diary of strugglin working mum

BartGirl

Am absolutely fuming.

OH needs to get his car tax and has no money to his name. So I offered him the money for it since he’ll get paid in a few days anyway.. The agreement was that since I was working late; he’d get it done in the morning then he could still pick DS up from the childminder in the evening as he usually does.

But he decided to remain in bed all flippin morning; and by the time I was leaving the house at midday to drop DS off; he was Still In Bed???? :eek: I asked what was going on and he said that since his sister’s got the paperwork for his car he’d go tomorrow instead. So I asked what about DS being picked up from childcare then? His response was ‘my car isn’t taxed so I cant do it’..So I told him it was not right for him to spring that on me at the last minute – plus now I have to spring it on the childminder at the last minute – neither of which is acceptable. He just shrugged. I pointed out that she’s not meant to have kids beyond 6pm and if I have to collect him then it’d be more like 8pm. He said that he would take care of DS for me the following morning instead of me having to take him to childcare again. This works in my favour cos I don’t then have to pay an odd £30 for the day..but either way its just blatant disregard for all parties concerned. Luckily I know that she would accommodate my request because she knows all about OH and what a ** he is; but neither do I like to be seen to be taking the p*.

This morning I left to go to work just after 6; and good old DS decided to be up at the same time too! So it has meant that OH must arise too – and I know for a fact that he’s only had a couple of hours sleep! Mwahahahahahahaha :rotfl:

Mollymop5

Oh BartGirl poor you.This man needs a serious reality kick.This boy is his son too and all the childcare shouldn't come down to just you.I'm pleased you said no to another child because that would be twice the work for you and no more for him! I hope your DS is very demanding this morning and makes daddy work lol.

BartGirl

Thanks Mollymop..
This whole baby thing is really doing my head in..
My hormones are raging at the moment and I recognise this from when I was desparate to conceive DS. The sad thing is that I had always thought that I'd have had another by now (or at least be trying..) but the reality is that I am so so aware that it would not be a good idea right now becasue of the situation that I;m in..
Then on top of that one of my closest friends has just announced that she's 14 weeks preg with twins! She had her son 6 months before i conceived DS and she shouted across the office that i've got 6 months left to catch up..
She obviously knows nothing about OH and I but I admittedly just feel so jealous..I feel so let-down by my situation; and generally feeling s* overall..

littleangels3

Im having a bad time of it with dh at the moment and i must admit another baby has been mentioned, im confused at what to do as i already have 3 sometimes i think yes it would be nice maybe things would improve for a while but then give it a couple of months and it would all go downhill again so not a good one to give advice on this im afraid, its nice to hear from you again x

poorbabe

Hey Bartgirl where are you? How are things?

littleangels3

hows things hun, not heard from you for a while hope everythings going well .

webitha

hey bartgirl where you at girlie????

gope you are ok, come back and let us know how you are

Mollymop5

BartGirl BartGirl where art thou???????

BartGirl

Its Ramadhan at the moment so am wrapped up with all that right now.

I also have had a frightening smear result - i've got moderate dyskaryosis - hosp appointment in 2-3 weeks. Not told OH yet cos he's not alwyas the most sensitive of people.I am so so worried and been in tears all weekend altho OH is non-the-wiser.

Other than that I'm OK.

I do have alot to tell but not right now - alots going on; financial; OH etc but gimme a week and i'll be back on track

I truly appreciate all your concern.

You're like my little secret family that care about me God Bless U all. I mean that

- BartGirl

duchy

Glad to see you posting
Sorry to hear about the smear -hopefully quickly and easily sorted (the majority ARE) and that OH is still been a twonk. Hang on in there !!