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HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

I didn't sleep very well last night as I had a lot on my mind .

My dad rang and invited us to their Silver Wedding party but said that grandchildren were not invited, he then said that the grandchildren that lived nearby were invited, but not the ones who lived further away (like ours). In other words all my step mum's grandchildren are invited, but my dad's grandchildren are not invited.

DH and I felt offended, but perhaps we're being oversensitive . It's a long drive but I feel we ought to go as they're not getting any younger, however it would have been nice to have taken the DC too. I just feel it's not nice to exclude people. They're having it in a relative's garden so it wouldn't be expensive per head.

I'd feel offended too, it's not a nice thing to do to someone and children do feel the effects

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

Anyway I mustn't brood over silly mattters.

I did over 10, 000 steps yesterday and I didn't leave the house, I've never done that before . We're almost packed, just the last minute things and sandwiches to make.

Then tonight we will be in a comfortable hotel room, so hopefully we'll sleep better . I haven't slept in a hotel for six years so that will be a novelty

Have a good Friday everyone .

Well done on the steps, I really need to make an effort more with my fitbit....just remembered my battery ran out over night and I forgot my charger this morning for it....Doh!

Have a lovely time at the wedding and I hope that the hotel bed is nice and fluffy and that you get oodles of sleep xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

I didn't sleep very well last night as I had a lot on my mind .

My dad rang and invited us to their Silver Wedding party but said that grandchildren were not invited, he then said that the grandchildren that lived nearby were invited, but not the ones who lived further away (like ours). In other words all my step mum's grandchildren are invited, but my dad's grandchildren are not invited.

DH and I felt offended, but perhaps we're being oversensitive . It's a long drive but I feel we ought to go as they're not getting any younger, however it would have been nice to have taken the DC too. I just feel it's not nice to exclude people. They're having it in a relative's garden so it wouldn't be expensive per head.

I don’t think you are being over sensitive, I think it’s an awful thing to do. It’s almost worse that the ones who live further away aren’t invited, as I know your boys are older, but that means assuming you are happy to leave them all at home. As you say, your Dad isn’t getting any younger, so I would have thought seeing his Grandchildren would be a good thing as they may not have the opportunity again with him being so far away.

Do you get on with your Stepmum? She’s obviously been around a long time if it’s their 25th anniversary, so must’ve been there when your boys were small.

Hope you have a lovely time at the hotel and wedding Xx

beanielou

I would be upset too.
But, your dad is not getting any younger so................
Doesent mean it is right though

Willowtree222

I would be really offended as well. Why can't your children come?

Enjoy the wedding x

mummytogirls

I too would be offended HHOD, funny how step mums grandchildren are invited. She's not doing a lot for the old stigma of step parents is she!! I think id have to say something but thats just me!!

Hope you have a lovely time at the wedding xx

117pauline

Hope you have had a safe journey to the sunny Midlands. And even more I hope wedding is wonderful.

Regarding the party. Well I have to say I would be expressing my hurt that my children weren't included. All or none I think sums it up. How do I put this? If you agree to go, how will your children feel?

Enjoy the hotel, you all deserve it
Have a great weekend
Pauline

millymolly22

Find it hard to understand why only some grandchildren are invited but not others....but from a stepmum's point of view it isn't always their decision.....my husband sometimes makes the decision his children aren't welcome at some occasions and I know they think its me, but really it isn't, so please don't rush to the conclusion its her....although you will know her better than anyone

HairyHandofDartmoor

Thanks everyone I'm glad to know it's not just us being over sensitive. I'm on very good terms with my step mum and she's been very kind to me in the past.

But I don't think she or my dad have much understanding of DS1 or DS2's mental health issues and don't understand why they can't just go out and get a job and be self sufficient etc. I think they think they're just a bit lazy .

Also DS2 can be morose due to his mental health issues. So I don't know if it's connected with that or not .

HairyHandofDartmoor

Anyway we had a good, easy journey and the hotel is LOVELY :beer:.

We're relaxing now after a lovely hot shower before we go out and eat with our Tesco vouchers .

I'm sure we'll have an amazing time at the wedding now the stress of the preparations is over. Half my family seem to be staying at our hotel :rotfl:.

Have a great weekend everyone .

mummytogirls

In my experience step parents are not very kind, hence why I am so bitter!!! x