The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

monnagran

Well, Vicky. If you have been reading along you must have almost sussed us out and gathered some idea of the madhouse that is the Garden Fence.
Welcome crazy person.

So glad that your family are coming to the rescue burtha. Between them and your legion of good friends you will be carried through this dark time. As for how could anyone just ditch 20 years of a relationship, thats easy to explain. Someone waved a new shiny toy under his nose and he was so caught up in the excitement that everything else in his life was grey and boring in comparison. This is the sickness of infatuation and obsession. Unfortunately, eventually the newness and excitement will wear off. The gloss will rub off the new toy and this exciting new life will become as grey and boring as any other. It will be too late by that time because he has burnt his boats and will be stuck there. You will have moved on and become an entirely different and hopefully, more exciting person yourself quite beyond his reach. Much as you don't believe that now and don't even want that to happen, it is entirely possible.
Hang on in there girl!

I had a lovely day with my DGS yesterday. I love him so much. We pottered round the shops and he managed to find something that his half sister - Pickle - would just love for her 5th birthday next month and it was reduced by more than half so we bought it and hid it when we got home.
We ended up with icecreams eaten on the beach while waiting for the bus home. A good day in anyone's book.

nursemaggie

Welcome VickyV.

Hugs Burtha hope things are better than expected today.

ivyleaf

Hi VickyV! Welcome to the thread

Hope your head doesn't feel too bad this morning burtha x

Shoe shopping went ok yesterday. DGD (9) now has a smart pair of tasselled loafers, which look very grown-up! and DGS a pair of lace-ups. Then we went to the uniform shop to get his sports kit, which he was much more excited about

monnagran Now that sounds like a really lovely day!

CRANKY40

Welcome Vicky. If you think that you'll fit in here then you will. Sapient pear wood you say....I bought a jacket with a pointed hood yesterday...yes, we'll all get along just fine :rotfl:

Morning all, Hope you're all well. Burtha - Monna has it exactly right. He's like a child with a new toy. The novelty will wear off. My sister's now very ex was the same. It took three months for her to sort herself out and then he came crawling back wanting to have ummmm "relations" with her as well as his new girlfriend. My sister told him she'd rather sleep with slugs.

Our trip to Birmingham yesterday was good fun. I've never been to the shops there before and whilst we didn't actually go in many shops I'm thinking we may go again some time. The house troll spent some money that a dear friend of mine gave him for winning an award at school and a bit of his own pocket money and also caught the Pokemon that he wanted.

I was stuck between deciding if I should do the garden or the house work today but it's raining now so housework it is. Take care all of you.

MMF007

Welcome VickyV. There are a few other Pratchett fans here, too!

Today we are meeting friends for lunch at a rather nice pub, then a walk if the weather picks up (mizzle atm ).

Have decided to end long distance driving rows by asking for a satnav for my birthday DH is tasked with navigating when we journey together, because although I am good at map reading I cannot read while moving! He is a bit hit n miss, sometimes great, other times he loses concentration the moment before i need a crucial direction :mad: Also, I do a fair amount of driving on my own and I think it would be really helpful. I only have a dumb phone so can't get an app :rotfl: Yes, i am just entering this century :rotfl::rotfl:

Burtha, keep your chin up girl. Do not beat yourself up looking at what ex is doing, he's a lowlife with no regard for you or the kids. Ignore his facebook antics.
Who in their right mind would abandon their kids and then boast about going on hols and having a great time????? :mad::mad:

camelot1001

Have a good day burtha, go anywhere, but go out for the day.

I need to go to the little allotment today to finish filling another raised bed so hoping the rain stays away. I have a line full of washing out so am watching the weather closely.

Back to work for me on Monday, not sure where the last 6 weeks have gone. There is so much to do in school and only 2 days to do it before the children start the new term on Wednesday. There is also a new lady starting with me on Monday, hope she's keen as I have enough to do trying to get the useless lad to work.

silvasava

Burtha - hope your head is OK this morning. You have the love of your family and friends and you have worth. As MMF says - don't torture yourself with what your ex is doing, he's not worth your spit (Granny's saying but apt!)
DH is in a grump at the mo - I'd asked him to put some trellis in a frame to go between two brick pillars in the garden. He built the frame and I suggested he offer it up before it was finished to check it was OK - he snapped back at me that he's measured it all and it was fine. Except when he finished it - one pillar wasn't perpendicular so resulted in a lot of extra work - Honestly I didn't say I told you so - but its the elephant in the room. I'm finding the peace and quiet lovely

pollyanna_26

Good morning Fencers .
Yesterday was a very long day trying to sort out a lot of things in various places . Laptop ended up having a trip to the family techie . Pharmacies were told off and many other things sorted .
I've only had a glance at this page so will read on and off and reply as and when I can remember who said what . Could be a good day for typos .
Welcome to VickyV. You'll fit in here just fine but keep your elephant securely tethered please . I don't have the energy to try to drag the thread back from feral to what passes as normal here .
burtha I agree with MMF it is not helping you to be looking at what the soon to be ex is doing . He dropped this pain for you and yours out of the blue in a cruel and uncaring way . No hints or slow lead up to his bombshell . He's gone and even if he crawled back begging will now stay gone as there is no way back from the pain and damage he inflicted on you all .
It will only hurt you to look at his life now and if the family see it they will be hurt also . He's chip paper now love .
Get out with the kids then have the holiday to get some headspace and to restore your energy levels a bit . Don't let family or friends tell you what he's up to . Put him in a locked box for now to sort later legally .
I hope your youngest and the others are ok .
polly xxx

Floss

Burtha, the idea to get out today is a good one - a bit of fresh air will do you all good, and being away from him even better

Have done my stint at the lottie, bought home raspberries, sweet peas, potatoes, cucumbers and tomatoes. Now going to deal with the cucumbers that have been salted and are now ready for pickling. Then need to make citrus jelly for DNiece, and slice onions up for caramelising. And plot next door has offered his rhubarb patch for wine / jam / chutney...then our plums are ripening and our apples will be ready for picking & wining and pears for poaching in port. Thank heavens I only work part-time!

DH is doing his hard about on the plot this morning so h can watch Liverpool this afternoon, then he has promised to get out our old camping stuff to give to my brother

thriftwizard

Burtha, you are very much in the same position as the friend whose kitchen garden I'm helping with - which has all gone to pot the last few weeks, but never mind, we're all eating from it now! - except that her kids are grown up & away now, though she's been left with 7 acres, a house that's falling down, a bunch of elderly & very independent sheep, two delinquent goats and she's 4'nothing with a very bad back, and has to keep it all in good order to be sold for the divorce settlement. You're probably not ready to hear the "you're better off without him!" spiel just yet, but believe me, a few years down the line, you will agree, and so will she! In the meantime, {{{hugs}}} and much sympathy from me.