Left my husband

affordmylife Forumite Posts: 1,224
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Last Saturday I'd just had enough so I went to sat at my parents.

I'm 50. We've been together 23 years. Five children. Youngest 18 next week.

First few days I was all strong and happy. Last few days can't stop crying. I'm a mess.

What to do???

No idea x


  • IAmWales
    IAmWales Forumite Posts: 2,024 Forumite
    Keep yourself busy.

    Lots of ideas on this thread.
  • affordmylife
    affordmylife Forumite Posts: 1,224
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    You link me to my own thread?
  • tacpot12
    tacpot12 Forumite Posts: 7,519
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    You are grieving over the loss of your most deeply held hopes and dreams; it's going to hurt for a long time. But you will survive. I've been there. It hurts like hell, but it won't kill you; I promise.

    So, cry, think, wish and hope some more. Talk to your children; and explain that you're confused and unsure and worried; and that you need their love and time to think, and reassure them that you love them and will be there for them - even if this might not be how you feel right at the time you are talking to them - you will find a way to grieve for yourself and to support them.

    Talk to your friends about what has happened; but don't rush to conclusions. Take time to think about what you want, and what can be done.

    I hope you move through this period of intense pain quickly, but know you may not because of how important your marriage is to you. It hurts because it was real, and hard and produced the children you love.

    Best wishes for the future

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  • You link me to my own thread?

    A thread where lots of people gave you ideas on keeping yourself busy, tailored to you, because its your thread...
  • FreeBear
    FreeBear Forumite Posts: 12,932
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    Go and book an appointment with your GP practice - Ask for the GP (or nurse) that deals with mental health issues. It sounds like depression is kicking in, and it is always good to talk to someone impartial.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
  • Oakie
    Oakie Forumite Posts: 88
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    menopause maybe..
  • indianabones
    indianabones Forumite Posts: 305 Forumite
    How does your husband feel? Did you split on mutual terms?

    Time is the greatest healer.
  • mummyofboys1985
    mummyofboys1985 Forumite Posts: 84 Forumite
    It takes a few days for things to really sink in I find and that’s when the emotions start. If your 1000% sure this is what you want then only time will help. Try keep your mind busy and focus on what you want in your future, xx
  • lillie421
    lillie421 Forumite Posts: 60 Forumite
    It does take time for you to get used to that as it is a huge change. Take time to think if this really is what you want and try to talk to him about how you both feel.
    Do the things you enjoy doing and keep yourself busy. Change is hard but sometimes it needs to be done.
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