Refusing to pay rent please help

Margot123

Samsung_Note2 wrote: »

My late mother went through something similar only minus children living with her.

Even after divorce and numerous attendances from Police due to her Husband being abusive (he even spat at a female officer when he was being questioned,right charmer) the Housing association/police couldn't do anything.

Only after he wanted to leave did he...shocking the abuse my late mother had to endure.

Whilst it may be terrible advice on the surface,id say find somewhere to live,even as a temp measure,as your General Health/Mental Health and the well being of your children is the most important thing.

OP please don't take this advice. STAY WHERE YOU ARE! Seek help from the relevant agencies.

Whilst the above is a sympathetic post, it appears to recall things that happened some time ago involving a person who may have had equity in the property (husband).
The system has drastically changed in recent years/months.

prowla

Poppypen wrote: »

Divorce? If only I could afford one.


Thanks for the replies. Guess I was just hoping someone had a idea I hadn't thought of.

Less than £100.

martinthebandit

Get yourself a big boyfriend for a few weeks perhaps?

Snowatlast

If you wanted to become extreme. Lock you fridge so only your family have access to it. Hide the toothpaste,toilet paper. Get pay as you go electric. If these runs out this might force him to contribute. If you pay for energy don't let him use the gas oven. This could actually anger him and might be a bad move or speak to his parents. Tell them your struggling and he doesn't contribute to anything.

AWPTheo

I would get his parents involved and speak to women’s aid.

Do not move out. Get professional advice first. Your son would be housed but not with you so it would create a difficult situation there. He sounds like a nightmare. Financially crippling you is still abuse as mentioned before. Only make the house unpleasant if you know he will not get physically abusive.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

macman

What makes you think that a divorce is more expensive than continuing to pay 100% of the household bills? That must cost you more in a couple of months than a straightforward divorce. You can usually get a half hour legal advice interview with a solicitor for free, that would at least help you to establish your options.

Red-Squirrel_2

macman wrote: »

What makes you think that a divorce is more expensive than continuing to pay 100% of the household bills? That must cost you more in a couple of months than a straightforward divorce. You can usually get a half hour legal advice interview with a solicitor for free, that would at least help you to establish your options.

What are the chances of it being a straightforward divorce though? Only one party wants it, the other can make it very awkward and very expensive if he wants to.

This is an abusive relationship, getting out of it is not going to be the same as getting out of an ordinary relationship that has just run its course where both parties are basically reasonable.

aneary

If there has been domestic abuse and the police have been involved you may be entitled to legal aid for a divorce.
Look up local Solicitors who have a legal aid contract and contact them.

Kim_kim

Margot123 wrote: »

OP please don't take this advice. STAY WHERE YOU ARE! Seek help from the relevant agencies.

Whilst the above is a sympathetic post, it appears to recall things that happened some time ago involving a person who may have had equity in the property (husband).
The system has drastically changed in recent years/months.

I would agree with this. Also stop treading on eggshells. If he does respond badly to normal behaviour then you can call the police to protect you from his abuse. Then get an injunction.

badmemory

I am going to completely ignore how this is for you & ask how it is for your children. They need to be away from a person who is acting abusively in any way whether physically, emotionally or financially. Children learn from what they see. Do you want your son to get a girlfriend & think it is okay to live off her, do you want your daughter to think it is right that her partner lives off her income because he can't be ars** to work? He isn't going to change this - only you can.

It is my (admitted limited) experience that mothers will put up with an awful lot until they realise that what they are tolerating is also starting to effect their children.