what help would she be entitled to?

martindow

silvercar wrote: »

...until now, when you are chucking her out.:(

That's comes across as a bit harsh silvercar but no doubt that is how the girl sees it.

I agree that counselling would be good if she would agree to accept it.

OP, if you post which area of the country you are in someone may be able to suggest organisations or charities that could offer advice and support for all of you.

rtho782

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

Please. This is a lazy persons attitude. I trained as a nurse so genuine full time hours in uni and on placement as well as working as a carer to pay the bills. You do what you have to do to keep a roof over your head. Not use excuses like yours

OP you're better off asking this on the benefits board.

So you had a bursary then?

My OH trained as a nurse (graduated 2015) and the placement hours and travel made working hard. She worked as an agency HCA here and there, but could not have worked enough to fully support herself and still get a reasonable degree result.

Carmk2008

silvercar wrote: »

...until now, when you are chucking her out.:(

I won't let anybody treat me like doormat. Just because she wouldn't be under my roof doesn't I would cut her off completely.

1234mas430

This is not "Anybody" though is it...she's your flesh & blood, don't blame her for the mistakes her mother & you made. I say that as I am assuming you did not have this "Baby" with the mother to leave them did you, no ofcourse not , so it did not work out with the mother, point out to "Your" beautiful daughter, that you love her & want her to be happy ...but you also need love back ie respect & harmony. I too have a 19yr old daughter ,she to is a Blasted nightmare, all of what you have said applies bedroom messs cheek to Mum & me etc. It came to a head last year on 6th April 2016, I told her to get a life & do something, she went out & met some people, the police came to me on the 7 April 2016, the worst day of me entire 59 yrs , they told me my daughter had been drugged & raped ...I told her to go out & sort herself out over a bloody untidy bedroom, her lazinesss & bad attitude...don't do something you may regret for the rest of your life over behaviour that is probably a blip!
She now has counselling & has to take Clopixal I am so unhappy with myself you could not believe.

armchaireconomist

1234mas430


I am very sorry to read that. Please, do not blame yourself though - yes, the circumstances could have been different but you did not cause it. The people who did that to her did.

teddysmum

How about asking for counselling for both of you where each can put over their views, but must consider the other party ? However,it may be difficult to get, unless from a charity.


This would seem less like sending her to therapy and perhaps the third party can tell/even better show her what situations she will end up in if you find she can no longer be tolerated in your home.


She may 'only' be 19,but she is an adult and many have to make their own way at that age.