Money for wedding gift

Abbafan1972

hazyjo wrote: »

£30 is fine. £50 is generous. £100 is too much unless a very close friend or family IMO.

^^This^^ is what I would do!

ska_lover

Fireflyaway wrote: »

I have a little feeling the partner of friend might think we are being stingy. Comes across a bit needy and dramatic.... .

Sorry but this is super judgemental considering in post one you say that the partner is a virtual stranger who you have only gone out with once. I don't know how you can claim to know what a virtual stranger is thinking?

I think you should asses whether to go to this wedding, as you obvs don't like half the couple or wish them well.

eamon

Money is the way forward now. Its easier, none of this trawling the net or real shops. Though I do find wedding lists distasteful yet strangely interesting.

selement

It's rude to expect a certain amount of money so I'm pretty sure the couple wouldn't challenge you if you gave £10 in all honesty.
If I heard someone complaoning about only getting £50 I would definitely challenge them. I consider it a generous amount of money.

If it helps I got married last year and other than family members (some of which gave quite a lot) the generous friend size gift was £50 but most did £10-£30 I think. We didn't think anyone was being stingy.

fairy_lights

mark5 wrote: »

As a day guest as a couple attending a wedding at a nice venue I would be thinking £100 as a present.

I've always thought of it as roughly the cost of our meals and evening buffet etc.

It's 2017 not 1999, £50 doesn't go that far anymore.

Why should a wedding guest be expected to cover the cost of their own meal though?
It already costs a small fortune to attend weddings these days, with travel costs, an outfit, accommodation (not to mention stag and hen-do, bridal shower costs etc) without there being an expectation of a cash gift on top.

Fireflyaway

ska_lover wrote: »

Sorry but this is super judgemental considering in post one you say that the partner is a virtual stranger who you have only gone out with once. I don't know how you can claim to know what a virtual stranger is thinking?

I think you should asses whether to go to this wedding, as you obvs don't like half the couple or wish them well.

Yes I am making a judgement and its based on the things she has said and the way she has reacted to things when we have been out. Although we only arranged a get together once, we have been at the same functions maybe 8 times and that's where I've built up an opinion.

ska_lover

Fireflyaway wrote: »

Yes I am making a judgement and its based on the things she has said and the way she has reacted to things when we have been out. Although we only arranged a get together once, we have been at the same functions maybe 8 times and that's where I've built up an opinion.

Fair enough - we all make judgments. We are human, none of us perfect


However claiming the fantasy of being able to read minds, merely so you can make a negative judgment based on what you want other people to believe she is thinking, is merely a reflection of yourself. None of it is actually .....real


If you don't want to give much because you don't like the woman, then be honest, no need to make yourself a victim in this, with the claim she may or may not be thinking something negative about you in the future is preposterous dramatics


Go to the wedding and wish them well, the amount of money really doesn't matter

lillie421

You don't even need to spend £50! You can get some nice gifts for under £50 that look more expensive than they are. Plus, if you aren't that close to her then you shouldn't feel like you need to spend a lot of money on their gift. I am sure she will appreciate anything you buy her, despite the price

pearl123

Why has everything become so expensive? £50.00 it's madness.

Gavin83

fairy_lights wrote: »

an outfit

Surely everyone already has at least one outfit suitable for a wedding, why do they need to buy a new one?

Personally I think £50 is a reasonable amount if you are close enough to have been invited as a day guest. However it's purely down to the individual and how much they wish to give. No bride/groom should criticise the amount given as a gift.