Tales from The Shire

themadvix

I'm with wishing - I'm a millennial too and it's hardly fair to blame an entire generation. I certainly wouldn't behave like that!

Sorry to hear the news though Fortune. Do you think either will change their minds/plans? Don't let fretting about this set your recovery back!

bexster1975

Sorry to hear about Easter plans. I have two brothers, trust me the behaviour is not millennial exclusive! I think making a plan for you and Mr F sounds great. Might even tell DS1 you were busy Friday and Saturday. I'm afraid it's clear DILs often hold the power in these matters.

Two weeks to sort a fun ( and quite frugal) weekend for the two of you

Bexster

VintageHistorian

Another millenial here and me and DH bend over backwards to try and accommodate both sets of families. Helps somewhat that the in-laws don't celebrate any of the traditional holidays so I can generally give my side first dibs. But we certainly wouldn't agree plans and then change them last minute!

Such a shame that neither of them appears to have considered their Dad's birthday in all this I'd argue that's the more important part than Easter, and even more upsetting that they didn't seem to feel a need to tell you any of this in advance and waited for you to contact them! Hopefully there's a few other people in their lives who are pointing out to them that they've been a bit unreasonable (especially considering the help you and Mr Fortune gave them with paying for the recent wedding and then the house deposit too!)

Hope you manage to find something nice to do with Mr Fortune. Any local wineries you could go on a nice tour of?

Edit to add: Although you don't want to tell Mr Fortune and have him fretting while travelling, there's the possibility that one of the DS's will contact him to complain about you telling them off, at the very least it might be best to give him a heads up that there's been a bit of a broo-ha between you and them so he doesn't get it shoved at him unexpectedly.

greent

Grrrr! Disrespectful and rude, regardless of ages of the 'children' involved.

Hope you find some lovely things for you and Mr F to do instead xx

EatingTheElephant

Glad you are feeling better Fortune. Sorry to hear about the plans being ruined

Fortune_Smiles

Thank you everyone for taking the time to respond. It's very reassuring to know that I'm not over-reacting and that this is unacceptable behaviour.

Mr F got home in time for FDawg's evening walk yesterday so we had a stroll down the lane together and I gave him an update on recent events. His response was the same as mine but we are going to take a little time to mull things over. I'd suggested the boys call their dad last night but we didn't hear from them. I know they are spending the day together today so we'll see what happens once they've had a chance to talk between themselves.

Mr F is jet lagged and I have sore ribs I suspect I did a little too much yesterday trying to tidy up the house for Mr F's return. We plan to do very little today.

I'm thinking soup for lunch and I made Courgette & Prawn Curry last night which will do for tonight's supper too.

Hope you don't get too much snow folks

Fortune x

brizzlegirl

Sorry to hear that you had to kick off in order to make sure family members knew that they were out of order..never nice. Glad you didnt keep it bottled up tho. Better for your equilibrium and overall health I suspect.

Hope you feel better soon..and jetlag is not too intrusive.

Brizzle xx

beanielou

I am glad Mr FS was in agreement.
Not that I expected him to be otherwise.
Take care.

Fortune_Smiles

brizzlegirl wrote: »

Sorry to hear that you had to kick off in order to make sure family members knew that they were out of order..never nice. Glad you didnt keep it bottled up tho. Better for your equilibrium and overall health I suspect.

Hope you feel better soon..and jetlag is not too intrusive.

Brizzle xx

I shouldn't have to but it's the only way to get through to them sometimes. I used to keep quiet when things like this happened because Mr F was worried about causing a rift. But I don't let people behave badly toward me usually so why should I let my family - and they should know better.

beanielou wrote: »

I am glad Mr FS was in agreement.
Not that I expected him to be otherwise.
Take care.

I knew he'd be upset Beanie - I think that's why I was so angry about it.

Fortune x

Fortune_Smiles

... but the best we're going to get. Both boys have called and spoken to Mr F. DS1 is now coming for most of the weekend but leaving DiL1 at home. DS2 is coming with DiL2 but still only for the Friday and Saturday. I am still fuming about it all and would rather not have them here. However, Mr F wants to see them and it is his birthday weekend after all. I've planned a couple of days out - one very low cost and one a bit of a treat for Mr F's birthday. Now I need to plan how to get the house and catering ready. It's two weeks off I know but there's only so much I can do a day at the moment.

We have more snow here this morning - that's three substantial snow falls this Winter :eek: What a time to move to The Shire :rotfl: Things can surely only get better now

We didn't do anything much yesterday and don't intend to do anything much today either. Soup yesterday was Leek & Potato although I didn't bother with a cartouche, used the green parts of the leeks as well and put some creme fraiche in instead of cream because I needed to use it up. It came out much greener than the picture but was absolutely delicious. There's some left over for today too Supper is going to be sausages, mash, peas and caramalised onion gravy.

I finally bit the bullet and bought a new F1tb1t strap. Mine broke last year before we moved :eek: I wanted to replace it with a leather strap, as I find the plastic ones a bit uncomfortable, but baulked at the price of them. The Bay has failed to turn up a cheap one and, as I feel I need to focus on my health now, I've ordered one. As soon as I can drive again I'll be signing up for some yoga classes too. I'd planned to when we moved here but have had so much other stuff to think about. I'm sure I wouldn't have struggled quite so much with the muscle problems if I was a bit stronger.

Another decision I've made is to stop going to book club. I haven't enjoyed either of the last two books we've read - in fact I could only stomach the first two pages of the last one :eek: And I'm not enjoying the social aspect either. I might see if I can start up a small book club locally with my neighbours.

So not much action going on in the Fortunate household but a lot of thinking, planning and deciding. And I know I'm getting better now because I'm frustrated at not being able to do much.

I know, I know... I need to take it easy. But it's sooooooooo boring :rotfl:

Fortune x