Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread part 2½

mhoc

Difficult isnt it, hospitals went to move people out of beds as soon as possible, even when they really are not ready and still need a lot of physical care.

If they are offering your mum care home places with big top up fees you will just need to be very firm with the social workers and tell them you just cant afford any extra , you just dont have the money. It wont help anyone putting extra financial strain on yourself.

If your brother isnt co-operating then you might have to stop consulting him and just make the decisions yourself.
We had a similar situation when my Dad went into a home. All the decisions that were made I did with my middle sister - the youngest sister had fallen out with my Dad, didnt visit him for nearly a year - shocking isnt it, we never really knew what it was about - so we just had to exclude her from everything - even the everyday organising stuff we did for him when he was in the home.

tweets wrote: »

Quick mum update I may not answer your quotes but you deserve an update if I can get to end without crying again

Last Monday update at home mum in now she had been there 9 weeks :eek:

Still not walking

Bro wasn't at meeting he working me and Aunty went
Mum was also there with social worker , a physio and 2 staff.

Decided mum needed to go in short stay carehome for 4 weeks not fit enough to go home still in wheelchair in home she in.

Social worker sent email to age uk lady asking if she could ring me and explain.

She rang but we decided it best if she visited .

She did Friday after work I was on my own did text bro telling him when she was visiting didn't hear back from him

Lady talked to me and I understand short stay may be longer stay or even permanent

Gave me 4 homes which catered for mums needs to try or get her back walking so she could go home
1 full but :eek: wouldn't send Poppy there :mad:
Big top up fee one and another nearly as far away for me as one she in now .

Aunty away went Friday back tomorrow so she ringing me either today or tomorrow about meeting me to go visiting homes 2 near me but one got massive :eek: top up fee which age woman said me and bro would have to pay its more than my weekly pay :eek:

We going visiting Tuesday after work as far as I know if aunty still being able to make it . They want mum out off home asap.

Have shown AJ the homes and we have put the same home at number one

Bro finally got in touch last night and left me in floods of tears which made our Poppy jump up next to me and she started licking my hand she my :A

Not even going into what bro said :mad:

I could easily have packed my bags and Poppy's last night and vanished without a trace. Thank goodness for DS , AJ and Cook at work .

AJ and Cook are :A

Also got another Aunty , 1 mums neighbours and mum herself doing my head in could scream I am doing my best but seems the best isn't good enough I need to do more.

Have to go now tears about to start again.

Sorry if its higgildy piggildy and out of sorts bit like me at the moment

elainemn

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Hells bells:rotfl:

I hope the ingredients weren't expensive:eek:

I've done loads today so I might reward myself with a trip to A.....trying to work out which one elaine is at and avoid it as she'll have scooped up all the wombles:rotfl:

Not me today. I have a family birthday tea party. We have had jacket potatoes (10p through the week for the ex special ones), salad with loads of tomatoes, cheesy coleslaw (5p last night) and black forrest gateau (betty crocker base) with loads of poached cherries in the middle and whole cherries on the top as well as scones, apple pie and other home made treats.

I am very generous to my guests. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:They are going home with tomatoes, 10p potatoes, salad and cherries.

bubbs

Jeremiah_T_Stone wrote: »

Cool :cool:

Sorry to hear about poor Mr Bubbs' sunburn Hope he is much better and you still managed to have a good time - I know Gibraltar well

Good luck for the job application :A

Ice ice baby:rotfl::rotfl:
Thanks, he cant get ordinary socks on still so went and got him some trainer socks as he dont usually wear them, he really should not be going work but hey ho, bet his feet will be that swollen when he gets home as they are still swollen now:eek: 2 weeks later since it happened:o
Yes fingers crossed for job
Sarah sounds like Harley is making progress:T:T how is dh ?

Splodge12

So sorry Tweets that you are going through such a tough time.

tweets

mhoc wrote: »

Difficult isnt it, hospitals went to move people out of beds as soon as possible, even when they really are not ready and still need a lot of physical care.

If they are offering your mum care home places with big top up fees you will just need to be very firm with the social workers and tell them you just cant afford any extra , you just dont have the money. It wont help anyone putting extra financial strain on yourself.

If your brother isnt co-operating then you might have to stop consulting him and just make the decisions yourself.
We had a similar situation when my Dad went into a home. All the decisions that were made I did with my middle sister - the youngest sister had fallen out with my Dad, didnt visit him for nearly a year - shocking isnt it, we never really knew what it was about - so we just had to exclude her from everything - even the everyday organising stuff we did for him when he was in the home.

Aunty helping me hopefully care home that seems nice is nice and no top up fee. Will see

tweets

Splodge12 wrote: »

So sorry Tweets that you are going through such a tough time.

Bro been on phone again and ended up cutting me off said he was upset because I had a go at him which he deserved . Then rang mum luckily she was ok because I didn't like what bro had been saying to her.

Or should say what bro said he had said to her.


So hopefully I should sleep tonight didn't get much last night thanks to bro :mad:

mhoc

tweets wrote: »

Aunty helping me hopefully care home that seems nice is nice and no top up fee. Will see

Hopefully this works out - is this the one thats furthest away?

AT the home my Dad was in they had included wi fi so one resident had a weekly skype with a relative who lived in Australia - possibly your mum is not ready for skype but I imagine staff set it all up for them so its worth considering

At least when they are in a carehome it lifts some of the everyday worry - I think my Dad 'engineered' some if the falls he had before he went into a home ...

fuzzgun19

Anon wrote: »

Good question - Bella I sell giftcards as they show on Z33k and on their website, but not sure if you could use a giftcard to buy one (they do sell them in the restaurant according to the website)? Has anyone tried?

The terms make no mention of giftcards excluded- it can only be used once for £20 or more transaction, no cash equivalent.

It would be fantastic if it worked.

I am still getting through Gweggs too - we will miss our bacon sandwiches and steak bakes when they finish (and will probably need to go on a diet - we had "a few" !).

Many thanks

Anon

Id be interested to know this too. Only have a Bella near me but not been once yet and like you have ‘a few’ APs.

Still have about 50 gweggy lol but if needs be will just buy bottled drinks to save wasting any APs. Been buying gweg buns and bread which is nice amongst other things.

tweets

mhoc wrote: »

Hopefully this works out - is this the one thats furthest away?

AT the home my Dad was in they had included wi fi so one resident had a weekly skype with a relative who lived in Australia - possibly your mum is not ready for skype but I imagine staff set it all up for them so its worth considering

At least when they are in a carehome it lifts some of the everyday worry - I think my Dad 'engineered' some if the falls he had before he went into a home ...

No the home is 5 mins away from me could come home first from work and go walkies before I go and visit.

Sarahdol75

Bubbs oh is good thankyou.