Staying at partners etiquette

Kirstie_

chesky wrote: »

Perhaps you shouldn't share so much information about your relationship with colleagues, particularly since - if I remember rightly - you work for the same company.

We do but different offices/departments. I'm marketing he is IT. Today they've been "surprised" that I've bought him a gift, I know they are stirring as they've tried to get IT to come out to us (mainly him) so they can gorpe some more

Ozzuk

A couple of things, stop overthinking - this and the other thread and just try and relax and enjoy the relationship. If your colleagues are that nosy then maybe stop sharing so much. It will be bad enough working for the same company if it doesn't work out, then adding in your colleagues to deal with. (but don't now overthink that!)

Doesn't have to be a dry run for living together, its just staying over. Again, stop worrying. Your partner sounds pretty laid back, just go with the flow, there is no real right or wrong, only what works for both of you.

System

I spend weekends at my partners, he lives at home and pays board but doesn;t ask me for a financial contribution as i have my own rent to pay. his mum refuses to take any money off me so i just try and help around the house instead, or treat us all to a takeaway to save her cooking. Its been 2 years and so far this works for us (plus i get the feeling his mum is hoping we get our own place which is why she;d prefer me to save money :rotfl: )

Kirstie_

I see what people mean about awkward working at the same company. We had a meeting together today and I just kept looking at him and wanted to giggle when he was trying to be serious.

chesky

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I see what people mean about awkward working at the same company. We had a meeting together today and I just kept looking at him and wanted to giggle when he was trying to be serious.

That really, really won't go down well with the boss.
If you're going out with a colleague there are rules and the number 1 is behave professionally at work and be a bit discreet.

Kirstie_

chesky wrote: »

That really, really won't go down well with the boss.
If you're going out with a colleague there are rules and the number 1 is behave professionally at work and be a bit discreet.

I know but when the whole IT team present is playing Management speak bingo it kind of is funny

CuppaTea

NeilCr wrote: »

Actually, trust your partner when he says you don't need to do anything.

I know from how me and my OH were when we started out. I tended to say sorry a lot and, in the end, she put her foot down. She said that unless she said there was a problem there wasn't one.

You sound, like me, that you are a pleaser. But, sometimes, that can get a bit irritating.

I love this post. It's brilliant. Thank you.

DepositSaver

chesky wrote: »

That really, really won't go down well with the boss.
If you're going out with a colleague there are rules and the number 1 is behave professionally at work and be a bit discreet.

I would most definitely second this. I have been am going out with a colleague for several months and we haven't actually told anyone at work, as we decided we don't want to be the subjects of office gossip. We do have fairly regular meetings together, and are professional and friendly towards each other, in the same way we are with other colleagues, and were with each other before we starting seeing each other.

When things first began between us we both did find meetings difficult - we avoided looking at each other too much as we we worried we might blush. I can only imagine how much more difficult and potentially embarrassing it would have been if our colleagues had known about us and thus had noticed or been watching out for how we reacted to each other.

Geoff1963

In Top Gun, Kelly McGillis has to unfairly criticise Tom Cruise's flying :
"I see some real genius in your flying, Maverick, but I can't say that in there. I was afraid that everyone in the tax trailer would see right through me, and I just don't want anyone to know that I've fallen for you."

Celebrity and royal relationships often fail, by being in the spotlight.

chesky

Kirstie, your priorities seem odd to me.
You worry about etiquette involved in your staying weekends with your b/f.
However, you seem unruffled about the fact that your personal relationship could undermine his position at work. You seem to be sharing a fair amount of pretty private information about the pair of you with colleagues. You then admit to finding it difficult not to giggle at his contribution to a meeting when he was being serious.

Forget worrying about who puts the bins out, that's FAR more likely to p---s him off.