Staying at partners etiquette

Geoff1963

share chores and cooking and maybe shop together at least for the weekend

These are good pair-bonding activities. Sharing the chores should ideally mean chores which are done together, rather than apart. ( One cleans the toilet, while the other one makes sure the TV is still working properly. )

sooty&sweep

Hi,

Firstly remember you are there because he wants you there ! He's not asking you to stay over to save or make money !

Don't treat the place like a hotel. Treat it as you would your own home, with respect.

Personally I would bring something. When I stayed with my boyfriend over the weekend I'd stop at the supermarket & buy the ingredients for a nice meal & cook. I love cooking & he didn't so it suited us both.
I'd also take in some milk, something for breakfast etc etc.

Jen

[Deleted User]

Hi,

he must be happy with you staying over, or he wouldn't have you there.

You are showing your thanks with sleeping with him.

Enjoy.

Batman2017

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Kirstie_

Thanks for all your help so far

It is a dry run for potentially living together, I do love cooking, he never seems to have the time so (Thats for another day the amount of work he does!) it works for us in that way. When I say Say thank you I mean that I don't want him thinking I'm sponging or using him. I've said to him today I'll cook a sunday roast and I'm really excited to do so.

I know I should really ignore my colleagues its easier said than done.

PeacefulWaters

Kirstie_ wrote: »

Thanks for all your help so far

It is a dry run for potentially living together.

Steady. We've only known about him for eight days!

maman

Kirstie_ wrote: »

Thanks for all your help so far

It is a dry run for potentially living together, I do love cooking, he never seems to have the time so (Thats for another day the amount of work he does!) it works for us in that way. When I say Say thank you I mean that I don't want him thinking I'm sponging or using him. I've said to him today I'll cook a sunday roast and I'm really excited to do so.

I know I should really ignore my colleagues its easier said than done.

So does he buy everything in before you get there planning to cook himself?


If that's the case then actually doing the cooking for him while he catches up on work or cooking together as a social activity is all you can do. If there's an opportunity for you to shop together for ingredients then it would give you a chance to contribute financially too.

maman

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,

he must be happy with you staying over, or he wouldn't have you there.

You are showing your thanks with sleeping with him.

Enjoy.

So payment in kind??:eek: Beware anyone who plans to accept an invitation from you to stay over.

Geoff1963 wrote: »

These are good pair-bonding activities. Sharing the chores should ideally mean chores which are done together, rather than apart. ( One cleans the toilet, while the other one makes sure the TV is still working properly. )

Great idea Geoff. Bags me the TV controls.:D

Kirstie_

maman wrote: »

So does he buy everything in before you get there planning to cook himself?


If that's the case then actually doing the cooking for him while he catches up on work or cooking together as a social activity is all you can do. If there's an opportunity for you to shop together for ingredients then it would give you a chance to contribute financially too.

At times no, sometimes he has things in. This week he has nothing in so we went shopping together because he was working in a different office. So I'm making dinner tonight. Its given him a chance to get ready for next week.

chesky

Perhaps you shouldn't share so much information about your relationship with colleagues, particularly since - if I remember rightly - you work for the same company.