New boyfriends female friend texts " Stay away from my man!" What would you do?

katesheet

Females. my friends is confused, so I thought would ask if anybody has had this experience before.

She has recently started seeing a new guy, for only 2 weeks, and had several dates, she is not attached to him or anything as it is just early stages.

Then she gets a text along the lines of

"can you stop meeting up with my boyfriend, me and him are still together which he obviously hasn't told you about! he has shown me your texts, Please can you stay out of our current relationship"


What would you make of that?
and what would you do?

Back away?
confront him?

If confront him and he denies anything is happening, what would you do?

is it better for her to leave the situation now, before her heart gets hurt further down the line?

have you been in this situation before?? what was the experience?

Red-Squirrel_2

Seems pretty obvious, why would she even consider continuing to see him?

System

I'd have it out with him and then stay away before i got in too deep.

Gavin83

Well there are two possibilities here:

1) He's got a girlfriend and he's cheating on her.
2) She's a friend who wants more but he doesn't so she's putting off any potential girlfriends in the hope he'll end up with her instead.

Only way she'll know which one it is will be by asking him.

bylromarha

Ask him.

As well as the 2 very good reasons in the post above, some guys see a mates unlocked phone as a chance to cause mischief.

Marvel1

Seems strange having a go at you considering he knows he should know better (if true).

Tahlullah

Under no circumstances would I believe a random text from a woman claiming to be my new partners girlfriend.

How old are these people? It sounds very 'stay away from my boyfriend' school behaviour.

If my partner was seeing some random woman, I would not be sending her texts, I would be having it out with him.

It just sounds too childish to be true.

Batman2017

Agree with all the above, she should 100% speak to him about this text to try and determine if there is any cheating occurring. She cant just blank him. Imagine if it was a prank text or jealous friend and they had scuppered 'true love'!

Savvy_Sue

Gavin83 wrote: »

Well there are two possibilities here:

1) He's got a girlfriend and he's cheating on her.
2) She's a friend who wants more but he doesn't so she's putting off any potential girlfriends in the hope he'll end up with her instead.

Only way she'll know which one it is will be by asking him.

Asking is a good start, but there's no guarantee of honesty. He might deny that there is a current relationship with the texter.

But if she's not yet 'committed' to him I think I'd definitely walk away. Life's too short for that kind of drama.

Fosterdog

How did the other woman even get your friends number? Did the text come from his phone or from the other woman's?

To add to the other possibilities (cheating, jealous friend, or prank) there is also the chance that he is not that interested in her and instead of being a decent human being and just breaking it off with her he has sent this (from his own or a friend's phone) to get her to break up with him.

Pollycat

I wouldn't confront him, I'd simply show him the text and ask if it's true.