It's all such a mess and I don't know where to turn

kezbabybabe

Scarlett,

Having just read through the whole lot from the beginning I thought I would message you to let you know how well I think you are doing.

You've come a long way since your first post in October which is an amazing effort.

I do have one suggestion for you:

You can use www.mysupermarket.co.uk to do your online shopping (If you don't already). If you usually shop at Asda, but have a Tesco or Morrison's nearby, this is quite handy. You do your shopping as usual and the website keeps checking your shop with the other supermarkets. It will also suggest changes to your current shop such as changing a branded item for a own brand item.

Its also clever enough to recognise when buying a multipack might be cheaper than buying a smaller quantity of the same product.

Good luck with the moneysaving, it's something that I also need to do.

Kerry

lexa34

How you doing Scarlett?

Scarlett.1974

lexa34 wrote: »

How you doing Scarlett?

Hi Lexa,

Thanks for thinking of me

Things are VERY different now from when I first posted this thread (funnily enough I actually searched for it and read it again from start to finish the other day and it made me a bit emotional actually ). We're giving back the house and moving into rented accomodation on Wednesday coming, then we're going BR next month. It was the only way for us, even with all the changes we made they weren't enough to bridge the deficit we had between the incomings and outgoings. My "BR Diary" is over on the BR forum if you wanted a read of it

Thanks again for thinking of me, I'm really touched

Scarlett xxx

SPL

Hi Scarlett

I have just read the whole of this post and finished with your most recent news

you have been incredibly strong and I hope that you get a fresh start and that you are feeling better already now that the decision is made

take care and Happy , Healthy New Year

Scarlett.1974

SPL wrote: »

Hi Scarlett

I have just read the whole of this post and finished with your most recent news

you have been incredibly strong and I hope that you get a fresh start and that you are feeling better already now that the decision is made

take care and Happy , Healthy New Year

Thank you SPL

It wasn't an easy decision to make, it took a LOT of soul searching and talking (oh, the endless hours of talking) and in case anyone is concerned, we did take professional advice from CCCS. It's been a difficult couple of months, making the decision to 'let go' of this house was one of the hardest I've ever had to make and for anyone who thinks BR is "the easy way out", well I'd just say spend a couple of days in my head from the last few weeks and THEN condem me.

I am looking forward to a fresh start but I'd be lying if I didn't say that the next couple of months are making me feel slightly anxious. I just want to get into the new house now and get my family settled in and then prepare for the BR next month.

The BR forum here has been my saviour through all of this, there's some VERY special people over there

Scarlett xx

SPL

i am so glad you have found support on here - and just remember it will always be here

you have done the bravest thing by addressing the issues head on and you sound incredibly balanced to have gone through all the difficult discussions that are needed, at home and outside - i am sure as you say it was not easy

i am not denying that there may still be tough times but it sounds like you have a wonderful family and fabulous children and i wish you lots of happiness in the future

take care x

Scarlett.1974

SPL wrote: »

i am so glad you have found support on here - and just remember it will always be here

you have done the bravest thing by addressing the issues head on and you sound incredibly balanced to have gone through all the difficult discussions that are needed, at home and outside - i am sure as you say it was not easy

i am not denying that there may still be tough times but it sounds like you have a wonderful family and fabulous children and i wish you lots of happiness in the future

take care x

Oh god, maybe it's the early hour or the fact that I'm pretty emotional at the moment anyway, but I'm filling up here now Thank you so much for your kind words. Some happiness in the future is something I'm very much looking forward to

Thank you again. The support on here and the difference it makes should never be under-estimated, I wish I'd found this place years ago

lexa34

I am glad you are all working through it, and getting there. Good luck. I need to do my assessment and put my finances in order so admire you for sorting out a solution, even though it isn't the one would wanted. xx

SPL

hey scarlett - not sure if I will get online tomorrow so just wanted to wish you good luck for wednesday

take care and let us know how you get on

nic01_2

Hey Scarlett

I just wanted to say Hi! I've just read your story and it's great to see how far you have came on since you first posted.
You have totally taken control of things. I know the decisions you have made, which can't have been easy ones, will defo bring a new start for you and your family You should be proud you have came this far

Go you!!

Nic x