Starting over...

UncannyScot

ladymay wrote: »

Haha!!

So I have an old friend who I used to perform in musicals with when we were kids (15/16), and we hadn't seen each other in years because we both worked on cruise ships and lived in London (he's also a singer) but our paths just never crossed. When I was home at Christmas we went to see the new Star Wars movie and ended up talking for about 7 hours... Anyway, since then I've been thinking about him a lot and when I suggested meeting up he immediately said yes and that he was looking forward to catching up.

I'm definitely attracted to him but I have no idea if he feels the same way. I need to find a way of figuring this out subtly - any ideas??? :rotfl:

Your subtle hints are in bold above
7 hours of talking and an immediate yes to a request for another meet up?
If I spent 7 hours talking to a lass there would definitely be an attraction there and if she then asked me to meet again I would also say AYE immediately

Good luck

wishingthemortgaheaway

I think there may be something to this - or else you are both at a point in your timelines where you just need someone similarly minded to hang out with/regress to teenage years with.

Have fun, enjoy it for what it is (a social event) and see what happens. No pressure!

ladymay

So yesterday was lovely! I had great fun being a hair model for my friend - she's in final year of training - and obviously my hair looked great for last night, which was really fun!

We had dinner and wine, followed by cocktails (terrible idea). After a few round of Dutch courage, I asked him "So...... what's going on here?" At which point he said he felt a lot of chemistry but he was at a crossroads in his life but he really liked me, plus I might be heading off for several months with work so he doesn't know. We ended up having a bit of a smooch and then went to our respective parents' places (he's living at home atm as well). He's going on holiday tomorrow for two weeks so he said he's looking forward to seeing me when he gets back. So despite my hangover I've been grinning like a Cheshire Cat all day!

Oh, and my car passed its MOT - a few advisories but a clean bill of health! :j Next step is to register it for UK plates.

The only down side to yesterday was that Mum and I had our first argument. It's inevitable that these things are going to happen, and we talked it out before I left last night so we're all good. We agreed that we have to talk to each other and be careful with each other's feelings.

Today has been supremely lazy, but because a lot of payments came through I paid off my credit card! I'm not updating my signature again until the payment's cleared, and I know I might have to use it over the next couple of months, but I'm feeling good!

wishingthemortgaheaway

Wow. A super night & day all round then (apart from the argument with your Mum)
It sounds like you and boyo are at similar places in your life, which could be the start of a new adventure for the both of you.

Yay to mots and credit card clear offs - does this mean idiot boy's payment to you has cleared?

Also....
You deserve a few very lazy days after all your hard work. When I'm reading about your days it feels like everything is moving at a million miles an hour. So, slow down, kick back and chill out for at least a few days.

Well done, you made it. (Oh and don't leave now that you are debt free)

ladymay

wishingthemortgaheaway wrote: »

Wow. A super night & day all round then (apart from the argument with your Mum)
It sounds like you and boyo are at similar places in your life, which could be the start of a new adventure for the both of you.

Yay to mots and credit card clear offs - does this mean idiot boy's payment to you has cleared?

Also....
You deserve a few very lazy days after all your hard work. When I'm reading about your days it feels like everything is moving at a million miles an hour. So, slow down, kick back and chill out for at least a few days.

Well done, you made it. (Oh and don't leave now that you are debt free)

After everything's that's happened I'm not counting my chickens with my friend, but everything feels quite exciting at the moment!

And yes, Idiot Boy's payment finally came through so I don't have to worry about that anymore :j

Having a lazy day today has been great, I've got a few things to do this weekend but I intend on relaxing and walking a lot before cracking on with next week.

And it feels great to be debt free! But I'm aware that I'm not earning atm and I might have to dip into debt again temporarily to get set up with whatever's next. I have no intentions of going anywhere - this is my safe space! I also have no savings, pension plan or safety net so I have a few financial projects to start when I can...

ladymay

Plan for tomorrow:

- Go to wedding fair and check it out as a potential vendor
- Drop Mum to work and ask her boss for a temp job
- Print off CV
- Register car
- Tidy flat
- Sort music for Wednesday's audition
- Get in touch with friend about meeting up
- Update finances
- Start looking at duo set lists (one of my friends has suggested we set something up)
- NSD (except wedding fair entry)

ladymay

- Go to wedding fair and check it out as a potential vendor Done
- Drop Mum to work and ask her boss for a temp job Half done - her boos wasn't in
- Print off CV Not done, I'll email it
- Register car Half done, waiting on HMRC to confirm
- Tidy flat Sure... Kind of...
- Sort music for Wednesday's audition Nope
- Get in touch with friend about meeting up Done
- Update finances Done
- Start looking at duo set lists (one of my friends has suggested we set something up) Nope
- NSD (except wedding fair entry) Done, and Mum gave me change so it was a total NSD

There's plenty to be done but instead I am watching QI online and eating biscuits!

ladymay

Tomorrow:

- Tidy up everything that has to go into storage
- Take it to the storage
- Drop Mum off at work
- See middle brother and go for a long walk
- Sort potential duo music
- Sort music for next week's audition
- Finish tidying
- Clean flat
- NSD
- Contact Mum's boss for potential temp job

ladymay

- Tidy up everything that has to go into storage Done
- Take it to the storage Half down, have to finish tomorrow
- Drop Mum off at work Didn't need to
- See middle brother and go for a long walk Done
- Sort potential duo music Ongoing
- Sort music for next week's audition Done, just need to practice!
- Finish tidying Not done
- Clean flat Nope
- NSD Nope, that neither
- Contact Mum's boss for potential temp job Done, he doesn't have anything

ladymay

This week has been so weird...

So, the good bits:

- I've finally moved back to Devon!
- I've got a couple of auditions
- I paid off my credit card and am currently debt-free
- I went on a really nice date

And the rough stuff:

- My mum is driving me crazy and I have no privacy or space
- I have no idea what I'm doing with my life
- My anxiety has spiked

I've come up with a basic plan for this year...

Plan A

- Look for temp jobs
- Get my nursing home entertainment up and running ASAP (update flyer, initial contact, send on emails, etc)
- Get a cruise ship job for one of the companies I'm auditioning for this month and sail away

Plan B

- I've applied for an Entertainment Manager job, I can look for more of that kind of work

Plan C

- Stay in Torbay
- Get the nursing home business up and running
- Find agents, wedding fairs
- Have business set up and profitable ASAP

I think I'll be here for at least another six weeks but I'm going to start looking for my own place. I'm just too used to my independence to live with family long term. Luckily the rent down here isn't too bad so as soon as I'm earning a full time wage I can focus on moving.