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Fidelia

Oh, Hairy, like everyone else I was so upset to read your news but also relieved that your DH received the treatment he needed and is on the mend.  It must have been such a scary time for the whole family and I'm sending all positive vibes and virtual hugs to you all xxx

I was wondering whether DS3 who is currently job-seeking could help DH with the business.  Obviously he'd need some training and it might not be the kind of work he'd want long-term but it might help to solve a problem temporarily.  I know you used to be DH's co-worker in the business so maybe doing it all by himself has been difficult for DH.  I'm sure the medical experts have told you and DH that stress is one of the major contributors to heart attacks.

Cherryfudge

So sorry to hear about your DH’s crisis and all the stress you are under. I think the gentle walks and healthy diet have to be good though - for you as well as him. ☺️ 

I hope his recovery is uneventful and in the long term this horrible scare leads to a longer, healthier life.

It’s already been said, but you need to look after yourself as well: recovering from coping is an important stage. I think learning not to be perpetually anxious is so difficult… but care for the carer, as they say.

Sunshine_girl2

Glad to hear DH is starting to recover and am sure you will be looking after him very well. 

As everyone has said make sure you look after yourself as well. 

BalanceBy50

I am sorry to hear your news Hairy. Sending lots of love xx

24ta

Good to hear DH is on the mend.  Take care

Verbatim

Sorry to hear about your husband. I had a stent 14 years ago in my 50s and joined a cardiac rehab class once allowed which was still going strong before the pandemic struck. I therefore know a lot of heart attack survivors who are enjoying life 15 -20 years after the event including some in their mid 80s. One who is 85 was a type 2 diabetic but lost weight and no longer needs meds for diabetes and has stable blood sugars. He's going on 6 to 8 mile walks now.

EssexHebridean

Hey HH - hope you're doing OK. one thing to note is that while the gentle walks for DH are perfect for him, make sure you don't get looped into a cycle of just joining those to keep him company and not getting anything more vigorous yourself. My Mum suddenly realised she'd done that, but now makes the effort to get some faster walking in when she can too to raise her HR a bit. 

Absolutely seconding those who are saying don't underestimate the level of shock involved in someone close to you having something like a heart attack too - that will equally be as true for your young adults as well. Similarly DH may well suffer a higher level of health related anxiety than he has in the past - that's entirely unexpected after someone has had such a scary experience. Treat yourselves kindly. 

milann

Hope all is going well for you all and dh is continuing to get stronger 👍

elizabethhull

I expect you're far too stressed to post, but should you happen to drop in here - sending you love and good wishes xxxx

Fidelia

Just popping in to say I hope your DH is getting better by the day and that life for all the family is back on a more even keel now.

Sending hugs xx