The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

monnagran

Nursemaggie, you will feel strange living on your own again, but I'm sure you will also have a sense of freedom. It's quite difficult when you have spent a lifetime in the midst of family life with all its stresses and dramas to realise that now you have no one to please but yourself. It's good though!

Well, what a day it was yesterday. I do hope that everyone was able to make the most of the glorious weather. Listen out for the plaintive violins..........I spent the day in the church kitchen. We didn't really expect many people to turn up, but we were rushed off our feet. Many elderly people appreciated having somewhere to go that didn't involve a journey or battling with crowds and having a nice lunch and a chat with their friends.
Those of us in the kitchen wondered, as we do every year, how much longer we can keep this up.

However, upward and onward, tomorrow is Lunch Club and I have lemon meringue pies to make today.

I'll come back later when I have read through yesterday's posts and can make more sense.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly. (Morticia Addams)

Emptynester

I'll ramble on a bit if that's ok. Hopefully I will get better with practise.
The good news is that whilst I have been reading along and getting the warm feeling that you caring people spread, I have improved health wise. Still taking baby steps (and many baby naps) but going in the right direction. I also feel confident in my decision to finish work. Whilst there are loads of things I can't do; I have managed to play with my grand-babies which is medicine for my soul if somewhat pain inducing for my body. I have also in very short bursts pottered in my green house and put 3 baby plants in a raised bed!
DD2 passed on a light weight buggy which will make it easier for me push DGD who lives in the same town as me. DH will help to get more plants in raised beds if I need help. I am in no great hurry at the moment. IMHO the weather can't be trusted with all of my plants yet. If I can only put them out a little at a time, the others can stay safely in the greenhouse while I see how the first ones planted fair. Hope that makes sense. This is a big change for me. I have gone from a garden for several hours and do the same again tomorrow person, to a that's 15 mins done, time to rest or stretch or do some even lighter activity for a little while.
Enough for one post. Thank you for all your posts. Best wishes to ALL.

silvasava

Morning All - beautiful day again here and do hope everyone gets to enjoy some sunshine.
Got my boat off the mooring yesterday and picked up some friends, we motored across the bay and rafted alongside another friend - we were joined by 2 other small boats and had a picnic on the water for a few hours. We motored back to the clube club & I put back on the pontoon ready for DH & I to go down today to start repainting the deck. Pleased I managed all the manoeuvres although did have two goes on a couple of them - but DS1 always says slow is pro!
While I was out having fun DH was jet washing the drive bless him!
Monna - my darling godmother used to do lunch club well into her 80's bless her. She finally gave up cos she said she got fed up with people who were active and younger proudly telling her how old they were while she was slogging away! She still lives on her own, very independent, I'm only sorry I live too far away to be able to help her n any way.
Emptynest - baby steps are the way to go - in a little while you will have a whole new life that suits you and brings you much joy. There's a lot to be said for a slower pace of life - it often results in an improvement of health too!

MMF007

Oh Emptynester, what a lovely positive and uplifting post! You sound so happy and are clearly getting the hang of being kind and gentle to yourself.
Silva, your day sounded wonderful.
monna, yes, it is amazing how other people take the volunteers for granted :mad:
NM, I bet you are excited for your son spreading his wings, and I hope you can relax a little, not having to worry about him not getting enough sleep and you having to prepare meals at funny times.

Right, lots to do (it's my day off but I have to catch up on housework and domestic paperwork that have accumulated while I enjoyed the sunshine ).

Hard_Up_Hester

Silva glad you had fun on your boat, I don't moor out boat, CHS does. I went on a helmsmans course to improve my confidence but as CHS as a fit of the vapours if I so much as touch the tiller I leave it all to him.
We will be having words soon, there are things I can do competently with the boat but he is always convinced he knows best and will insist on redoing everything I've done.
He will only get worse as he gets older so I need to nip it in the bud before I brain him. On Saturday he insisted on showing me how I should be hanging the washing out. How I didn't wrap the line round his neck I will never know.

Softstuff

Hester, I'd take that as a missed opportunity. If my hubby tried that one I think I'd suggest that since he's obviously the expert, from that point on he'd be the one doing it. I have no aversion to handing over tasks to those persons who feel more confident and capable than I am

Monna, I bet with all that lovely pastry making your hands are buttery soft. It's something I always remember about my nan, she had buttery soft hands from always having her hands in baked goods, and she always smelled warm and sweet.

Nursemaggie, it'll take a bit to get used to your DS's absence, but it could well bring you closer together too.

Emptynester, I think gardening is best appreciated slowly anyway, it's nice to gradually achieve bits (unless my hubby is weeding, which he can tackle as fast as he likes ).

ivyleaf

Emptynester Nice to "see" you again Baby steps and baby naps are definitely the way to go.

nursemaggie I imagine your DS climbing over the boxes to get into bed - am I right? I hope his new flat will be much quieter, and that you won't have to wait as long as you fear to move home yourself.

silversava/B] I remember an older lady I met on the bus years ago saying to me proudly "I'm seventy-two, you know!" as if she was telling me she was at least ninety-two.....

I was very proud of Mr ivyleaf yesterday - he cut the unruly hedge at the side of the house, then, feeling he was on a roll, he cut the grass as well :T Lovely to be able to use the washing line without having to don the wellies :rotfl:

ETA Softstuff Just seen your post. What a lovely memory to have of your Nan :A

Knit_Witch

silvasava wrote: »

I love bees! They will 'bump' you if you are in their way a nearly always respond to being spoken to (I always talk to them anyway) Many years ago I seem to remember reading something that said the bees have to be told of any important news. They didn't say much when I told them about President Trump though

Probably the bees were in shock (along with the rest of us :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:)

Hard_Up_Hester

I worked with someone who started keeping bees I told her she needed talk to them and share any important news, she didn't and they left!

nursemaggie

silva perhaps the old lady came from an area where people don't live long.

There is a very pleasant cemetery near here. I have been for a walk through it. I was struck by how young most people were when they died in the Victorian era. I suddenly came across a part of the cemetery where people had been buried in the last few years. There were still a lot of people who died in their 60s.

We are going to get the keys in a couple of hours. DS want's me to go with him and have a look what he needs. He never checked what he gets with the flat. He did notice there were towel rails and a bathroom cabinet but not if his needs coat hooks or curtains. I have a feeling we may be going to B & M or D*nelm, this after noon. We will definitely be going to W!lk0 for cleaning stuff like a mop & bucket, dustpan and brush, washing up bowl etc. We could probably get some of them in the Market only across the road.

One thing there is a big charity shop practically next door that sells furniture. Hopefully he will get a sofa there and he can get one of the men who work there to help him carry it home.

I am looking forward to being able to move around myself. I also have narrow walkways through the boxes. Be back later.