claiming DLA?

FBaby

He needs help/lots of encouragement with brushing his teeth once a day. This is because he only brushes his teeth once a day reason being we just do not have the time or me the energy with the other struggles in he morning to get him to do it. By putting down 1 am I implying that he only needs help 50% of the time as he should clean his teeth twice a day. There is no space to point out it is 100% of the time as he only cleans them once a day.

How old is your son again? 9-10?
Because considering having to remind him to brush his teeth twice a day is certainly not additional need but a very common parental requirements if I go by my own experience and that shared by all my friends. I was told and have now experienced that it gets worse during teenage years when you also have to remind them to shower daily!

I really wouldn't use this as an example of additional need.

poppy12345

iammumtoone wrote: »

Yes I appreciate that. My son needs telling (more than once but I appreciate this applies to other children as well) then following to make sure he does so (he will forget on the way up the stairs). I then have to make sure he remembers to put toothpaste on the brush and stand outside the bathroom whilst he cleans them as again he will get distracted and start doing something else.

If we just had this issue with cleaning his teeth and none others great I wish it was just that.

This is exactly what you need to put on that form because if you put he needs prompting to brush his teeth then the DM will most likely think how i just did. You have to spell it out to them mutliple times if you have to. I always get help with these type of forms because they're far too complex for me to even begin.

iammumtoone

FBaby wrote: »

How old is your son again? 9-10?
Because considering having to remind him to brush his teeth twice a day is certainly not additional need but a very common parental requirements if I go by my own experience and that shared by all my friends. I was told and have now experienced that it gets worse during teenage years when you also have to remind them to shower daily!

I really wouldn't use this as an example of additional need.

You are probably right I only mentioned it as it is one of questions on the form.

poppy12345

FBaby wrote: »

How old is your son again? 9-10?
Because considering having to remind him to brush his teeth twice a day is certainly not additional need but a very common parental requirements if I go by my own experience and that shared by all my friends. I was told and have now experienced that it gets worse during teenage years when you also have to remind them to shower daily!

I really wouldn't use this as an example of additional need.

That's my thoughts too. The OP stated that he showers 3-4 times a week. I wish my son showered that often during his childhood :rotfl:Teenagers are a nightmare and i found boys worse than girls especially when it comes to hygiene (no offense)

iammumtoone

poppy12345 wrote: »

This is exactly what you need to put on that form because if you put he needs prompting to brush his teeth then the DM will most likely think how i just did. You have to spell it out to them mutliple times if you have to. I always get help with these type of forms because they're far too complex for me to even begin.

Thanks I am being to see this now it is just something I do every day I don't necessarily think anything of it as most of the time he is calm whilst doing so and I only tend to think/get concerned about his tantrums. I could have written more like the fact approx 3-4 times a week I need to go in as even with me outside keep reminding him he will still start to do something else so I have to go in get him back on track and stand in the room with him to watch. I now see I need to include this as well.

iammumtoone

poppy12345 wrote: »

That's my thoughts too. The OP stated that he showers 3-4 times a week. I wish my son showered that often during his childhood :rotfl:Teenagers are a nightmare and i found boys worse than girls especially when it comes to hygiene (no offense)

He cant have showers he doesn't like them tells me that the water feels like pins sticking into him.

Again I take your point I am sure it is a struggle to get any child in the bath/shower. Its just one of the questions on the form, maybe they ignore the answers given for this due to his age.

I can only answer what I am asked.

poppy12345

iammumtoone wrote: »

He cant have showers he doesn't like them tells me that the water feels like pins sticking into him.

Again I take your point I am sure it is a struggle to get any child in the bath/shower. Its just one of the questions on the form, maybe they ignore the answers given for this due to his age.

I can only answer what I am asked.

Which is why getting help from someone who knows what they're do is always best.

Tigsteroonie

venison wrote: »

I don't want to be nasty and will try very hard not to be, but why do you think he's so well behaved at school and not at home?

This is actually quite common in children with behavioural disabilities, and is in no way a reflection on the parenting. Some children choose to stifle their frustrations during the day in front of their peers, but then let it all out at home in a safe environment.

poppy12345 wrote: »

I would imagine there's a lot of children that would need to be told to brush their teeth. I know mine always did.

But that may have been the only battle you faced, whereas the OP is facing constant battles over various parts of 'normal' life - washing, tooth-brushing, dressing, etc. You end up picking your battles in those situations.

poppy12345

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But that may have been the only battle you faced, whereas the OP is facing constant battles over various parts of 'normal' life - washing, tooth-brushing, dressing, etc. You end up picking your battles in those situations.[/QUOTE]
I wish it was the only battle i faced! I face constant battles too with my daughter, just not for hygiene reasons. I was simply pointing out that the way the OP worded it was wrong.

NeilCr

poppy12345 wrote: »

Which is why getting help from someone who knows what they're do is always best.

This. Twicefold

Please do it.

Personally, I'm not going to answer any more specific questions about the form completion. It won't help and, to be honest, from your responses, you are going to really, really struggle trying to do this by yourself