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Pollycat

rach_k wrote: »

There you go again. 'Allegedly' happily married - don't you see how that is really just a crappy thing to say? I do see your point - it probably would be a thoughtless thing to do, to join a proper dating website with no intention of dating, and that is probably why I've never been curious enough to do it - but the implication that I'm either lying about my marriage or could only possibly be curious about things single people do if I'm in an unhappy marriage is just about upsetting enough to me to make me want to disregard anything you have to say on the matter, so what was the point in you saying it unless you just want to look good? Either you have no idea of the effect of your words or your morals include being like that on purpose.

And that (in bold) was exactly the point I made

rach_k wrote: »

I posted to give the OP some hope that there are reasons for joining a dating site that don't actually involve an affair of any kind.

I see your intentions were good but the OP's later post kind of screws your optimism.

Kayalana99

rach_k wrote: »

There you go again. 'Allegedly' happily married - don't you see how that is really just a crappy thing to say? I do see your point - it probably would be a thoughtless thing to do, to join a proper dating website with no intention of dating, and that is probably why I've never been curious enough to do it - but the implication that I'm either lying about my marriage or could only possibly be curious about things single people do if I'm in an unhappy marriage is just about upsetting enough to me to make me want to disregard anything you have to say on the matter, so what was the point in you saying it unless you just want to look good? Either you have no idea of the effect of your words or your morals include being like that on purpose.

Honestly we are only human and it's natural to be curious. The difference between thinking and acting is where the line is crossed and one step further in the wife's case that she posted quite sexy photo's....

People's opinion's may differ but no one is perfect and they might not think this is normal but I'm sure they have a line that you would think is wrong as well. Perhaps agree to disagree.

ETA: I signed a friend up for a dating website and we all sat together in a group chatting to men, my Husband was there too hanging out with the guys and I have to admit it was fun!!!

martinsurrey

rach_k wrote: »

I'm sorry, are people only allowed to be curious about things they will do in their own lives? I'm also curious about going into space, about what it would feel like to have a real functioning tail and what it would be like to survive an apocalypse. I have no intention of doing any of those things.

And I'm sure you would discuss those things with your husband,

Would you discuss that you'd joined a dating website and were chatting to guys after swiping that you're interested?

If not, you KNOW its wrong.

OP's wife, not only did it, but kept it a secret.

Pollycat

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Honestly we are only human and it's natural to be curious. The difference between thinking and acting is where the line is crossed and one step further in the wife's case that she posted quite sexy photo's....

People's opinion's may differ but no one is perfect and they might not think this is normal but I'm sure they have a line that you would think is wrong as well. Perhaps agree to disagree.

I'm curious about all sorts of thing but it doesn't extend to wondering about dating websites.
I've been with my OH for over 30+ years, why would we want to join a dating to see if we were matched with each other?

My opinion stays the same, I'm happy for that opinion not to agree with the poster you quoted.

Kayalana99 wrote: »

ETA: I signed a friend up for a dating website and we all sat together in a group chatting to men, my Husband was there too hanging out with the guys and I have to admit it was fun!!!

As I said up thread:

Pollycat wrote: »

I think this sounds cruel and callous, it's playing with someone else's hopes for the future for your own amusement.

But again - that is my opinion.

IAmWales

racer991 wrote: »

Sorry, as Fosterdog says, it was probably tinder. The profile I set up for him was on another site

Which other site, out of interest?

racer991

Site is called F pals but I think the site operator operates a few sites and spreads the same profiles across them all.

Poor_Single_lady

This sounds like a very strange dating website.

Not sure I would sign my friend up to anything with that name!

Is it just me that thinks this sounds a bit weird (and hard to believe)

Pollycat

racer991 wrote: »

Site is called F pals but I think the site operator operates a few sites and spreads the same profiles across them all.

I was curious enough to take a quick look at that website.
I wouldn't call it a dating website.

Is that where you saw your wife's profile?

coolcait

Pollycat wrote: »

I was curious enough to take a quick look at that website.
I wouldn't call it a dating website.

Is that where you saw your wife's profile?

You're a braver woman than I, Pollycat!

I took it that the site was called 'F Pals' because 'F Buddies' was taken

Pollycat

coolcait wrote: »

You're a braver woman than I, Pollycat!

I took it that the site was called 'F Pals' because 'F Buddies' was taken

Actually, I didn't visit the website, just Googled it.
When the first hit you see says 'no strings attached dating fun' you know exactly what the 'F' stands for.