claiming DLA?

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iammumtoone wrote: »

The only reason he doesn't have an IEP is the school don't do the. He did have then when he first started when they did them..

The school has no choice but to do one in law if he needs one. It's not something they can opt out of.

poppy12345

iammumtoone wrote: »

The only reason he doesn't have an IEP is the school don't do the. He did have then when he first started when they did them..

Schools still do the IEP's if a child falls under the criteria to have one then they school has to do this. If the school doesn't then it's more than likely because the Educational Psycologist thinks he doesn't fall under the criteria.

annandale

As has been suggested above. Get someone to fill the form in for you. Welfare rights.

iammumtoone

_shel wrote: »

The school has no choice but to do one in law if he needs one. It's not something they can opt out of.

poppy12345 wrote: »

Schools still do the IEP's if a child falls under the criteria to have one then they school has to do this. If the school doesn't then it's more than likely because the Educational Psycologist thinks he doesn't fall under the criteria.

The school do not need to do an IEP I have checked and got this confirmed by another organisation myself (as I was concerned when they stopped)

What they do have to do is everyone on the SEN register (which my son is) they need to keep some kind or record (but it does not have to be an IEP) As I explained earlier the record they choose to keep is child led my son has to list his issues his self. I do get to see this.

He does not list the issues he tells me he has at school and to be honest I don't blame him as an adult I would not be too happy about having to write down my problems/issues.

I will bow out of this thread now and make no further comment. I thank everyone for their input and help. I feel I just have to keep justifing myself all the time. I realise that they are many worse off than me but this is not a competition. I know there are issues with my son. I have yet again had another nightmare morning with him - half hour late for work crying my eyes out when I got there. I cried in front of him just from the sheer exhaustion of it all trying to make him understand/see reason. I try not too but sometimes can't help it. He never even notices and just carrys on throwing things at me/down the stairs continuing the tantrum.

It all came about as he was saying I lied as I told him I would be with him the last day of school. I tried my very best to explain this was true thats tomorrow he goes back the day after that. I had to work today (I did tell him this last night) But his father had told him he goes back to school tomorrow (his father probably thought that as he wouldn't really know when he goes back) I said his father had it wrong but he insisted that his father is always right (his father will say things like "yes, I am always right" in jest more than anything). He would not accept it, that created issues about everything and anything and it really was hard work to get him out of the house. He would not get dressed I tried to dress him as soon as I got one item of clothing on and started on the next he took the first one off. In the end ashamed as I am to admit it I had to drag him into the car he continually threw things in the car (including dismantling the car seat) which is dangerous as I trying to drive, drag him out to get him where he needed to be. He turned up there crying his eyes out I then had to leave to go to work as I was already late I really can't do this anymore. I woundn't mind it this just happen occasionally but every day there is something.

I have come to the end of my tether I really can't cope anymore whether that is my fault as a parent maybe but where does my health come into this and this thread isn't helping with that. I have decided not to claim the DLA so I can't be accused of taking something that clearly as no issues at school I am not entitled to.

preciousillusions

Please don't let some of the responses here put you off from applying OP . I hate that diagnosis has to be at the crux of everything - just because someone isn't diagnosed with something, despite assessment or not, does not mean they do not have it. I think you've plenty of examples to provide as to why your son in fact does have additional care needs. I agree with the idea of writing say a week long diary of all the struggles you have to content with.

annandale

I've not seen anyone give you a hard time on here. You aren't going to claim it now due to comments on this thread? Even though your son might be entitled. What is the problem with getting someone to help fill the form in and apply to see if he is entitled.

Do you have support from social services? Or any other family support network that might be able to support you? And your child.

iammumtoone

annandale wrote: »

I've not seen anyone give you a hard time on here. You aren't going to claim it now due to comments on this thread? Even though your son might be entitled. What is the problem with getting someone to help fill the form in and apply to see if he is entitled.

Do you have support from social services? Or any other family support network that might be able to support you? And your child.

No I know I haven't been given a hard time (trust me I know what a hard time is from the Families board :eek:) I am not accusing or getting at anyone. It is my issue I am extremely sensitive right now I have lost my job I don't know how I am going to survive. Getting another school hour job is going to be difficult then I have to keep it I can't keep being late like they let me with my previous job (they were really understanding above and beyond any employer needs to be).

No I do not have support (to be fair people do try) I have people who will look after him but he plays up for them as well so they won't have him anymore. I do have people who would have him overnight to give me a break but he wont stay with them he puts his parts on so I have to collect him I wouldn't mind if he came home and behaved himself but he doesn't. His own father won't even have him if he plays up he brings him home and blames me this is why he is .

[Deleted User]

Instead of worrying about DLA right now maybe think what you can do to get you and your son support. Child development team, Childrens services, school, consultant? Nag your GP and get them to make referrals to get you help.

xylophone

http://www.familylives.org.uk/advice/primary/behaviour/challenging-behaviour/

Try above for advice/support.

Alice_Holt

I think it would be a mistake not to apply for DLA.
From what you have written, your son clearly has care needs above other 10 yr olds.
If successful it opens up options such as CA & IS.
If you have made a CAB appointment, then let them help with the form.

The worst that can happen is that your application is refused.
If you don't try you are closing down your options - which you may come to regret later.