Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

-taff

Or a feeling of guilt and being responsible for someone. Had an ex who basically acted in such a way that I reacted by turning into the fixer of things. He played in a band which was more important to him than anything else, including getting a proper job [because that would interefere with playing in band] or moving out [because that would require proper job].
Eventually, I left, his mother died, he had to move out and now he appears to be surviving and has grown up enough to start taking responsibility for his choices and the consequences of those choices.
No one [who isn't of a certain mind set] develops self responsibility unless they have to.
I understand Mooloos position, because it's not just her son, it's the grandkids too, but there's always the choice of take the grandkids and let the son develop his choices by himself.

Slinky

Not said as a criticism of you Mooloo, but I really hope that you and the son/gf don't get custody of the 2 children. You may have plenty of love to give them, but from what you say nobody in your family can afford to bring them up. I really hope they get placed with a suitable family so that you can concentrate on yourself and DGD and building a good future for yourselves.


And I really hope your son/gf see that they cannot keep bringing more children they can't cope with into this world.

Savvy_sewing

Dgd has a friend over.
DS has gone.
I am having a hot tody and going to bed for an hour.
I struggled through the day. Not helping when customers tell me I look like rubbish. Well they used another word but I will be polite.
Let's see what an hour or two will do.
Think Dgd will be having noodles, followed by strawberries and cream!!
Oh well never mind

-taff

Whisky or brandy with hot milk and honey also another go to for relaxing and sleeping at night also recoomend night nurse cold ad flu tablets, not cheap, but really work. Tesco's own version is just as good too.

BrassicWoman

Mooloo wrote: »

Habit as provider as a mum.
Although I get fed up I still keep caving in!

I don't know why when my head knows it. My heart takes over.

At the moment I am my own worst enemy.

So.


What does Mooloo need to look after herself, to give her the strength to break the cycle?


How can you get a little bit of distance?


You're an intelligent person. But you are also exhausted. And that often leads to easy, not good, decisions...


We are here in the background cheering you on, hoping you will put you and DGD first for a while!

Savvy_sewing

I only surfaced for a short time yesterday. Couldn't get warm until I had had my second hot tody! Dgd made me pancakes bless her. I slept most of the night. I have been awake a while, dosed up on paracetamol.
But I have to go into work this morning. I am running a Cushion making Course this morning and children's lessons this afternoon.
Then I will be back home for a duvet weekend I think!
Simple meals and worry about the housework etc later.
Monday we have a meeting about the children. Not sure if I will go or not as it's DS that wants me to go, but not sure if Social will let me in. Don't feel well enough to go so far just to hang around.
Least with DS away this weekend I can relax as the gf will not be anywhere near.
Only got to get through the next 8 hours - I can do that.

phryne

Slinky wrote: »

And I really hope your son/gf see that they cannot keep bringing more children they can't cope with into this world.

Well..

Mooloo has such energy and drive, but sadly the son and/or the girlfriend seems to be a bit of a no-hoper

I admire her for being able to keep going, I think the stress and worry of it all would knock me for six.

Savvy_sewing

The cold/cough/ what ever it is has made me struggle through Saturday. I managed to teach the courses, but as soon as we had finished dinner, I came to bed. Luckily Dgd is confident enough to get her self to bed when she has too.
Today I am not going anywhere or doing very much. Next week is full on so I only have today to recouporate.
Small amount of pottering will be necessary. Washing, vacuum, and making space for the family coming to visit.
Dgd2 coming Tuesday, while Biggest goes into have her Caesar on Wednesday.
Twin1, partner and dgs5 coming Wednesday for Dgds Birthday Thursday. And staying until Friday.
Presume DS will be home later today. lAC review is tomorrow I think.

Wednesday also sees the boys here for the majority of the day. Full House practically.!!
Let's hope for a sunny day so we can spill out into the garden.

ivyleaf

Wishing you a speedy recovery, Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Duvet day definitely all I can cope with today.
The washing machines been on, each time I venture down stairs to the loo I move it on, but that exhausts me.
This time I made tea. Paracetamol every 4 hours.
Back to back box set on Netflix. Never done that before in my life. There is always a first they say!
Dgd is playing Minecraft. For once I don't have any ever to get her to do much else.