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Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally

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  • Chrystal
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    I think you can take it a compliment to your Mum Hairy. The fact that they were so happy together and complimented each other, means that he isn't scared of sharing his life again. Love takes different forms and friendship with companionship is one of them. Don't doubt that they loved your Mum. and still do. The heart is big enough for all kinds of love. (((hugs)))
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  • elizabethhull
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    My family visited Scotland several times when we lived in Bolton - not so far to go !! Wonderful beaches and loads of farm animals for me to enjoy !

    Small hiatus coming up in me reading and posting.
    I've had my pre-op assessment for a new hip (thanks to a cancellation).
    I waited 3 silent weeks and then phoned them.
    No, I wasn't booked in.
    Estimated time = October (by which time I would need another pre-op as they're only valid for 3 months).
    I 'remonstrated' (!!) and they directed me on to the surgeon's co-ordinator. He suggested 6th September, still ages away but an improvement.

    Tuesday afternoon I got a call - would I like to come in this Friday ? Reeling from the shock of course I agreed. Not even time for the full 5 days of antibiotic cleansing, bedding changes etc. Apparently my graphic representation of my condition meant I was first on the waiting list for a cancellation!! Just shows that persistence works, although really it shouldn't be necessary.

    According to others there seems to be a policy of wasting orthopaedic patients' time with futile treatments, thereby letting them become completely crippled before anything is actually done.
    I can't see that this policy benefits anyone:mad:
    Still, I'll be partially bionic tomorrow.

    Enjoy the rest of your Scottish break, HH. I think you really needed it xx
  • Chrystal
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    Arsenal

    So happy for you with your fantastic news. As Spock would say 'Live long and prosper' (((hugs)))
    I Believe.....
    That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others.
    Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

    Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery
    Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present.

    happiness isn't achieved by getting extra things,
    but by getting rid of the things that make you unhappy
  • elizabethhull
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    arsenalbarnie wrote: »
    Until recently I thought I would be the widow one day, until my possible cancer bombshell recently. Just to let you know just had the results from the op and it’s benign so am very relieved. It does make you realise that life is too short and you need to enjoy every minute. .

    That is wonderful news, I'm so happy for you.
  • beanielou
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    elizabethhull~~Really hope all goes well for you :)
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  • beanielou
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    Arsenal~~Sorry, forgot to say that's fab news for you :)
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.     ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.
  • arsenalbarnie
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    Thanks everyone and good luck Elizabeth for tomorrow.
    Total weight lost 6.5/73lbs starting yet again. Afds August 10/15. /8 Sept.
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
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    jwil wrote: »
    That must have been a shock. It's good you are with your sister. I don't think sending a card is hypocritical, you are wishing them happiness, even if you are not happy with the situation. That's a kind thing to do.

    Thank you Jwil :).
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
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    edited 1 August 2019 at 9:17PM
    arsenalbarnie wrote: »
    Oh bit of a shock for you Hairy. I can understand him in a way. Men seem to not do well on their own and need the companionship. It doesn’t make it any easier for you and the family though. My children would be the same if I remarried. A friend and I were talking once about being on our own and she said if she was one day she would miss having someone to do nothing with. Until recently I thought I would be the widow one day, until my possible cancer bombshell recently. Just to let you know just had the results from the op and it’s benign so am very relieved. It does make you realise that life is too short and you need to enjoy every minute. Maybe he feels like that as I imagine he is in his 80’s? She will never replace your mum, but I think you are doing the right thing being civil.

    Enjoy the rest of the time with your sister. Have never been to Scotland but it is on my list.

    Thank you Arsenal :).

    Fantastic news about your op results, I'm really pleased :T:T:T.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • HairyHandofDartmoor
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    Chrystal wrote: »
    I think you can take it a compliment to your Mum Hairy. The fact that they were so happy together and complimented each other, means that he isn't scared of sharing his life again. Love takes different forms and friendship with companionship is one of them. Don't doubt that they loved your Mum. and still do. The heart is big enough for all kinds of love. (((hugs)))

    Thank you Chrystal :). That's a very nice way of looking at the situation.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £50/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £10/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
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