The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

CRANKY40

Burtha you shouldn't feel like you've let anyone down. You're doing an amazing job and well done to the friend who has come down firmly on your side and is helping you have the break that you both need and deserve.

I'm off on an adventure with Grumpy the house troll today. We're going to Birmingham on the train. There is a shop there called the Tokyo Toy Store which used to have a branch in London. We used to call to the London branch when we visited my dad but then the Trocadero was made over and the shop closed. The house troll's idea of a holiday treat is to visit this shop so off we go to Birmingham. We've had the tickets for 6 weeks and we have a railcard so it wasn't too expensive. He also hopes to do a little bit of Pokemon hunting on his phone (it's a game that gets children out and walking). I'm hoping for an interesting day and will settle for dry weather even if it can't do sunny.

Have a good day everyone

monnagran

Just waiting for my autistic,teenage grandson to be delivered. He's mine for the day. We are off for a bus ride, a visit to £land and lunch at S*bw*y. It's written in stone.

Burtha, lovey, I do recognise that place you're in. Honestly, hard though it is to believe it, it won't be for ever. You will visit it often in the days to come then gradually less often as time goes by. In a couple of years you will go there rarely and hopefully one day you, and I and a lot of people on this thread, will hardly remember ever being there and you will be writing something like this to someone else who is going through what you are going through right now.
Are you still with me?

Enjoy wearing different clothes. Look in the mirror at the different 'you' and preen yourself a bit.
Thank goodness someone has taken you under their wing and giving you the break you deserve. It sounds as though they will be your safety net.

Love and light burtha. x

ivyleaf

(((HUGS))) burtha. I'm so glad you're going to have a break.

monnagran Wishing you a happy day with your grandson

CRANKY I hope you and Grumpy enjoy your trip

Later this morning DD2 and I are taking the children shopping for school shoes :eek: DGS in particular, who's about to go into year 7, needs a very tough pair which is available in an adult size 7 and are suitable for playing football in the playground at every opportunity His last pair were clarks rhinos and they seem to have been quite hard-wearing, so maybe another pair of those if we can find some.

Cheapskate

Morning all

(((Burtha))) big hugs, pet, you WILL get through this horrid business, and come out of it a different, but stronger, woman, and so nice to hear you have a smashing boss who's helping you and the children to have a much-needed break. Well done on the running, too, 9 mins/mile is amazing!! I started running this summer, through a local running club, but am very slow and still take 45 minutes to do our local 5k park run! :rotfl: I will get a bit quicker each week, though, and it does my head some good.

Those of you going out for the day or on your jollies, enjoy yourselves, and hope the sun shines, or at least no rain.

Feels and smells autumnal here, despite reaching the heady heights of 20C yesterday, before returning to about 13C. The eating apples are almost ready to drop, plums are ripening fast, leaves on said trees and rose bushes are beginning to turn yellow already! A friend who's away has said we can go down and scrump some of her rasps before they go over, so will do that and freeze today - jam making with the littlies on a wet afternoon later on as a home ed activity.

A xo

Hard_Up_Hester

Brrr, it's parky here but we've had a lovely meal at the Cunning Man pub, we are now back on the boat with the blinds and curtains drawn and it's quite snug.

DGS has worked really hard helping ping with the locks, tomorrow we are swapping him for his sister.

I think an early night is called for so we will all be in bed by 10 I expect.

thriftwizard

It's funny how quickly a situation can turn around... On Wednesday evening, the nightmare teen was being louder & sillier than ever. I went in for the nth time at 11.30 to shut them up & turn the light out (again) and to my astonishment found him lying on the floor in floods of tears. One of the others said, "His girlfriend has told him to go away!" so what I've had on my hands for the last two weeks is a young man literally unhinged by the pangs of teenage first love! (No excuse, but at least a reason) He got up a like a lamb the next morning, ate breakfast and trotted off to "school" on time; most of the rest of the time they've just been leaving here when they should have been arriving there! And he hasn't been too bad ever since. I shall still breathe a sigh of relief at 6.30 tomorrow morning when they leave for a day in London, then off back to Germany, but at least I know now that it wasn't anything we did.

thriftmonster

Thriftwizard - have just got back from a week in the Lake District and was catching up and didn't know whether to post or not, We had a very similar situation about 5 years ago. One very arrogant self assured Austrian 14yo and a lovely 12yo Italian. The Austrian exhibited all the behaviour you've described and was a nightmare - I've never done hosting since. Till the last night - he wasn't travelling with the others and his parents hadn't sent any flight details for him. It took dh till 1 in the morning to sort it out and we had such a tearful small boy all of a sudden. It turned out his parents sent him away for different schemes for the whole summer:eek: maybe a bit of chicken and egg

In retrospect I wish I had been firmer - but hindsight is a wonderful thing :cool: I was also really worried about our other guest but he sent us a Christmas card and asked to come back to us the next year.

burtha

Hi,
Sorry but after a couple of large glasses of wine tonight , my dear sil and brother turned up tonight with wine , first in a while ... and will probably have a think head in the morning lol , .thank god my family are pulling together through this , don't know what I would have done without them ..... .. and I have managed a cheese sandwich and some crisps tonight
Also did a run at tea time , was a bit fed up , reading posts about the ex going on holiday with gf ... shame he couldn't put as much energy into his kids
His loss ...
Still don't understand how someone can switch off from 20 years worth of relationship and just go ... never mind , can't waste time trying to work that one out ...
Plan on dragging kids somewhere tomorrow ... god knows where but we need to do it ...

Normal service tomorrow xx

VickyV

Hi all,

I've been reading the thread for the last few days and thought you seemed like my kind of crazy so had to pop my head over the fence and say hi! Hope you don't mind.

I have a spare elephant who has been specially trained to sit on exes, and a box that would house small, green jumpy things but since it's made of sapient pear wood, I can't trust it as far as its little legs can carry it. ��

Vicky. X

thriftmonster

Hugs, Burtha and hope the head is ok this morning.