc. And in 2018, if you are LGBT you are far more likely to use an agency/app that is more diverse than POF.

DUTR

ka7e wrote: »

It was my Son-In-Law that made the observation, but no. there is no guarantee for finding your ideal partner in any 10 dates. But the process lets you filter more effectively than randomly approaching people at a nightclub etc. And in 2018, if you are LGBT you are far more likely to use an agency/app that is more diverse than POF.

It doesn't matter how much or little you filter, the other party needs to be interested in you too, even if there is a couple doesn't mean that one is not attracted to somebody else.

Pollycat

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