Breaking up before finishing unpacking

katejo

Ulfar wrote: »

This is going to sound pessimistic but it sounds like she had an exit plan.

If one of you can buy the other out and take over the mortgage in sole name then that is the way to go. That however is a big if.

I would suggest seeking the advicce of a solicitor.

That was my first thought as well. Otherwise why did she go ahead with it?

Crashy_Time

Radiskull wrote: »

Some really helpful points being made here, thank you all very much. I thought the stressful part was over once we got the keys - how wrong I was! As I said, we're as amicable as you can be considering the situation. I intend to stay put until everything is worked out, we're just staying in seperate rooms and trying to make the best out of a horrible situation. The more I think about it, I'm leaning towards pursuing the option of buying her out. My knee-jerk reaction was to just let her buy me out and walk away but then I would be stuck having to start from scratch. I know she has a few credit card debts which may go against her whereas I have zero debts but a slightly lower basic wage.

Get some female visitors over, buy a shed, measure up for a very large telly, let her know you are going nowhere, hopefully she will take the hint and move on to the almost certain other guy.

Red-Squirrel_2

katejo wrote: »

That was my first thought as well. Otherwise why did she go ahead with it?

Maybe because she genuinely thought/hoped things would work out.

If she just wanted a house, and she can afford to buy him out, why wouldn't she have just ended the relationship first and then bought a house on her own? This way is much more hassle and more expensive, it doesn't make any sense at all that she would have planned this.

She's probably going through a tough time too, just because you are the one to end a relationship doesn't mean you don't also suffer a loss and feel great sadness for it. In real life there are no 'goodies' and 'baddies'.

OP, keep the high ground, you are handling it fine, don't let these posters (or any friends you may have in real life saying the same things) drag you down or goad you into anything.

parking_question_chap

Sounds like this was planned.

I would keep paying the mortgage and living there, and make her buy you out for well over the actual value.

Dont move out until its sorted.