New boyfriends female friend texts " Stay away from my man!" What would you do?

Robisere

If it's not that serious, walk. It really depends upon the ages of all 3 parties. Teens/young? Easily hurt, seems like the end of the world. Either way, somebody is telling porkies. As I say, if you are not that close, walk. Do you need the hassle?

Pollycat

Robisere wrote: »

If it's not that serious, walk. It really depends upon the ages of all 3 parties. Teens/young? Easily hurt, seems like the end of the world. Either way, somebody is telling porkies. As I say, if you are not that close, walk. Do you need the hassle?

We don't know if it's the boyfriend telling porkies though.

I can't understand why anyone would need to ask WWYD on a public forum in such circumstances.

Just ask the bloke.

badmemory

I know what I would do. Laughingly say - you will never believe the text I received the other day. Then say what it said. If you can't tell from the response what he knows about it, if anything, then just walk away. A text is meaningless because anyone could have sent it, without a voice on the other end of the phone you can't even tell if it is male or female.

FBaby

That is making a clear statement you don't trust this man, which would therefore lead the the relationship being doomed...

Why would you trust someone you hardly know? I always see trust as something that is earned, not something that you give with the benefit of the doubt.

The first thing I checked after I'd been on a few dates with OH was the electoral registry, to ensure there wasn't a secret wife/girlfriend living with him...mainly because at time I thought he was too perfect to be single (later discovered that he wasn't perfect, but still the love of my life!).

I'd be very wary if I received such a text. Many possibilities, most not good. I would assume that this relationship was unlikely to go further but would give him a chance to explain and then show that there really was nothing going on.

Poor_Single_lady

I would ditch him on the basis that I wouldn't want to date someone who had a life where this could happen. I think it's an early sign of drama to follow. And I would like to date someone a bit more grown up.

For those that say that it could happen to anyone I disagree. This wouldn't happen to me. Why do you need to share your phone and allow someone you know to send texts to people in your phone book.

Unnecessary.

thorsoak

I would show the text to the person in question - and watch his reaction...and maybe back off for a few days - let him sort things out or get his explanations in order!

barbiedoll

Being a mischievous sort, I'd be bouncing that text right back, with all of the grammatical errors corrected. Something like...

"Can you stop meeting up with my boyfriend? He and I are still together, something he obviously hasn't told you. I have seen your texts. Please stay out of our current relationship."
Thanks for your message. I have corrected your errors. You have, however, scored 5/10 for effort. Well done, and keep trying!
(You could add a nice smiley face for extra sarcasm?)

Then run for the hills....who needs the drama?

Pollycat

barbiedoll wrote: »

Being a mischievous sort, I'd be bouncing that text right back, with all of the grammatical errors corrected. Something like...

"Can you stop meeting up with my boyfriend? He and I are still together, something he obviously hasn't told you. I have seen your texts. Please stay out of our current relationship."
Thanks for your message. I have corrected your errors. You have, however, scored 5/10 for effort. Well done, and keep trying!
(You could add a nice smiley face for extra sarcasm?)

Then run for the hills....who needs the drama?

The grammatical errors may be the OP's.
She posted "something along the lines of...."

hazyjo

What girl says 'can you stop seeing my BF' and carries on seeing him herself. Surely she'd be ringing saying 'are you seeing my BF?' and going crazy.




I would probably ring her from another phone or number withheld - after I'd spoken with him.


I have had similar things - a call from my BF's wife (I thought they were separated - they weren't, and had a son).


But she wouldn't have just sent a text asking me to stop seeing him!


All sounds very immature.

Alter_ego

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