On-line dating experiences?

alumende27

An older friend met a number of women using an online dating service. After being single for years he ended up spending the last 10 years or so of his life with a lady he met online.

After I got divorced some 14 years ago I tried both online dating and speed-dating. The latter was scary but much more fun. I found online dating very frustrating. A friend, who I met from it who lived in London said she used it just to meet people and if anything came of it then great, but my own experience outside of London is the women seemed to be only interested in serious dating and reluctant to even meet up with people they didn't think were relationship material. I'll echo the earlier comments about people telling porkies. I saw a few profiles online of people I knew and boy did they have inflated egos!

In the end I ended up dating someone who works in the same office who I'd known for years, and we're still together 9 years later...

Oakdene

Haha you couldn't make it up, started talking to a lady on Tinder (other dating apps are available) & she seemed really nice, however it quickly transpired that it was my ex girlfriend...

PeacefulWaters

Oakdene wrote: »

Haha you couldn't make it up, started talking to a lady on Tinder (other dating apps are available) & she seemed really nice, however it quickly transpired that it was my ex girlfriend...

Did she put somebody else's photo on her page?

Oakdene

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

Did she put somebody else's photo on her page?

I think she got her friend to sign up & use her facebook info (the 2 apps are linked) & then she used the account. The questions she was asking quickly made it clear it was my ex. I didn't send anything that made it known I knew but she was pressing for a date (despite only speaking for about 5 hours) & there were a few other things.

I decided not to cause any issue or friction & just unmatched at about 21:55 last night, within 10 minutes I was inundated with calls from a withheld number :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

JayJay100

Oakdene wrote: »

Haha you couldn't make it up, started talking to a lady on Tinder (other dating apps are available) & she seemed really nice, however it quickly transpired that it was my ex girlfriend...

That takes me back; something similar happened to me, only I went one step further. I was talking to an ex for a while, without realising it; I thought I'd hit the jackpot, as he was exactly what I was looking for, with similar interests, views and even sayings. We arranged to meet up, I got stood up and low and behold, my ex just happened to be walking past and came to the rescue. We even went for a drink to lament my woes. It was only when he said the name of the person I was supposed to be meeting, when I knew I hadn't told him, that the penny dropped. That was a low moment.

Oakdene

JayJay100 wrote: »

That takes me back; something similar happened to me, only I went one step further. I was talking to an ex for a while, without realising it; I thought I'd hit the jackpot, as he was exactly what I was looking for, with similar interests, views and even sayings. We arranged to meet up, I got stood up and low and behold, my ex just happened to be walking past and came to the rescue. We even went for a drink to lament my woes. It was only when he said the name of the person I was supposed to be meeting, when I knew I hadn't told him, that the penny dropped. That was a low moment.

Wow, how bizarre.

I did have a look on facebook at the 'friend' as we share mutual friend & her profile picture was a pic of her & my ex :rotfl:

JayJay100

Oakdene wrote: »

Wow, how bizarre.

I did have a look on facebook at the 'friend' as we share mutual friend & her profile picture was a pic of her & my ex :rotfl:

Bizarre and horrible at the time.

Sounds as though you had a lucky escape there!

Oakdene

JayJay100 wrote: »

Bizarre and horrible at the time.

Sounds as though you had a lucky escape there!

You're not wrong, something did twig when she mentioned when we were together about how one of her best friends is a solicitor named xxxx. Always trust your gut

SuperPikachu

I grew up doing the yahoo & various band chatrooms. I used to chat to so many girls all around the world, and then if we got on chat on msn messenger etc.

Anyway these people were generally from god knows where on Earth, but all my time spent online playing games and chatting online to people meant I was a bit useless at doing it in person, it was always much easier for me to communicate through typing.

I used to go out all the time to clubs/pubs and used to try it on with some of my work colleagues but nothing really ever came of that and I started to feel lonely in my early 20s and wondered why I couldn't find somebody.

I first tried eharmony and match but never paid for those. I did chat to a few people but nothing came of it. When I went on POF it seemed the girls I was talking to all just wanted to meet for a one night stand, if the girl actually replied (!), then I had some good conversations with a few girls that seemed to want more of a relationship and ended up with maybe 3 or 4 dates and 2 relationships from it over the years (1 for 5/6months and 1 for 3years). But when that last one ended I decided to just meet somebody again and luckily somebody I knew from years ago liked me and we have been together 4 1/2 years now which is really nice.

I think I would echo what others have said. Do not take it personally, don't get obsessive, don't ever think somebody is too good for you, do not ask for feedback (that is needy and strange), do not insult people that do not respond as the next girl might be their best friend.

Just be yourself and try to have fun

DaveyBoi1901

I've been on online dating for nearly 5 years now and not even a sniff. Must be either because I am "too honest" in my profile or woman don't want a fella with an illness. Several sites, paid and free ones. Still on them now and check several times a day in the vain hope.