“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

Cherryfudge

I hope things have gone okay with youngest and she's on the mend again. x

WannabeFree

And on that note I do realise it isn't for here so back to what here is for.

Today won't be a NSD.

Have taxi fare to town and I will be getting a coffee. I can't walk the weather's horrid. Spring needs to hurry up!

Hope you all have a wonderful day

x

Cross posted Cherry just a cold I think she's still sleeping leaving her to sleep

x

Toni'sfriend

My son (now 36) remembers "helping his grandmother make soup and "helping his grandfather in the garden. I remember playing ludo and snakes and ladders with my parents and grandparents on a Sunday night and that was back in the early fifties.

W, you've had a really tough time lately. Your exhausted and out of your routine and routine is important to you. I'm sure this will feeling will pass.

I hope the wee one improves.

Take care xxx

Cherryfudge

Oops, sorry to cross post W. Glad it's just a cold.
There will be things to do within range of the hospital - and I'm sure you'll find them though at the moment you will be missing the things you used to do but can't. Ask around and there may be other parents or staff with ideas. Also don't a lot of children's 'feel good' moments come from endlessly re-watching the same favourite movies?
It's blowing a gale here but at least we have sunshine. I hope your appointment goes well and the coffee is good.

UncannyScot

Morning WannabeFree

Posting from work, I didn't want to just read and then rush off to do my next task here...

YOU are an amazing mum, You always put your wee yins first in everything and trust me, they will remember how you gave everything for them.

It is the simplest wee things that kids remember about their happiest times of their childhoods... and you have and are creating plenty of them with yours.

They are your world and you are theirs WannabeFree and that is an awesome thing
(((((HUGS)))))

WannabeFree

Thank you TF. You're right about the routine. I guess it's finding a whole new one now.

Cherry you are right she loves the simple things - I just can't help thinking we are wasting time. I guess it's all about finding the balance.

Thank you US as always

x

WannabeFree

So time to make some plans.. This week is different so out the budget - have to buy some things on Friday £130.20 (why is special needs things so much more expensive? It will last though and is a 'one off')

But after this week

Weekly Out
£99.10 Rent
£25.60 CT
£15 Gas
£15 Electric
£11.40 Water
£2.50 TV License
£2.50 for phone credit
£16 bus pass *this is needed now we have so many appointments

£33 Debt

£2 Snack

£25 for food/everything else.

Debt

Debt £490

Medical item £190

Goals

To be debt free soon as possible (then debt repayments will go into an EF and 'fun' pot)

Enjoy the time with smalls - be grateful we have some and make the most of it. (medical item and Friday's purchases means daily living is easier - we can do school runs etc without trying to find 'help') It also means we can enjoy outside time/walks and even go to the supermarket and things without a big inconvenience)

Attend appointments - definitely needed.

Keep up other two smalls groups - thanks to advice here they now have somewhere they can talk and meet other smalls in similar situations.

Make the most of what we have - luckier than a lot!

Overall be happier - keep it simple. Me being happier makes them happier - makes doing things easier.

Keep looking for 'options' - keep an open mind.

Think that's enough rambling.

hugglemonster

Just wanted to say hi and sorry you're having such a tough time, you sound like a fantastic person and Mum who is doing the very best and more!

Just wondered if you have anywhere you can chat with other adults whilst the kids play for instance, a bit of adult company talking about something else may not solve anything but a bit of a chance to unwind. I hope that makes sense!

I apologise for not knowing enough about 'you' and what is and isn't possible (will read the thread) but wondered if there are any local groups that may do day trips or if there's any support groups etc that do social events. Museums locally that are free and castles that have free entry.

I don't know how you manage with £25 for food, there's a website called Olio where people post their excess food for free (it's not bad food) maybe see if you can get something in your area.

Hope that's ok I mean it with the best intentions, H x

HairyHandofDartmoor

I agree that simple pleasures are what children remember most fondly. Cards, board games, baking, watching favourite dvds together, picnics in the park, and just chatting to their parents and siblings.

I hope things go okay for you today Wannabe.

jwil

I hope you are feeling better soon and that DD is feeling better as well. Hopefully knowing that the court costs are paid, even if the debt hasn't gone means that you can relax a bit knowing that your house is safe.

I agree with the others, that the little things are the things the kids remember and love - the living room picnics rather than sitting at the table, watching a film with some sweeties, snuggling down and being read to, as well as crafts and baking etc.

It must be so hard with littlest and her health issues, and worrying about what the future will hold, as well as struggling with the budget. Hopefully things will ease a bit once the debt has gone and you'll be able to enjoy your holiday in October and look forwards.

Hopefully we'll be in for a bit better weather soon, it makes a big difference to the mood!

You can post whatever you want on this diary. It doesn't have to be all about the money. Equally if you only want to post about money stuff then that's fine too.