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monnagran

nursemaggie, how rotten. Did they give you any reason or don't they have to? If anyone could do with something good happening, you could.
I guess that in his disappointment your DS just wanted to explode at someone and you were the only one there.
Obviously this wasn't the house for you but it's so hard when you have mentally moved in.

nannywindow

Hi all :wave:
Just swinging by to send hugs to the poorly, worried, struggling or downright disappointed ( NM).
Hope tomorrow turns out to be a better and brighter day for all.

nursemaggie

Your right monna I think he had moved in. He had certainly placed all the furniture in the house even in my room.

The so called reason was the landlord wanted someone with a stronger application. As the forms have no space to do anything but show your income he obviously thinks we could not pay the rent. I did think of putting a covering letter in but decided against it as I thought it might look like special pleading and put him off.

What you said about DS volunteering for Boxing day and New year you weren't quite right. H was thinking of having the extra money towards a bike. He has had a rethink because he has realised there will be no buses running at all and he will have to walk the entirety of both ways. That could mean 4 hours each way or he could pay out for a taxi £20 each way because they are holidays thus wiping his extra pay out.

To be honest I would still like to be nearer some shops and other amenities. I think we have to go for a much cheaper house. I have my eye on one but it is twice as far to work but it does have a nice conservatory. The one near all the shops that they would only let us look at when DS was at work, is still on the market and has come down in price. He could still get the local link from there is goes past every day.

DS said "I will have a look tomorrow, let me mourn the other one for tonight."

MMF007

Oh NM, what a shame about the house. I was really rooting for you to get it.

VJsMum, glad your dad's care plan will progress now. Hope he is getting treatment as good as my dad's.

I am still at the hospital bedside all day but mum is so shattered I took her back to the hotel at 5pm. Dad is weaker and spent the morning asking why the docs couldn't just finish him off. His new consultant (they moved him out of HDU into a side room on respiratory ward) did a smashing job of explaining what was happening and what the medics are doing now (ie, only intervention for pain relief and to make sure he is not distressed). I pointed out that dad's hands were trembling and it turned out that he was on steroids for the lung inflammation. The trembling was distressing him so doc stopped the steroid immediately. Doc was very in tune with dad and said it made it much easier having spoken to us all at the same time, and we all clearly understood the situation.

Dad slept on and off all afternoon and was not anxious (morphine!), he cracked a couple of jokes and his face lit up when his favourite nurse appeared!
He even had a quick retort when asked if his daughter in law could seak to him before it was too late - he said, 'yep, can she ring in about 12 months' time'. He should have been on the stage, shouldn't he?

Mum's snoring, bless her. I'm going to read a historical novel until I fall asleep.

Hard_Up_Hester

So when I do sleep I have anxiety dreams so far I have forgotten how to drive, missed a bus and mislaid a child. I think I'll settle for being awake.

I need to book my car in to the garage to get the brakes checked and take CHS's hearing aid to be repaired, I also need to clean a boat, and CHS wonders what I do all day!

Hugs to VJsmum and MMF.

monnagran

Let him wonder Hester. It's good to keep him guessing.

I also had a strange dream last night. When I woke up my first thought was, "Where did THAT come from?" but for the life of me I can't remember what it was all about. Possibly the result of eating a cheese toastie too close to bedtime.

I had a phone call late last night to say that my electrical repair man had just called into his workshop to check on something and my oven door had been delivered, so he would be round to fit it this morning and to make sure that I had removed every shred of glass. What service!

Plans for today include paying a few bills, a bus ride and a happy afternoon prepping for tomorrow's great lunch.
God likes me to make plans, it gives him a good laugh.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

I'm a feminist.
I've been a female for a long time now.
I'd be stupid not to be on my own side. (Maya Angelou)

mardatha

Hester I had years of those dreams. Missed the bus, bus went wrong way, didnt have the fare so had to get off, left the bus stop to go into a shop to get change for the fare, came out and the bus stop had vanished. Got to silly in the end - dreams where I took a bicycle because the bus got lost and then the handlebars fell off and the bike fell apart. I have no idea what they were about but when I started taking steriods for the Add, they stopped dead.
EDITED: I decided in the end that they meant I was going nowhere fast!

VJsmum

Now the s0dding dishwasher has broken.

So far this last couple of months, the drains have been blocked, the central heating broke and now the dishwasher. DS has had some problems settling into Uni and now dad....

On my way dahn sarf now, to go and see dad this afternoon

Slinky

Nursemaggie, sorry to hear about the house.

The other one, why don't you try contacting them again? If they've knocked the rent down they are having problems finding somebody to go in. No landlord wants an empty house at this time of year. It costs money keeping the heating on to stop it freezing up, and the council tax also needs paying.

Maybe if you try again the letting agents will be a bit more helpful?

VJsmum

Bu88er

Dad has prostate cancer with bone secondarys. wasn't expecting that..

I realise theres only so long an 86 year old can carry on but its a bit of a shock. He doesn't know yet..

Sorry to offload here.