The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)

Mudbath

Scatterbrain - well done on remaining alcohol free for the conference.

I have to admit to feeling rather chuffed with myself when I wake with no hangover and people I've been out with aren't quite so lucky. I've also noticed how much it's saving me. I went out for a meal at the weekend and didn't drink. My part of the bill was £25 and everyone else had to pay £42. Think i'm going to put the money I save to one side and treat myself.

19/20 for me please

ElusiveLucy

Good idea Mudbath - You probably don't realise how much you are saving until it starts to mount up!

Now at 23/25 for last night, It was hard to resist the pull of alcohol last night given the day I had but I managed it. Only 2 more days to target and I won't have problems with that as I am out at a charity meeting tonight and having a massage tomorrow night (which means I miss my boss' leaving drinks, which is a good thing - no temptation to have just the one and ruin the AFD!). Oh and in between all that and work I need to get packed for my holiday!

Honey_Bear

ElusiveLucy wrote: »

The one thing I would say is that no situation ever seems less stressful when coupled with a hangover!

So true!

Sorry it's horrendous at work Elusive Lucy. I hope you manage a speedy change of circumstances smoothly and quickly.

Paspatur wrote: »

I would like to stop completely the foreverness scares me - holidays without a beer?

It was the 'foreverness' that kept me drinking for about six years - I could imagine going one day without a drink but celebrations? birthdays? Christmas? Just couldn't see how that would work, so I carried on because it all seemed too difficult.

From the view on the other side, I can say celebrations, birthdays and Christmas are just as much fun without booze, until everyone else is so !!!!!! they're as boring as hell, but that's just me.

I gave up booze by doing the 100 Day Challenge, and that was very straightforward. After 100 Days I had absolutely no wish to go back to being who I used to be when I drank, and all of my friends bent over backwards to accommodate my not drinking with them and still do.

24/31 please, Shaggy.

maman

Paspatur wrote: »

12/31 for last night so that makes more AF days than drinking days in January so far

I like that way of looking at it. Thanks for the tip.:)

scatterbrain109 wrote: »

Conference finishes tomorrow and I am still sober

Brilliant! Well done!:T

scatterbrain109 wrote: »

I'm about to put on a L'Or!al Facebook (if you haven't tried one I seriously recommend them) and will no doubt look a million dollars tomorrow morning amongst all the puffy, hungover faces. ( ok, I'll look like a well used fiver) :rotfl:::rotfl:

Jo xx

I'm assuming you mean facepack!;) Which one do you use? All distractions welcome.:D

maggiem wrote: »

Like Maman I can limit myself to one glass if out with say colleagues although it can still be a struggle when I get back.

I must admit it was a bit of a struggle last night for me. I had a very stressful meeting and driving home I was weighing up the idea of having another drink. Then I thought: the stress had given me a niggling headache and I was tired. How would wine help that?? So I told myself a cuppa was a much better idea, and it was!:)


Another smiley for me today.:j


14 AFDs please Shaggy.


And still planning a couple more at least.:)

Poor_Single_lady

16/21

I wish I hadn't drunk so much yesterday. I feel so grotty.
I was out with a boy I've liked for a while and honestly find it scary enough without contemplating doing it sober. I know I shouldn't say this but I think I would rather not have gone at all than gone sober. That said I did majorly over do it yesterday and need to learn.

Hope work gets better Elusive Lucy and everyone else in similar circumstances. :grouphug:

PriceySOS

17 please, Shaggy, ta

shaggydoo

January 2018

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= Target Achieved

= Target Beaten



Alcohol Free Days
Arkers 22/15

BackFrmTheEdge 3/31
BaileysOnIce 24/19
Barny1979 13/26

BeardedDez 6/16

Castri09 /20
CathyBird 23/21
CuppaTea 10/17

Eltee 17/20
ElusiveLucy 23/25

GreenKaren 4/10
Honey Bear 24/31
MaggieM 9/15
Maman 14/10
Manpants 7/TF
Mudbath 19/20
NewMe 19/31
Nicnak 15/20
Paspatur 12/31
PollyAnna 12/19
Poor Single Lady 16/21
Pricey 17/22

PurpleMumof2 5/14
Scatterbrain 23/31
Shaggy 12/17

SlowDown /15
SukeyBoo 11/14

Stepuptotheplate 5/8

TakingOneDay /31

ThriftMonster 1/29

Tallyhoh /31

WBF 5/10


Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

pollyanna24

Paspatur wrote: »

11/31 for tonight please
Very pleased for those who are managing to moderate
I can't seem to do it, I find none easier than 1

I'm the same. Once I start, that's it, it's the bottle gone. And I know this as soon as I open it. So I do limit myself to just the weekends now.

Had my usual Tuesday wobble. Mondays I'm fine as I'm fasting, but I always seem to crave it on a Tuesday. Had it in my head even while making the cuppa tea that I would open a bottle of prosecco once my girls were in bed.

Then I persuaded myself to sit down and carry on watching Stranger Things on Netflix and if I still felt like a drink after an episode, I would have one.

And I didn't. And by the time 10pm came, it would have been silly (even for me) to open a bottle when I have to be up at 6.45am.

And so that is another day avoiding alcohol. I celebrate each day I manage to resist as a success.

Reading about what other people have said above though (can't remember who, sorry). It's the foreverness that puts me off giving up completely. I don't go out much (hardly ever in fact) and my treat of a Friday night now (whether I have my daughters or not) is a bottle of wine. I just need to learn to limit that to the one as since I've given up during the week, I seem to think it's okay to drink half of a second bottle now as well.

I like the idea of doing something else in the evenings. I tried studying, but couldn't concentrate, think I need a class or for it to actually lead somewhere. I was trying accountancy, but couldn't see me actually getting a job in accountancy (in legal work at the mo and need my wages too much to pay my mortgages).

I like the idea of doing a jigsaw, but would like something more constructive. Cleaning comes to mind, but can't motivate myself to do that of an evening!

pollyanna24

Oh yes, forgot to say 14/19 please shaggy.

ManPants

Hello All,

Been very busy with pub life so not posted but delighted to say I am now 10 AF so far this month having another 3 AF days since my last post.

Thank you all for your kind words re: my relationship.
Four times in the last year, OH in a row has told me he wishes he had kicked me out after I beat him up. At the time he justified us not splitting up by the fact "It isn't you and you haven't done it before" but 2 years on the resentment is so massive many times he has goaded me to hit him whilst he is the one being completely aggressive. It is almost as if he wants me to hit him so he can justify us splitting up. Obviously, I haven't repeated that action same as I hadn't prior to that fateful night. Last night, I lay awake in bed (he was in a guest room) thinking that the resentment is so deep that it is almost pointless to go on. Working together and having the MASSIVE stress of a business together confounds it despite the fact we have one of the busiest and most thriving pubs in the area.
The sad thing is that if we split up then i will have so much freedom i don't know what to do with it. Financially, I won't need to work for years especially if i were to head to somewhere like Thailand, India or Morocco and a good few if i were to remain in the UK. I always remember meeting my OH all those years ago and thinking as we fell in love that his life and dreams were so much more confined than mine, but in my head thinking "Well what is the point of looking at a beautiful Bali sunset if you don't have anyone to share it with?". Seems as if I might find out!!
All of this from a drunken night out after letting my alcohol guard down!

Hope work getting better E.L & well done on the conference abstaining Scatterbrain.

ManPants X