Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally

HairyHandofDartmoor

elizabethhull wrote: »

My family visited Scotland several times when we lived in Bolton - not so far to go !! Wonderful beaches and loads of farm animals for me to enjoy !

Small hiatus coming up in me reading and posting.
I've had my pre-op assessment for a new hip (thanks to a cancellation).
I waited 3 silent weeks and then phoned them.
No, I wasn't booked in.
Estimated time = October (by which time I would need another pre-op as they're only valid for 3 months).
I 'remonstrated' (!!) and they directed me on to the surgeon's co-ordinator. He suggested 6th September, still ages away but an improvement.

Tuesday afternoon I got a call - would I like to come in this Friday ? Reeling from the shock of course I agreed. Not even time for the full 5 days of antibiotic cleansing, bedding changes etc. Apparently my graphic representation of my condition meant I was first on the waiting list for a cancellation!! Just shows that persistence works, although really it shouldn't be necessary.

According to others there seems to be a policy of wasting orthopaedic patients' time with futile treatments, thereby letting them become completely crippled before anything is actually done.
I can't see that this policy benefits anyone:mad:
Still, I'll be partially bionic tomorrow.

Enjoy the rest of your Scottish break, HH. I think you really needed it xx

Oohh good luck for tomorrow Elizabeth. I'm delighted your operation is finally happening and you'll have a lovely new hip soon . Well done for persevering :T.

HairyHandofDartmoor

Today we went to a place that has craft shops, bookshops, art gallery, cafe, etc which my mum loved visiting. Followed by a river walk and then another evening walk locally.

A mere 14,881 steps today .

beanielou

Still a fantastic number of steps
Glad that you have had a good day

HairyHandofDartmoor

Thank you Beanie .

doingitanyway

Your day sounds lovely. Once again you are handling the situation with your stepfather so well. Take care.

HairyHandofDartmoor

Thank you DIA . I've written out an engagement congratulations card to post tomorrow.

doingitanyway

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

Thank you DIA . I've written out an engagement congratulations card to post tomorrow.

Well done HH. It can't be easy ((hugs))

HairyHandofDartmoor

doingitanyway wrote: »

Well done HH. It can't be easy ((hugs))

Thank you DIA . It's not easy and I do feel very strange about it.

teafor2

Morning HHD I don't think sending the engagement card is hypocritical, I think it's a really kind thing to do. No matter how you're really feeling he was in your life a long time and I'm sure you want him to be happy. Your acceptance of the situation, in his eyes at least, must be a big relief for him.

Somebody has said about it being a different kind of love that he would have had for your Mum and it's true. At this stage of his life I'm sure it will be more about companionship.

You're a lovely lady HHD, handling all this with so much dignity when you're still grieving for your Mum. I can imagine how this could tear some families apart but the fact you're not allowing that to happen speaks volumes about you. xx

HairyHandofDartmoor

teafor2 wrote: »

Morning HHD I don't think sending the engagement card is hypocritical, I think it's a really kind thing to do. No matter how you're really feeling he was in your life a long time and I'm sure you want him to be happy. Your acceptance of the situation, in his eyes at least, must be a big relief for him.

Somebody has said about it being a different kind of love that he would have had for your Mum and it's true. At this stage of his life I'm sure it will be more about companionship.

You're a lovely lady HHD, handling all this with so much dignity when you're still grieving for your Mum. I can imagine how this could tear some families apart but the fact you're not allowing that to happen speaks volumes about you. xx

Thank you TF2 . That's a lovely thing to say. Despite everything I am fond of him. And despite everything I still think my Mum would want me to keep on good terms with him and for us to be part of each other's lives, because she loved him.