Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally

WannabeFree

Do you have a slowcooker HH? A friend/relative who you can make some 'ready meals' in their oven then you just need to microwave it?

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HairyHandofDartmoor

No we don't have a slow cooker unfortunately. I'm sure stepdad or my aunt would oblige, but they live a 20 mins - 30 mins drive away and I don't want to bother them.

We'll be fine for a while, we won't starve .

doingitanyway

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

We'll be fine for a while, we won't starve .

It's awkward because you are used to it, but I don't have a cooker, microwave or slow cooker , just a hob and I have managed for years. As you say, you'll be fine for a while.

Sorry to her you feel unsettled about your stepdad's friend. I would too. Carboot and Daisy shared such helpful insights.

I hope your cold is easing.

HairyHandofDartmoor

doingitanyway wrote: »

It's awkward because you are used to it, but I don't have a cooker, microwave or slow cooker , just a hob and I have managed for years. As you say, you'll be fine for a while.

Sorry to her you feel unsettled about your stepdad's friend. I would too. Carboot and Daisy shared such helpful insights.

I hope your cold is easing.

Thanks DIA . I guess you must cook a lot of things in saucepans? I usually eat a Linda M burger or sausages, a baked potato and baked beans most nights. DH and the DC usually have the same but with meat, or I give them chips a few times a week, and some kind of veg. All of this tends to involve the oven and microwave.

I used to do spag bol on the hob once a week, but since my mum died I can't face cooking so things get shoved in the oven. DH does a veg curry or pasta bake on a Saturday. Our diet isn't great but we're still alive . I'll just have to get better at microwaving things. Or someone else can take over the cooking.

My cold still feels bad. When I get up for too long I feel unwell, light headed and nauseous and headachey . I guess my bad night didn't help matters. But hopefully I'll get better soon as it's only been four days since it came on properly.

WannabeFree

I hope you get a better night's sleep

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Seasidegal58

Rather late to the party as usual but can only echo all the lovely posts you have received re. your stepdad.

I do hope you feel better tomorrow Hairy - take care.

SSG x

HairyHandofDartmoor

Thanks Wannabe .

System

I am late to the news of your stepdad as well , you have had some lovely posts about it. I guess everyone will have a different view on the situation , I couldn't offer an opinion as I haven't been in your position .

Hope DH gets chance to look at your oven soon, and it is something cheap and simple to fix. How are you feeling with your cold now ?Here is to a good nights sleep.

HairyHandofDartmoor

Seasidegal58 wrote: »

Rather late to the party as usual but can only echo all the lovely posts you have received re. your stepdad.

I do hope you feel better tomorrow Hairy - take care.

SSG x

Thanks SSG .

Cumbria_lass wrote: »

I am late to the news of your stepdad as well , you have had some lovely posts about it. I guess everyone will have a different view on the situation , I couldn't offer an opinion as I haven't been in your position .

Hope DH gets chance to look at your oven soon, and it is something cheap and simple to fix. How are you feeling with your cold now ?Here is to a good nights sleep.

Thanks Cumbria . My cold isn't great so I really hope that I sleep well tonight and feel better in the morning.

Sallyforth

I too am late to the news surrounding your stepdad but echo you have had some truly amazing responses. When my Mum died in 2015 Dad rekindled a phone relationship with his first love who he had been engaged to before meeting my Mum. To be honest, despite this lady marrying and having 4 children, I think he broke heart. I had to tell her of my Dad’s passing last year and I could just tell.
As to friendship vs romance I question whether it really matters? I don’t want to spell out what I’m thinking because it is delicate but perhaps either way your dear stepdad does simply need “companionship”. If my Dad hadn’t suffered from Parkinson’s disease I feel sure he would have actively sought out female company and in many ways he did - just not full on romance.
I feel for you though because it does seem rather soon. Better than him hiding it though.
Sally x