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nursemaggie

Sorry VJsmum I know it is still difficult to take in. That does explain the pain in his leg. He probably has a few more. We tend to expect our parents to go on forever.

We are here for you all of the time. There seems to be a lot of problems around at the moment. DS's 5 hour commute and the noisy neighbours seem very trivial right now. Lots of hugs.

Floss

VJsmum oh p00 Will send a big chilly grey hug from Blackpool for him xx

Islandmaid

VJsMum Sorry to hear your news - take care x

(((Hugs))) to everyone having a sad time, too many to mention, which isn’t good... thinking of you all x

VJsmum

Just seen him. He is very confused. He hasnt been told yet as he won't be able to take it in. They arent 100% certain but it looks likely.

He wanted my sister and i to take him home and got a bit cross with us because we wouldn't.

nannywindow

VJsmum I was so sorry to read about your Dad. Sending you virtual hugs.

greenbee

So sorry VJ's mum. I know it's a lot to take in, but if your dad is distressed by being in hospital, and they are looking at palliative care rather than anything else, then ask them about hospice at home options. If you can avoid him being distressed and upset then it will make the whole situation a lot less stressful for you and the rest of the family, and you can focus on spending time with him rather than dealing with issues.

MMF - it sounds as if your dad is getting excellent care and that they are listening to him. It must be hard for you all, but make the most of this time with him. I know that the last few days we had with my dad were very special.

chickens11

VJ Mum....Sorry to hear bout your dads poorly health.......We all seem to have health problems right now ........I f anyone gets ill its always worse if its in the winter ..........Ive done no christmas shopping at all , I will do what ive been doing for the past 8 years and thats give out gift vouchers............Save me buying rubbish what people dont want , plus 2 days buying it ............I usually do Next vouchers then they can all go on boxing day to the sales and get double their money .......

I shall only do a small amount of food shopping , as im not one to go food shopping mad either so christmas dont cost me much .........Cant be bothered with it all ...As long as ive got plenty of coal and logs I wont be worrying too much........I did get given about 3 tonne of logs , that was a farm trailer load and ive stored it all under cover and its all seasoned so thats a great help , I done that back in the summer months .........Ive got GCH , so im never cold , plus coal bunker is full bought at summer prices......
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Im suffering my usual SAD this time of year and its pulling me down a bit , just feel I want to hibernate until end of February .......Getting dark at 3.30 pm isnt lifting my spirits ........

Mardather.....Are you still taking the sea kelp ?...I am with my glaucosamine tablets ......xx

silvasava

VJsmum - so sorry to learn about your Dad. Please offload here as much as you need - you will be in safe hands. Hugs to both you and MMF at this stressful time.

Floss

VJsmum I second the consideration of hospice or hospice at home services - my mum was diagnosed with bone secondaries and the care she received at our local hospice was wonderful (as with all hospices). Unfortunately my dad had the old hospice mindset back in 1991.

PM if you wish to offload onto an understanding, non-related shoulder xx

Nargleblast

Sorry to hear your news, VJsmum. I second the suggestions re looking into hospice type care. The important thing is for Dad to be comfortable and for you all to spend as much time as possible with him. Horrible news to have at this festive time of year, but there never is a good time for this sort of thing.