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Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally

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  • jwil
    jwil Posts: 22,397 Forumite
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    Enjoy your visit with your Dad x
    "Good financial planning is about not spending money on things that add no value to your life in order to have more money for the things that do". Eoin McGee
  • Sun_Addict
    Sun_Addict Posts: 24,351 Forumite
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    Just caught up with you. It's a tough one that your stepdad is selling the house, sounds like he's really moving on.

    I didn't realise your dad was still around, I hope you have a lovely time with him :)
    I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
    HairyHandofDartmoor Posts: 13,960 Forumite
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    WannabeFree wrote: »
    Just catching up so I'm behind sorry :o

    On the stepdad front - as I said in PM it is hard. When my Dad died my mum met her new partner (now husband) in less than 6 months. She then moved in and had 'our' house on the market and it sold near enough straight away. So in less than 12 months she'd lost my Dad, met someone new, moved in with him and sold the house. They where married 4 months after the house sale. It's 10 years since my Dad died and I guess I'm still uneasy about it. I am civil with him and always have been but he just can't replace the empty space. BUT it does get easier to feel more comfortable at family occasions etc. I think you are handling it brilliantly and a lot better than I did/would.

    I hope you manage to have a lovely time away and hope DS's do too

    Take care
    x

    Thank you Wannabe :). That was a lot for you to cope with, especially at such a young age.

    My situation is hard to deal with, but life can be hard at times. It's how we grow up I guess :(.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
    HairyHandofDartmoor Posts: 13,960 Forumite
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    edited 11 August 2019 at 7:51PM
    jwil wrote: »
    Enjoy your visit with your Dad x

    Thank you Jwil :).
    Sun_Addict wrote: »
    Just caught up with you. It's a tough one that your stepdad is selling the house, sounds like he's really moving on.

    I didn't realise your dad was still around, I hope you have a lovely time with him :)

    Thank you SA :). I only see my Dad once a year as he lives in Bedfordshire and doesn't come to Devon any more.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
    HairyHandofDartmoor Posts: 13,960 Forumite
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    edited 11 August 2019 at 7:51PM
    I'm having a nice time staying with my dad and stepmum. I'm too busy too post much atm. We had a family party in the garden today which I enjoyed :).

    DS2 and DS3 have arrived safely in Poland. We've had two messages. "In Poland" and "At hostel". Brief and to the point :rotfl:.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 96,554 Ambassador
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    Glad that you are having a good time :)
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

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  • HairyHandofDartmoor
    HairyHandofDartmoor Posts: 13,960 Forumite
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    Thank you Beanie :).
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • milann
    milann Posts: 11,500 Forumite
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    Enjoy time with your Bedfordshire family :beer:
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  • Willowtree222
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    Your Ds's messages sound like mine! landed safe and at hotel.

    Enjoy your time with your dad x
    September 2017 Debt = £25330

    Starting afresh.

    You can do anything if you put your mind to it. x
  • in_need_of_direction
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    Now you’ve heard from the boys, let yourself relax
    Mortgage at 01.01.14 £119,481.83:eek: today £0 Emergency fund £5.5/5.5k & £200/200 cash.:jWeight 24/02/19 14st 7lb now 12st determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes. Progress not perfection.:T100%through my 1% mortgage challenge. 100% through my pb challenge.
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